Venting (skip to bottom to avoid text wall)

The brother is okay, just kind of irritating. He's a sore loser, and he will try to challenge people about a topic he knows nothing about and will keep insisting the other person is wrong until someone whips out Google on him. Other than that he's a nice dude, he's 19.

The father is probably my favorite, he's usually a nice guy but my only problem with him is that he has low T and is on medication so sometimes he can be a complete asshole.

The mother is a grade A bitch. She always insists on completely random and trivial things being done 100% her way, and when they're inevitably not done exactly her way (and that's basically all the time because the mom never gives every last detail as to how she wants something done) she explodes. An example of this is once my girlfriend had made the parent's bed and the mom stormed downstairs and started screaming at the top of her lungs at my girlfriend because she didn't put the pillow cases on the pillows (she just left them clean and folded on the bed). The mother yelled for like 15 minutes.

To tie into that story, another reason I hate the guts of this fucking mother is that she's a lazy fatass. She makes up weird and severe diseases (like she used to say she had fibromyalgia for a while) so that she can 1) justify being a mega bitch and 2) justify not doing any of the housework. She works an office job for basically no hours, like 9-3 or something (doesn't even require a degree I guess, she was a cosmetologist or something before this) and then voluntarily teaches at a dance school from like.. 6-10 a few days a week. You would think someone in severe crippling pain who can't even do the laundry or go grocery shopping wouldn't be physically able to teach a dance class, but this woman is just someone who wants to have her cake and eat it too.

Finally, the mother is rude. There are two parts to her rudeness, airing her dirty laundry in public (by screaming at my girlfriend or other family members in public/in front of guests e.g. this pillow case thing happened right while I was sitting next to my girlfriend on the couch) and a complete lack of brain to mouth filter.

Once the mother asked me how I have friends since I'm homeschooled. She was perfectly aware that 1) I went to the local public high school for two years and 2) that I'm not "home schooled" in the sense that my mom teaches me but that I went to university full time at 15 (in fact, that's how I met her daughter). She kept insisting that she didn't understand how I could have friends (okayy?), questioning my parent's judgement for allowing me to do this, and she said she was glad I wasn't her kid because she'd never let her kids do that. Not to mention I was in the car with my girlfriend and her two siblings.

WTF?

Okay, and now the sister. My girlfriend has a twin sister, who is really one of the most irritating people I've ever met. I hate the mother the most, but this sister is a close second because she's a mini version of the mom.

Whenever the mom is yelling at my girlfriend about something stupid (example, the mom is pissed about how much time my girlfriend spends with me and screams about how "she's never home" and "is slacking on her responsibilities") the sister feels the need to jump in and start yelling at my girlfriend on behalf of the mom. Bitch, you're not involved in this. You have no authority. What the fuck.

She's also a huge drama queen and starts shit between my girlfriend and the mom. Once for their 21st birthday the sister said "Let's go to X club". My girlfriend didn't want to go, I didn't want to go, but the sister would have none of it. So whatever, the 3 siblings + sister's boyfriend+ me + this cunt friend that I hate + my/my girlfriend's friend all piled into some cars and go to this club. Everyone is under 21 except for 3 people (my girlfriend, the sister, and the sister's boyfriend), and this is one of those 18+/21+ places where the building is shared by both age groups but alcohol sales and drinking are restricted to one part of the building. So as soon as we got there, the sister and her boyfriend run off into the alcohol section and my girlfriend, friend, and I are just like "Ooookayyy..". Plus it was this weirdo rave with all of these weird people (the kinds of weirdo goth/emo/scene kids that are just not.. All the way there) that none of us were really fond of. None of us really like electronic music either. The bitch friend I hate went off to go dance, the brother sat down and started playing his 3DS, sister and bf are still in the drinking section, and the three of us are just standing here like "What. The fuck.". So we go sit down and eat some food and talk, and the sister's boyfriend then comes to find us and says "Oh, Sister is really upset that Girlfriend isn't spending any time with her on her birthday". And my girlfriend said "Well Sister can come down here where literally everyone else is.." but no, the sister wanted to stay in the drinking section and pay $7 per cup of PBR like an idiot. So whatever, my girlfriend went to have one drink with the sister. When my girlfriend wants to go back to me the sister starts bitching about how it's THEIR birthday and THEY should spend time together, but my girlfriend was like "Okay but I want to spend time with MY SO on MY birthday too". And thennn.. I forget the rest of what happened, but this bitch friend came up to us at some point and was like "WTF you're both the worst people ever. You're ruining the sister's birthday, hope you're happy." and stormed off. At some point we decided enough was enough, this place sucked, it wasn't cool that my girlfriend couldn't spend time with her two guests (and it would also be very rude of her to just hang out in the drinking section and ditch the two people she invited all night) so we all decided that we wanted to leave. We told that to the sister, and went off the leave but she stormed out of this building after us and started screaming at the top of the lungs about how we ruined her birthday, and what the fuck, and couldn't see why my girlfriend was pissed that the sister picked this place where she basically couldn't spend time with her guests, and.. I don't even know what was said anymore. But the sister was being a huge drama queen cunt, and first my girlfriend was angry at her but then she started crying because this was such a shitty birthday, so I had to step in and tell the sister to basically shut the fuck up and that a lot of people weren't having fun at this place (really only her, the boyfriend, and their weirdo friend were having fun.. Everyone else was bored) so why don't we all go do something else like go out to dinner (it was early enough to do that) so we could all be together.

She said okay, wanted to wait another hour to dance at this shitty place, left late, made a pit stop at this bitch friend's house to get her pajamas (which was COMPLETELY unnecessary because this house is in the complete opposite direction of where the restaurant was and the parent's were already asleep so it doesn't matter what time she went... Although she somehow tried to spin that into a reason why it did matter that she went home right away, whatever), and they were three hours late and then were pissed when we left 15 minutes after they came (we had already eaten, drank, I had to get up early the next morning, and I wanted to give the finger to this idiot sister and friend for ruining my girlfriend's birthday, my night, the night of my friend, and causing all this bullshit drama).

But of course the sister couldn't leave this alone. So two days later when my girlfriend and I are at an extended family BBQ (their family) the sister is fine for two hours, and then gets quieter and quieter, disappears somewhere, the mom comes to get the boyfriend and says "Sister is really upset, you better go talk to her" (and he's like "Okayy.." because the mother made it sounds like it was the boyfriend's fault), makes HIM come get us, and it turns out that she's been bawling her eyes out like a fucking child for the past hour since she disappeared. Still about this stupid birthday thing. Which I thought we had already established was mostly her fault because she's the one who insisted on planning the party and not asking for anyone else's input. She tries to go over the same stupid shit she had just said a few days ago when she made a scene outside of this club, and I just told her "No, we talked about this already. Get over it." and my girlfriend and I went back to sit down.

But ohhhhh no, nobody can leave this alone. So now the mom comes storming to the table and is like "GIRLFRIEND, I NEED TO TALK TO YOU. NOW.", takes her ~30-40 feet away from where literally the whole family is sitting (cousins, aunts, uncles, grandparents, everyone) and starts fucking screaming at the top of her lungs at my girlfriend about this same stupid birthday shit. Because her 21 year old sister can't even hash out her stupid problems with her sister by herself, she needs to get everyone else involved.

Holy shit this went on for like 45 minutes, I felt bad for my girlfriend, and I was enraged with the mom and the sister. Finally when this shit was over and my girlfriend came back to sit down I announced that we were leaving, I don't need to deal with this shit.

And that's just one story about the absolutely retarded problems this sister makes out of nothing.

Finally this bitch friend. She's... I dunno, she used to be a really good friend of mine. She's the one who introduced me to my girlfriend in the first place. But at some point, I'm not sure what happened, but she just decided that she hated me. So she stole my college textbooks from me (we had the same classes, she was too poor to buy the books, so I said I would photocopy pages for her but instead she just took them out of my backpack and refused to give them back) and I had to call campus police on her because no way was I letting this dumb bitch steal ~$300 worth of textbooks from me.

Now she's a thorn in my side who's constantly trying to whisper bad things about me into the ear of my girlfriend and the sister. It doesn't work on my girlfriend, because she knows me well enough to know this stuff is outrageous (she also tells me everything this friend says about me, and always tells the friend to shut the fuck up whenever she starts on about me.. So I trust her), but it certainly works on the sister and makes handling my girlfriend's family life that much more difficult.

Unfortunately my girlfriend can't really "drop" this friend because of her stupid fucking family... This is the friend of the sister, not my girlfriend. But they've all been friends since grade school. When this whole drama between the bitch friend, me, and my girlfriend started my girlfriend was like "Okay fuck her, she's a shitty person and I'm not going to be friends with her anymore", but the sister cried to the mother who screamed at her for 2 hours about how she CAN'T drop this friend that she's been close to over me.

Which.. Sounds... Stupid, but my girlfriend can't do a lot about it when she's living at their house, and she kind of but not really has a car (it's shared between her and the sister, but the mom plays favorites so anything the sister wants the car for gets priority over what my girlfriend wants), and doesn't really have a lot of friends besides this chick and the other friend from the birthday story who lives an hour away.

Advice

Normally all of this isn't a problem because when I'm around she's living with me and we spend little time with her family and absolutely no time with this cunt friend. But right now I'm away, she has to live with her parents, and her Facebook feed is covered with pictures and statuses about her stupid fucking family or this stupid fucking friend. It makes me so angry and irritated every time I remember that this people exist, and I really hate that they're involved with my girlfriend's life because they're.. Just... Crazy. They're all crazy, especially this sister, the mom, and this bitch friend.

So what do I do about this anger I feel? I don't tell my girlfriend about it because I figured that was a bad idea, but does anyone have any advice about how I can not be so angry every time I see these people's names come up on Facebook?