5'7 170, 225 bench, 325 squat, visible abs, read all the books, understand the theory, yadda yadda. I started off this relationship pretty standard RP. Had plates, promoted one to LTR 13 months ago. First 8 or so were great, she ate out of my palms. Then I let it happen: oneitis, betaization, the whole 9. I miss workouts, lost friends, job suffered. She stopped referring to herself as first mate, now we're teammates. Dread is there, she hates how other women look at me, haven't been rejected for sex ever, but the enthusiasm isn't there and she's no longer wet every time I pull those panties down. She's still crazy about me, but I know that I'm giving up power in the relationship. I just need a kick in the ass to get out of this fucked up mindset.

I don't wanna just move on. Net positive to my life, sex multiple times a day, Good girl, etc. etc.

How do I snap out of it? I've tried everything short of sleeping with some bar slut, but I still think about her nonstop, and I've stopped getting it done. I got comfortable. How do I unfuck my own mind that literally sees what's happening.