Does women/sex deter you away from your goals?

Rockin-Robert · 2015-04-20T06:22:24+00:00

Relationships are incredibly distracting for me. When I'm single, I have a hard time concentrating on work in my own life because I'm looking for a relationship… When I am in one, I'm so distracted that I have a hard time concentrating on my own life.

More pertinent to your question, the times that I feel most motivated are when I'm single, I have plenty of time and I am working on improving myself. Getting something going with a girl also makes me feel motivated too, though. But relationship problems distract the fuck out of me and make it hard to get anything done.

TyranosaurusLex · 2015-04-20T03:24:00+00:00

I can't say for everyone, but I feel like it can lead to complacency. Luckily as red pill initiates, we know that we must constantly be bettering ourselves and apathy/complacency to get better is failure. Keep that edge.

cmiovino · 2015-04-20T10:21:29+00:00

I find your body works like this:

When you're not ejaculating, your body knows you're not 'spreading the seed'... so it's motivating you and staying on top of it's game by promoting you to be better. Higher T levels, more muscle, more motivation, better concentration, etc...

When you ejaculate, your body assumes you are spreading your seed. It doesn't know if you're doing it to pixels on a screen, in a condom, or with a real girl. Once you do, it allows you to feel relaxed, lazy, all that because 'you accomplished procreation'.

On the issue or porn, when you're ejaculating to multiple different women online, your mind/body thinks it's for real. It's an easy way to get it to think you worked your ass off to procreate with very eligible women, when all you did was click a button. This is why porn is a problem... it's too easy. There's no improvement or skills needed. Thus in real life, you suck with girls, working out, work, everything really if you use it too much.

Basically, everything your body makes you do/feel is first for survival, then for procreation. Everything is a motivator for those two things. Once you achieve #2, you've completed both, so it's time to rest.

Luckyluke23 · 2015-04-20T04:30:10+00:00

I'm the opposite... i use my calmness to get shit done

GC0W30 · 2015-04-20T12:31:57+00:00

All day long. Most productive I have ever been is when single.

Second most productive period was when I had a boring chick from a good family living with me. Didn't like her that much, but she made dinner and never refused my cock.

If she had been a 7 instead of a 2....... still be with her.

Instead, I cheated on her with an 'interesting' girl from a bad family. After that, I lost all self-control. My life fell apart in 10 different ways as the new bitch became the center of my world.

summerswag · 2015-04-21T09:47:16+00:00

Depends on what your goals are, if your goal is having as much sex with women as you can, it doesn't, probably. If you're looking to make the best out of yourself, for yourself, it might. I've found the situation you described to be true for me.

beware_the_syllogism · 2015-04-20T13:13:31+00:00

You only have 24 hours in a day so it would make sense that spending time on a takes away from b.

Spending time with girls/sex can create hormonal changes that explain your laziness.

Relationships can be a source of inspiration and energy or a complete drain of time and resources.

Ask the guys who are divorce raped if spending time with women/sex derailed their plans.

The important thing is are you becoming what you want/need to be or are women/anything else deterring you?

electricbleau · 2015-04-20T08:08:54+00:00

peep /r/nofap or study the yogic/taoist concept of abstaining from ejaculation. There is an extensive history of celibates becoming intensely powerful. It takes physical nutrients to make sperm. Guys really hate hearing this and I'm challenged all the time, but I'll keep mentioning it for the 1% of people who give a fuck. I think the vast majority of weakness in men is due to them blowing their power out of their dicks constantly...just stop for 2 weeks while lifting and see what happens.

Oh_FuFu · 2015-04-20T05:35:55+00:00

you T levels go lower after sex plus your body is doing a lot of work behind the scenes of the sexy explosions.

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Date	April 20, 2015 3:07 AM UTC (11 years ago)
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