Over the last few weeks, I have started ignoring my wife's constant "WHY WHY WHY WHY" shit tests. She will question literally ANYTHING I do, even the most mundane things like throwing out an old pair of shoes or mowing the lawn a certain way.

I have learned, through experience, that no matter how I answer these questions, it will only lead to more questions and criticism.

A couple weeks ago, I told her in no uncertain terms "You question me too much. If you truly believe in me as the leader of this family, just trust that I have your best interests in mind in all that I do. Simple as that".

Did she stop questioning? Oh, hell no. But I stopped answering. Now my reply is usually silence, or if she persists, then "I refuse to justify or explain myself. I'm a grown man".

She has slowed down a lot on it. Sometimes I'll know she's standing behind me, about to question YET AGAIN why I put my cup on the left rather than the right side of the sink, but the question doesn't come. She's figuring out that I really mean it- I'm not going to justify myself.

As a result of this one small change, our relationship has been going in a better direction lately. Sex has been about the same frequency (3 or so times a week), but much better and more enthusiastic. She has had more good things to say about me this week, and admitted being jealous of how other women look at me.

So... success!