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LTR left without notice

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July 9, 2018
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So like 6 weeks ago I was sneak peaking a bit on tinder, nothing happend more than that my ltr saw my profile on her "friends" phone.

After that she has been a bit bitchy, reasonably. Yesterday we had a minor argument (outside), I ignored her and she left, when I come home she's gone. Havent talked to her or written anything, should I continue like that?

Also, if we continue, any advce on how to handle the first problem? I have been more nice with her and she's noticed, but is still grumpy often. Have talked and tried to comfort, perhaps not enough...

(Im 26, she's 24, 5 year ltr, been on rp for some months now, read sidebar, reading nmmng, lifting 1,5 years and starting to get some decent size, ~15% bf at 80kg 177cm)


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Title LTR left without notice
Author throwawaay0891741
Upvotes 6
Comments 30
Date 09 July 2018 08:35 PM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit askMRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/204231
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/8xfx0c/ltr_left_without_notice/
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[–]ChokingDownRPRed Beret19 points20 points  (0 children) | Copy

Maybe swipe right on her newly created Tinder profile before Chad does?

Is she someone you want to be with? If so, you might need to speak to her instead of being such a fucking 'sperg. Own what you did with Tinder instead of making excuses, etc

[–]SteelToeShitKickerRed Beret8 points9 points  (1 child) | Copy

nothing happend more than that my ltr saw my profile on her "friends" phone.

Quotes around "friends" implies you don't believe her. That perhaps she saw it because she was on tinder. If that's true, why are you worried?

[–]officerkondo11 points12 points  (0 children) | Copy

She made her decision to leave six weeks ago. But hey, at least you have a Tinder profile ready to go.

[–]screechhaterRed Beret7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

No one gives a fuck.

Basic, basic premise of MRP.

Do you actually give a fuck, deep down ?

Most likely not, so why are you waffling on wanting strange/new to keep from stepping on her feelings ?

[–]abudun7910 points11 points  (2 children) | Copy

She found out that you set everything up to cheat on her. If you eventually would have done that is not relevant. Any claim that you were just sneak peaking, what ever that means to you, is irrelevant. You checked opporunities to cheat on her. That is what you unwillingly signaled to her and she would be stupid to believe anything else.

As long as there's no proof her story "saw my profile on her "friends" phone." is made up and she's been on Tinder, too, you do better to believe it was like that, if you have any interest in rescuing that LTR.

If you want to save that LTR, you've got to admit what you've done and build trust again. IDGAF and abundance mentality are absolutly the wrong tools for that job. You took yourself out of the position to act like the usual RP guy here. You're not recovering from being a unsexy beta looser, you're trying to recover from the amage you did to you LTR. Trying to be completely outcome independant and acting like you stand above all of that, is like hitting your bosses car in the parking lot and then shitting on his desk for revenge.

[–]RedPillCoach3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy

You're not recovering from being a unsexy beta looser, you're trying to recover from the amage you did to you LTR.

A lot of Red Pill guys, most new guys, and all Blue Pill creatures seem unable to understand this simple concept. Different situations require different strategies.

For example, MRP guys tell a lifetime Beta guy in a sexless marriage who is deep in the hole to STFU. Every time we do this I think the the Blue Pills assume we are telling an Uber Alpha who never get's turned down for sex to ignore his wife and give her the silent treatement. (Of course they think this according to Red Pill doctrine because to women, only Alphas exist and the rest of the male population is invisible). However new guys also seem to always make this mistake. No dumb asses- different situations require different strategies.

[–]abudun791 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Amen.

[–]MrChad_ThundercockBig Red Machine6 points7 points  (2 children) | Copy

Not married/contract with the State?

Who gives a fuck what she wants. What do you want?

You are the Prize and your own judge.

[–]throwawaay08917410 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Nothing like that.

Yeah, thanks dude

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red14 points15 points  (0 children) | Copy

Pretty brave of you to assume /u/MrChad_Thundercock gender.

[–]bob13bob2 points3 points  (5 children) | Copy

If you want to play the field, then why stay with your ltr? How good was the relationship before the tinder fiasco? If there is a time to be free in your life, do it now.

[–]wkndatbernardus2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

So, are you going to be with her out of guilt? If you told her that, do u think she would be ok with that?

[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

you could just tell her the truth. that you love her but you've got needs one woman can never meet, and that's why you were on tinder. that you understand if she wants to leave because you aren't going to change, but you hope she doesn't cause you love your life with her

when you get caught doing something shady, don't run from it. don't excuse yourself for it. apologize for how it affects them but stand your ground if it's something you really do want. the truth is, 99% of men want both an LTR/marriage AND to spin plates--not one or the other. and if you're high enough value you can pull it off. if you think that's you, then grow some balls

[–]RedPill-BlackLotusRed Beret1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Im 26, she's 24, 5 year ltr

Next woman. Non issue.

[–]343802 points3 points  (6 children) | Copy

Maybe she was on Tinder. Maybe she wasn't. Either way, you being on Tinder was a violation of trust and a pretty shitty thing to do. I'd be pretty pissed in that situation, too. Just let her go.

[–]EveryGodDamnDay0 points1 point  (5 children) | Copy

Why is it shitty? MRP guys should never go on Tinder? Is this just moralizing or do you have a point to make about efficacy of Tinder in LTR male sexual strategy?

OP, if you want to do whatever you're doing on Tinder (spin plates, get strange, flirt, test the waters, or just validate your ego), be ready own it. Congruence counts.

[–]abudun792 points3 points  (4 children) | Copy

Why is it shitty?

because

you being on Tinder was a violation of trust

If you like that or not does not matter. If you don't want to or cannot maintain a LTR, stop giving adice to someone who wants to.

[–]RedPillCoach0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Why is it shitty

Because he got caught.

[–]EveryGodDamnDay0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

Ok, so just moralizing. Got it.

[–]abudun791 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

This is not askTRP.

[–]Two_kids_in_a_coat0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Wrong sub.

[–]Rian_StoneMod / Red Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

without knowing what the fuck you want, any advice is just asking what other people would do in your place.

[–]friendandadvisor0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

... she left, when I come home she's gone.

This is all that you need to know in order to make a decision.

[–]CalvinRichland0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

You dont give a fuck about her why should we?

[–]Bedtimeshine-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Be a grown man... get off tinder. I wouldn’t be able to take another adult serious enough to give my commitment to them if they were EVER on tinder... let alone while they are with me. Tinder, instagram, Snapchat, etc... its all for clown ass little kids. Live a real life.



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