Here is my original post from December for background: https://www.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/5cdmt6/vpnew_convert_intro_plus_how_to_build_a_social/
Started MRP: Sep 2016
Out of action (illness): Dec 2016 - Apr. 2017
Lift x5 per week: Bench 100kg, Squat 140kg, DL 180KG (current PRs)
Stats: 5', 10", 10-12% BF, cutting to under 10% for end of June.
Sidebar: NMMNG, WISNIFG, Pook, Rational Male, Started day bang
Things were working out great; language lessons, a bit of day game, hobbies...then I got sick. I'm not going to dwell on it. It was a painful time but I'm still here. Long story short, it set me back A LOT but i've just about recovered and ready to get back on the wagon.
Anyway, I ended up here (MRP) because i was rarely getting sex from the wife. I've been through the anger phase. I can see the mistakes I made. You live and learn. The sex improved but it was a real effort to get there. I'm fine with that.
But here's the problem; Now I don't want to have sex with HER.
Before I would look at her on the sofa flicking through Facebook and wonder why she never wants to have sex with me. Now I see the same picture and find it deeply unattractive.
Don't get me wrong, I still have a lot of work to do. But I read through these posts about adding value and realise that she doesn't really add any. I handle almost everything at home. She takes the kids to school and looks after the little one in the day, then she collects them in the afternoon and gets them ready for bed in the evening. Almost everything else I handle even though most of it is a PITA to do during the work day (washing clothes, shopping, cooking - I work from home BTW). Honestly, I find it easier to do most of this stuff myself rather than have a inane five minute phone call about what we should eat for dinner. You may say this is bad leadership. Fuck it. The "what should we get for dinner" conversation is worse that putting your balls in a vice.
She still won't exercise even though I've been trying to get her to go to a gym or class since our son was born four years ago. She's not fat (she has the opposite genetics) but not in shape either and not looking any better for it.
During ovulation week she'll get frisky (after we've watched some program she is interested in and then got in bed and turned the lights off). Fuck that. I'm just not interested. I had to turn her down this evening. I couldn't even feign interest.
I'm aware i'm ranting. Let's cut it short...is this ambivalence a normal part of the process or do I have a lot more work to do?