This might belong in MRP but as I have relatively few posts I am putting it here for newbies to absorb. This applies to guys who are new to MRP and are looking to assert their frame without going Rambo and totally shocking her. This is how to start to take back the frame that you have handed her for so many years.
Part of frame includes about basic courtesy. Start with some basics like you are sitting watching a movie and she says I'm thirsty. You say "ok", don't jump up to get her a drink. However if you are on your way to the kitchen to get yourself a drink you can offer "I'm going to get myself some water/tea/wine would you like a glass?". Also applies to her ordering you to do something, example you are walking by the sink and she is on the couch - her "get me some water" if she does this treat her like a 5 year old “Wow, did we forget the magic word?” If she responds with a polite “Please” then get it. Any sarcasm or angry answer and you treat her like a child and don’t get her anything. You can continue the condescending humour or if you don’t want WW3 just STFU and ignore the request. She will test you on this either way. This might seem so basic but if you just recently found this place there is a good chance she is not using polite language with you.
The next level is what is she doing for you besides sex? Women innately want to serve men but if you are early in this she likely is not doing much for you. Any time you can think of something you can ask her to do for you do it. Example: she is getting up to get a drink or snack – you “Hey while you are up, grab me a water/beer/apple/etc”. When she brings it you give her a nice polite “thanks” bonus points if you pinch her butt while thanking. As you get more and more advanced you can start to request small favours from her when she is not even up/getting up. Example “Get me a beer please I don’t want to miss the next pitch” Once you are here if she will comply give lots of praise/butt rubs/tickles etc. She gets rewarded by your positive attention. This is how you slowly shift the relationship to a place where you are captain and she is first mate –without blowing things up to get there quickly and giving her all sorts of ammo against you for being an asshole. She may call you can asshole for doing some of these things above but this is where you just smile and say “Thank you”.