I need a little help on something that has become a real anchor holding me back. I'm some kind of fucking sperg....

I don't know what it is, like I'm not a fucking mouth breather, I can hold up a good level of social grace, politeness and niceties etc. I just never really connect with people so after the initial chitchat I just dry up. I think I'm naturally quite introvert so in a chicken/egg circumstance I don't have the opportunity to meet new people often probably because I subconsciously engineered my life into routines like this.

I remember day bang had some helpful stuff on this type of thing so I'm going to revisit that, but would appreciate if anyone has any other recommendations, or better still can share some experience if you've worked yourself out of a similar rut.

Thanks