Last weekend I surprised wife with weekend getaway type of vacation about 1.5 hours away. Planned most of it. I do not like having too many plans, as this was my vacation and I want to relax.

I told her two things : have a nice dress to go with my sport coat for one of the nights, and have workout clothes if you want to spend two mornings with me this weekend.

I had been working nearly three weeks straight without weekends and I wanted a getaway vacation.

Got a nice B&B with a 4 star in house restaurant.

She packed the basics for both of us and I packed what I wanted for myself. This arrangement works for me.

We get there, no shit tests about parking, nothing about "where are we having dinner, I can't have X "

All in all it was a fairly nice weekend. Went out to dinner, did couples yoga ( I may actually have to try this at home), she wore thongs for the first time in 4 years without me asking. Had a major comfort test Friday evening, followed by some of the best, "dirtiest" events I have ever experienced in our relationship. Same deal minus the testing Saturday.

No asking me if pets are OK without us, nothing about anxiety, just fun.

Went out bar hopping in college town. For those of you confused about options : I am mid thirties, short as fuck, and there were enough options to last quite a while. Flirted/chatted with a few girls, chatted with the wife about "kids these days!!".. ( she is 28), and so on.

How do I know about girls who are down to "date" an older man? Look at Vasilliy's recent posts.

Bottom line, if you do things truly for yourself, people are then TRULY FREE to join you.

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