Removing the 21 years of beta male reputation?

alreadyredschool · 2014-06-26T22:08:59+00:00

Just ignore it, when someone mentions it, agree and amplify.

Some dude: ""Hey porn addict, sup?"

You: "Not much, wanking it off ya know."

And just be an alpha, time should do the rest.

Btw nice quote about the tree.

masterrod · 2014-06-26T21:56:50+00:00

Your reputation will change with works, and achievements. Even still your home town is just a home town, you don't need to live there.

You're only 22 surely not 21 years of beta. Failure wake up to the success that we deserve.

kick6 · 2014-06-26T22:15:56+00:00

You do what you have to do. You don't owe it to anyone to continue being the same person they think you are if it's not advantageous to you. YES, they will try to "put you back in your place" because people don't like change, but once again...you don't owe them a stoic version of yourself.

[deleted] · 2014-06-26T23:15:40+00:00

That's a great quote

Geocan001 · 2014-06-27T00:37:45+00:00

I once heard a quote stating that when a young tree gets cut, that scar is a significant portion of that trees identity. As the tree grows older, and bigger, the scar is the same size, but in proportion to this larger and wiser tree, it is insignificant and is no longer a big pat of the trees life.

I can see a lot of comments about this quote. You'll be surprised how small that scar seems after you set up your frame and maintain it for a little while.

redbluepilling · 2014-06-27T09:02:53+00:00

The world doesn't owe you anything. When you say you don't get the respect you now deserve (and making a post about it), you're seeking their respect. There are different levels of motivation, and this is a base form of it. Wanting to show off how great and different you are now is good for a spark, but will become toxic. Transition away from that and solidify in your mind why you're making positive changes for yourself. Stop caring about their opinions because you should have a lot bigger fish to fry.

You say it's 'no longer part of your life', but don't be one of those people that claims these things with words to convince oneself. Like your quote said, it's still a part of you, just as part of your history to learn from (and to use as a launching pad). You can choose to bounce off that bottom and live a better, more fulfilling, and more self-aware life than the masses that drone on in their mundane comfort. Unlike them, you may have a bonfire set under your ass.

Finally...move out of your small town. While you can logically know how large the world is, you don't truly understand it until you live it. Your mentality / world view / outlook is altered at the core. Make a major change. Research your fears away. Make it a reality. I'm assuming you haven't done much traveling and/or think it's impossible to do. Move somewhere with low cost of living. Learn how to make a fresh start. You get to enjoy life more along the way, but also gain life skills. Make many fresh starts. You're young. Now is the time to boldly take calculated risk. I say calculated as you want to control the worst case scenario. But, keep in mind, you have the rest of your life to fix your mistakes and rebuild, and it's not wasted experience. Most people are afraid to fail and never develop the mentality or skills necessary that can be gained to find fulfillment/success/happiness. So, you physically remove these people from your life. They're the past. You have the freedom to present yourself as you wish and live as you wish. Then, you no longer value the opinion of the trapped people in that little town. ^{Personal note: I'm from a little town myself. I'm in it right now actually. But, I've traveled. The people you meet along the way can really help you grow. I have too many friends around the world now that are still out living cheaply, and I contrast that with everyone around me now. I've decided to leave once more for a life of trying times+dedication, complimented by blue ocean, sun, and sand. I'm not wealthy, in fact, quite the opposite now. But I know it can be done, it's just a matter of having the balls and the increasing wisdom to do it.}

You talk as if you've got things sorted; but, while introspecting, you'd be best served being humble with yourself.

dousche · 2014-06-27T13:33:28+00:00

Well, trees don't have identity crises. They just grow if the setting allows it. Just keep evolving as an alpha, and don't let the talk and people bringing up old shit get to you. You will shed that shit in a couple of months.

joe_bruised_ego · 2014-06-27T18:43:23+00:00

Lol, from your post I thought you must be at least be in your mid 30s. Lots of beta male shaming at daycare?

A big part is to stop feeling sorry for yourself- like the melodramatic “21 years” in the title.

Zaorish9 · 2014-06-26T21:49:12+00:00

Move to a city.

Part of being an alpha is living in a city. I'm no TRP expert, but it seems that small towns are dominated by natural alphas only.

In a city people are constantly coming and going; therefore your reputation gets a lot more second chances. You can create a new persona with each new friend/girlfriend if you want to. Moreover in a city it's much easier to get exervise, and there's much more girls to choose from, and its just plain more fun too.

Don't skimp on it either. Go to a big and famous city. You will feel better just knowing that you live in a happening place. My recommendations are boston, (lots of college/gradschool nerdy type girls and also hedge funds/consulting), new york city (most people), san francisco (great business network).

kingofpoplives · 2014-06-27T13:57:06+00:00

How can I shake this off?

You can't. At least not quickly. Once people have an impression of you it is very hard to change. It will only happen through continuously proving your new frame of mind. But they will still have that image in their minds of the old beta you.

You will never be perceived with the same degree of alpha by people who were first exposed the pathetic beta version of you as you will be by new people who've only seen the alpha.

Is time the answer?

Yes. Or a fresh start some place else.

Title	Removing the 21 years of beta male reputation?
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Date	June 26, 2014 9:39 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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