[Advice Needed] - I'm losing attraction to my wife and I'm not sure how I should handle it

Redneck001 · 2015-07-29T13:11:41+00:00

Leadership failure, simple as that. Keep working your ass off at the gym and the other aspects of your life. The wife will have to get her ass in gear to keep up. Our she won't.

But slow your roll. Lead by example.

You ain't a silverback yet.

BluepillProfessor · 2015-07-29T15:02:32+00:00

there is just one side effect - my wife is becoming less attractive to me.

You are taking her off the pussy pedestal and no longer worshiping your divine princess so how could it be otherwise?

This is a very common and normal phase.

She has always responded enthusiastic to my advances and had no problem initiating sex herself.

This is not a woman who needs Dread Game and certainly not active Dread (levels 6-12). Stick with self improvement and eventually she will realize that she needs to get to work if she wants to keep you.

Now it's getting problematic. I'm not as horny for her as I used to be, I'm having issues initiating and I'm not responding too well to her advances.

Failing to respond to her advances and even failing to initiate is a gigantic display of low value. Do it enough and the tables will be turned.

Finally, what does "respect" for your woman have to do with a man's sexual desire? Treat her like a teenager. Take the lead and take her by the hand and take her to the gym if that is what you want her to do.

spexer · 2015-07-29T15:40:30+00:00

Same happened to me. Part of it I figured was that AWALT and mine was not a special snowflake.

But I got tested and I do have Low-T. So get checked!

fasterpussycatdie · 2015-07-29T15:19:24+00:00

Lots of great advice in this thread.

BluepillProfessor · 2015-07-29T11:38:01+00:00

Your respect for her is going down? How long have you been her weaksauce betabitch?

You have been taking charge for a month and now have your big boy pants on?

I've brought up the possibility for Low-T to her to give me some room to figure this out,

This was an opportunity to confront the issue and you were afraid of the confrontation.

You need to recognize that your wife reflects you. Her subpar performance is the result of your lack of leadership, I'd say you instill some better habits in yourself and judge this over a longer period of time.

I'm looking at this small snapshot, but you need to be in shape, well read, and tactful with your transition. You don't just say fuck it, I'm TRP educated and an Alpha now, because that's not the case.

Your wife needs you to lead her to self improvement, not have you going for tests or hiding from her.

Archwinger · 2015-07-29T11:44:17+00:00

If your wife is sucking in any way besides with your dick in her mouth, it's because you're not inspiring her to excel.

Like your wife, I don't respect you either. If you'd shown up here and said you're making good personal progress, but you have a lot of work to do before your wife and marriage follow suit, I'd high five you. But you're here declaring that after about five minutes at the gym, you've outgrown your wife.

dandar4600 · 2015-07-29T12:44:11+00:00

You're losing weight. Is she? That could be your answer.

RedPillJax · 2015-07-29T11:45:00+00:00

I've heard it said here that this is a pretty typical reaction phase for a guy going through MRP.

It could be the SMV gap between your self-improvement beginning to show and hers lagging due to your previous poor leadership. It could also be that you're having some buyers remorse after having your eyes opened to all the women you 'could' have if you were suddenly single. I know this happened to me.

Don't be too quick to lump your wife into the category of a low-value woman. You created the situation, you can dig it out of the hole you put it in. Keep lifting and leading by example, and one of two things will happen - either she'll come around and become attractive to you again, or you will be in a better position to end things should it really be that bad down the road.

Either way, stay the course.

0kool74 · 2015-07-29T15:53:07+00:00

When you put on the brakes in the car, everything around you changes. When you make a comment at work or in social gatherings change. In other words, change inspires change.

You are changing you....you've taken off the blinders. And, in so doing, the change around you is you see your wife for what she is when you couldn't see that before.....because you were a weak ass beta.

And now it's time for you to change her. She either acts like a wife should and treats you like a wife should, or you get rid of her ass. This is your new day, your new way of life, and she can either get on board or she can get left. But remember this.....you HAVE to keep this up. Slip back into your blue pill beta bitch ways and it's all for nothing.

Title	[Advice Needed] - I'm losing attraction to my wife and I'm not sure how I should handle it
Author	N_the_U
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Comments	17
Date	July 29, 2015 11:22 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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