Went on a date..talked once since.

AfterC · 2014-04-14T18:35:40+00:00

She ain't down pimp.

Generally, you have a one month window to start pulling a girl before she subconsciously discredits you for being a pussy.

dickie_smalls · 2014-04-14T19:19:50+00:00

on to the next one

Fucty_Artsy · 2014-04-14T19:11:23+00:00

1) You've waited way too long to ask her out
2) Looks like you have to work on your self esteem. Your text does not make the impression as if you were leading and if you had control in all situations. Be more bold and don't look out for her reaction. If you make a move make it obvious so she can reject you. Be OI if she does. Your text soothes from insecurities. Stop that and build your own reality.
3) Stop doing self destructing habits like smoking (pot). Value yourself and your body.
4) Don't text her again unless she texts you first. This is wimpy and shows to her you only want a reaction or validation.
5) Try to get a larger social circle so you don't have to get your validation from a girl. Having success with other things helps as well.
6) Seems like she's a lost case. Go on and find other girls.

This all may sound harsh to you but that's reality. Work on yourself, become better and all these things will come naturally.

cocainesmoothie · 2014-04-14T18:35:00+00:00

Didn't build enough attraction.

Move on. She's not attracted to you otherwise she would've already made some bullshit excuse to talk to you.

drrtyfrrnr · 2014-04-14T20:28:34+00:00

You didn't escalate. When you put your arm around a woman the first time, it's very unlikely that she'll say "aah" and snuggle in like you're a long-time couple.

Next time, once you see that she has no problem with you touching her, kiss her. See DiCarlo's escalation ladder, it'll help you tremendously.

[deleted] · 2014-04-15T11:32:13+00:00

Have you been reading red pill???

2 months of friends? Dates and you haven't fucked yet. NEXT this one it's a lost cause.

Remember.

You're dope as fuck.
This girl is lucky to be spending time with you.
If she doesn't talk to you.. meh, plenty more.

vandaalen · 2014-04-14T19:52:12+00:00

Stop smoking. Never date a smoking woman. Who paid for the food? Why the static date? On to the next one.

newpopehere1 · 2014-04-15T07:08:46+00:00

Move on dont become her orbiter

redbluepilling · 2014-04-15T09:45:04+00:00

We were both looking for a friend at first, with something possible in the future.

There's just so much wrong with this right here. What is with this vaginal thought process? This is something girls say to lock down their orbiters / providers and test potential guys to see if they'll get pigeonholed like you did. She clearly is looking. And you were too. If you asked her out finally now, you clearly wanted to fuck her from the start. You really need to understand yourself as a man and separate what society has told you to think from what your actual instincts are. That's RP 101.

You're asking for pickup advice when your RP understanding is significantly lacking implementation. The idea is, once you start being honest with how society is and how you are, your actions will be guided by that. We can't hyper analyze everything for you, you've got to unlock the big picture.

Anyway, you fucked this one up. Now, learn why. Look at the small stuff (failure to escalate) but then also look at the big stuff: How did your failure to escalate make her think of you regarding her vagina tingles? Also, how did your failure to quickly ~~get a 'date'~~ turn things sexual affect those tingles? Yes, these questions hurt to answer, but do it. Own it. Practice it. And you'll stop fucking up in the future. (Also, you may wish to abandon the concept of 'date' so that when you start off friendly, you can quickly turn things sexual in line with your honest intention. 'Date' is far too formal. You do not need dinner and a show to escalate to sex. Just spend some time with each other and take it from there.)

I feel like I'm being a bit too brutal, but hell, I needed brutal advice when I first came her. You're getting it extra rough because I feel you fail to meet the RP minimum requirements of understanding. Read more. You have to develop the capacity to self-analyze. You should be coming to these pretty basic conclusions yourself as you absorb more and more and reflect on past experience.

Kwizkey · 2014-04-15T10:55:44+00:00

She does not view you sexually at all. You waited too long, acted as her friend and then tried to crawl into her pants.

You have got to be decisive and unbreakably confident with your intentions.

To me (and evidently to her) you were just another feeble dude who wanted her and so went out his way to spend time with her and eventually try to nudge her into something more.

It never works. With the next girl you meet. Make your intentions boldly clear from the beginning, but only do so with a assured frame, as if you know you're already going to fuck her.

Honestly girls don't like it when boys try this friends first thing. It's often a clear indicator that the dude is too pussy to be up front about what he really wants, which we all know is sex.

Also don't text her. Let her text you. If she really wants you, you will receive a text/call. Texting her as though she is always on your mind (especially when you barely know her) is the same as putting a sign on your head saying "desperate for sex and female attention over here".

Title	Went on a date..talked once since.
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Date	April 14, 2014 6:24 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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