What to do when he vents?

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February 22, 2018

Hello, gentlemen.

I’m a RPW and I need some male advice, please.

My man is normally stoic and reserved and that’s fine with me. But lately he’s been venting to me about work on a nightly basis and I’m wondering how I should respond.

It starts the moment he walks in the door. He shares legitimate grievances regarding workplace safety and productivity. He is more animated than usual and will occasionally raise his voice. He becomes visibly annoyed. Our relationship is wonderful, we do not fight, and he is a good man. The whole thing lasts about ten minutes. When he’s spoken his piece, he’s done and back to his regular self. But this nightly venting session makes me feel like I should do something for him because of the stress it causes.

When a man opens up about a frustration to a woman, what is it that he’s looking for from her? How can I help him? What can I do to mitigate his discomfort? Do I suggest courses of action? Commiserate? Empathize? Change the subject? Listen and nod?

Thank you in advance for your time.

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Title What to do when he vents?
Author Austinisfullgohome
Upvotes 6
Comments 14
Date 22 February 2018 06:30 AM UTC (3 years ago)
Subreddit askMRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/204791
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/7zct6y/what_to_do_when_he_vents/
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[–]Alphaphux15 points16 points  (3 children) | Copy

Sounds like he needs a blow job...

[–]Austinisfullgohome[S] 4 points5 points  (2 children) | Copy

I have actually considered this but he has a physical job and he comes home very grimy. He won’t touch me until he’s had a shower—but once he does he gets/takes whatever he wants.

[–]drjamesstone5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy

"Stop. I know, probably a terrible day. Go have a shower and I'll take care of whatever is bugging you when you come out"

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

OPs man is not where he needs to be for this to be applicable to him.

This kind of action is for the 10% proven man who legit has a bad day and needs a pick me up. This is not OPs man.

Source: His WIFE is posting in askMRP.

[–]fuckmrpRed Beret8 points9 points  (1 child) | Copy

This is weakness and you should reflect it back at him as such. You sound like a kind person so maybe ignore his rant and then simply say “I’m sure you’ll figure it out”. Remind him it’s his problem to solve.

If after a time he still flails about do for him what my wife once did for me. Ask “why are you being such a pussy about this”. It will sting, but it will be the truth and not your harsh words, that cut deep enough to cause a change.

And to the other gentlemen giving advice here, since when do whiny bitches get back rubs and blow jobs?

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Its like I wondered into the blue pill forums....

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy

Tell him to read my post about having male friends. He needs to vent to them and not you.

Second, tell him to go lift.

Finally, tell him that you can either be his wife or mother, not both. Mothers listen to their kids problems, and dont fuck them in return.

Wives want their men to own their shit and get fucked in return.

[–]The_LitzRed Beret8 points9 points  (1 child) | Copy

Honestly, suggesting he find another job is a terrible idea. Guess what, sooner or later the same problems will manifest and he will feel the same frustrations he feels now.

If it was me, I'd just want someone to be on my side. To make feel I am not alone in this.

If he vents and then stops after 10 minutes it is all good, but it would be even better if he did not vent to you, rather go and lift or talk to a bud.

He has to learn ACALT. All companies are like that. How he reacts to shitty work situations is what matters.

Anyway, this is the locker room, tits or get out.

[–]tryingmyhardest882 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

This is here is the truth. Whatever happens at work, it's how you react to it that matters. Especially true if it's something that really bothers you. Other than some serious illegal activity or danger, anything else, is something we need to figure out.

[–]ReddJiveRed Beret3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Without knowing more; like what job and other details about him it's hard to say. The Red Pill advice is to NEVER talk about work especially negative things. Yet these things sound like serious issues. Safety and productivity. I will go out on a limb and make the assumption that these things are out of his control.

Usually when a man has run into an issue at work he cannot solve or overcome he's is starting to think about finding another job. OR getting a promotion. Either way change is coming.

He's not looking for you solve anything. Avoid that. He wants the support for whatever is about to come. He's coming to a decision. You know what to do. You know what your man needs.

What you are feeling is the very reason Red Pill says never talk about negative things about work. It creates this sort of tension in the relationship. If your girl game is strong you might be able to guide him towards a decision but you cannot make it overt.

[–]Captain_pants40 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

At that moment he probably needs a little empathy/mommy then submissive. You can figure it out by saying something along the lines of “I’m sorry honey. I don’t like to see you all worked up when you get home. What can I get you?” He’ll likely tell you what he needs, and if he doesn’t and the behavior continues then he just needs to get it off his chest or is looking for empathy

[–]hystericalbonding-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Empathy at the moment, then carry on as usual.

Don't let a transient rant affect the rest of the evening.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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