"Did you ever ask if I came?" These words from my wife made me see things clearer than ever before.

My wife and I were arguing about why we don't have more sex. She was complaining that I cum too soon and she is left unsatisfied.

"But babe, last month we had sex almost every day, sometimes twice a day when I lasted for an hour." I reminded her.

"Did you ever ask if I came? Do you even care if I am satisfied. You only care about your satisfaction."

Not for a second I felt offended or defensive about her comment. The truth of it hit my soul and my brain could not argue with that.

I realized that I had been doing things to satisfy her so I would be satisfied. I thought I was pleasing her but in reality all I cared was about my pleasure. Otherwise why I never ever asked her if she enjoyed the sex. I just assumed she did.

I am not sure what to do next? I want to see things from her point of view. Not only during sex but all the time. I want to care for her needs the way she cares for mine. I want to love her the way she loves me.