Tl;dr - if your woman has genuinely improved, provide genuine praise and make her feel appreciated. Reap the benefits.

By now everyone on here should know that you do not reward a woman's shitty behavior. You do not act like a supplicating bitch buying gifts and doing chores in response to a series of hard No's. We should also know that you do not simply reward women just for being women. Bringing home flowers everyday and telling her how great her tits look does not generate tingles. However, if your woman makes an effort and attains tangible, improved results, then praise her improvements.

If you read any survey of employee dissatisfaction, a chief complaint you hear over and over agin, and with more emphasis than the long hours or the pay, is that workers hate it when they feel like they aren't appreciated. We can debate the reasons they aren't appreciated all day, but it doesn't fucking matter, because whether they are unappreciated because they suck or because their bosses suck, the point is that that's how they FEEL. Want to keep them happy, motivated and dare I say emotionally invested in the success of the endeavor? Let them know their contributions matter, and that their efforts are truly appreciated (IF, and only IF, they truly are valuable contributors).

Our domestic captain/first mate dynamic is no different. Experessing appreciation for exemplary work is appropriate. Similarly, if your first mate has noticed your example, and taken it upon herself to improve herself, praise is in order. And done properly, will pay dividends.

In my case, I had devolved to a beer-bellied bellicose beta bitch over the last few years. My wife followed my example to a fucking "T", herself becoming overweight and evolving more and more into a raging bitch with each passing month. Well, since swallowing the pill about 8 months ago, she's seen me religiously get up early to hit the gym. She notices how jacked I'm looking in my good-fitting shirts. She sees how women interact with me in public and, gentlemen, she's pregnant - pregnant with the idea that I could have a different pussy in her bed with minimal difficulty at this point if I wanted. She's also seen my change in attitude over the months, and through this dedication she understands that my improving is not a phase. It is real. It will continue. I will keep getting better.

Once it clicked in her head that it was real, she started following. She took it upon herself to join a gym and got personal training sessions (good idea since she would know what the fuck to do in one other than an elliptical machine without a trainer). She now dresses hotter when we go out in public. I don't get hard no's anymore - sex is 4 times a week or more and the quality ranges from good to amazing. Shit testing is very rare and is flirty rather than nasty. Comfort tests have been on a slight rise. She has initiated anal 4 times since my initial FR on the subject.

I praise her efforts at the gym. Her ass is looking much better and I compliment her on that, because I know she's literally busting her ass at the gym doing squats and stuff to get her legs and ass in gear. The compliment is genuine, and she knows it.

Which brings me to this. It was our anniversary recently so I went to the store to get a card and write something thoughtful. First, 99% of the cards had the most revolting BP bullshit I've ever seen. Stuff like "I could never live without you" that damn near had me vomiting in the aisle. So I got a funny one (actually kind of RP too) with plenty of room inside for me to write my own piece. (The card itself said on the front: "I got you the best gift ever this anniversary" Inside: "Me!")

Then I wrote this on the inside:

  • I'm proud of the life we're making
  • I'm proud of the family we've created
  • I'm proud of how we've handled the few bad times that have arisen. Weaker people and couples would not have survived so heartily, and would have had more bad times of their own making (bad times being a miscarriage, and death of a family member)
  • I'm proud of how we're raising our child
  • Most of all, I'm proud that we're carrying on a torrid love affair after 17 years together.

I gave her the card the night before the anniversary, after we had already basically polished off a bottle of champagne. After reading, she looks at me, and says in a soft voice "Jesus Rex, your making me cry". She then gets up, comes to me and gives me a longer version of the 10 second kiss. I give her another gift - coupons for free "total body pleasure sessions" at the coconut spa. She laughs, we polish off the champagne, and head upstairs. Turn lights all off, I get on top, and she pulls my head in to kiss me and doesn't stop, except to moan, for the whole experience. She lifts her legs as I bang her missionary so I can pound her as deep as possible. She cums twice and soaks the damn sheets. I finish, we kiss for a bit, the eventually roll over to go to sleep. Not 2 minutes later, she rolls over on me and says "I want you to fuck me again." So she gets on all fours and I give her round two.

The takeaway:

Never reward or praise shitty behavior, or just for having a pussy. But if she goes above and beyond, geuine praise is due. If she's really working hard and improving all aspects of herself - make her truly FEEL appreciated. Score a direct hit on the feelz like i did, and the reverberations will vibrate that pussy like you wouldn't believe. You don't have to wait for an anniversary either. Like /u/thefamilyaplha keeps saying - keep her on her toes. Drop this kind of thing on her after a little wine on a random Friday and watch her heart melt while her pussy trembles. Note: be smart do not overuse this. This is a once in a while thing as part of your repertoire to keep her on her toes. Do it too much, and you might as well pay a lawyer to draft that covert contract for you.

Good luck and as always YMMV. Note2: pardon the formatting - mobile