DIRECTIONS: Which Way do I Go

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March 13, 2017

Everyone one of us Fucking New Guys (FNG) found this place while looking for a way to reach a better marriage, a better sex life or something else that validated us. We found a Map in the form of TRP/MRP with only one destination, A BETTER YOU. But we don’t see that, we think we see so many destinations like daily blow jobs, enthusiastic sex, respect ETC……… We don’t realize that those are only the attractions at the one destination.

Many stumble through the sidebar without internalizing it I want to go to Hooters, I see it on the Map and Now I know how to get there. and strike out for the destination we saw on the Map.

I did it for respect, sprinkle Alpha on it, be a bit better in a couple easy areas then got butthurt when she doesn’t respond. It took re-reading NMMNG and realizing that I was able to validate myself, that her disagreeing with me didn't negate my judgement of myself. this allowed me to reflect on my EGO, and follow the direction found in similar posts. BUT I HAD TO DO THE WORK, to not be fearful of the pain that admitting I wasn't all my EGO said I was before I could see the direction I want my life to go.

Here are the problems with not accurately reading the Map of TRP/MRP.

  • 1 You don’t know where you are going. By not internalizing the sidebar and doing the work, whether its breaking free activities or just self reflection you have no idea you want a better you instead of my marriage, my sex life.

The FNG posts about a shitty circumstance and the Vets start giving him direction. “She gave you a shit test but you are to deep in her frame to see it as such Turn left at the broken down Dodge “DO YOU EVEN LIFT BRO, it helps you validate your own strength and let aggression out instead of puking to your wife” Don’t take the second right, take the Third right, it is right after the HEAVY ASS ROCK. For most FNGs that haven’t begun to internalize it, we post back “Yeah I started telling everyone how its gonna be and she is still a bitch” I took a left at A broken down Chevy not the Dodge “I did cardio this month, and she still wont blow me, she just rolls her eyes and picks up her phone.” I turned right at a big rock, wasn’t that the one?

Until you internalize the side bar and get familiar with the area, NO DIRECTION will make sense. You read cut the EGO and have no idea what that means. You read a comment about being her OAK and think it means telling her how to fix her emotions. You read about Owning your Shit and think it means telling everyone how the new Alpha/Captain you will fix the shit that she fucked up by being bitchy. You where never actually headed in the right direction to the right destination. Eventually if you persist without wrecking your car on that sharp turn that everyone told you to slow down for “RED PILL RAMBO” then you start seeing landmarks that /u/stonepimpletilists pointed out. You see the poor leadership that /u/Thefamilyalpha told you to avoid. You slowly begin to see the one destination of a better you right there in the middle and can now see the “Shit test” broken down dodge and “STFU” HEAVY ASS ROCK. You are now able to start heading in the right direction base upon the vets and sidebar. You will still take wrong turns but you will also know you area heading in the wrong direction and correct it.

  • 2 By not knowing where you are, your posts don’t reflect the accurate information for the Vets to help direct you on getting to A BETTER YOU, which you didn’t even know you wanted to reach in the first place.

Many FNGs, Myself included, post about the SHE, HER, THEY, SEX, RESPECT, MONEY. Or in other words where you think you need to go and where you are. That helps no one help you.

When you post with where YOU are “I read NMMNG and realize I don’t feel comfortable doing anything for myself, but I don’t know a hobby that I want to do” I see the dodge you talked about but I’m across the broken bridge, how do I get there? or “I’ve been doing 5/3/1 or BBB and finally lift my own body weight, now I just need to loose fat” or “I read MAP and know the things I want for MY life and I just need help figuring out how to start a business to fulfill my purpose” all of the sudden all the vets can see exactly where you are on the Map of TRP/MRP and help guide you to A BETTER YOU. This is the purpose of OYS, you telling everyone here where you are in relation to you goals. They wont drive you there, none of us are Uber, but you will know how to get from where YOU are to WHERE A BETTER YOU is.

So the next time you lurk and read posts, or post your own event. Realize that you need to know where you want to be before asking directions. You get there from reading the sidebar, lifting and Owning Your SHIT.

Next weeks post will be DIECTIONS: How to avoid the EGO Mountain.

EDIT added some of my own pathfinding.

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Title DIRECTIONS: Which Way do I Go
Author SgtSilverBack
Upvotes 11
Comments 16
Date 13 March 2017 12:39 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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[–]BobbyPeru2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

Why did you put this in AMRP instead of MRP?

I like what you said about respect. MRP has taught me to never use that word with Mrs. Peru.

Acta Non Verba

[–]SgtSilverBack[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I wanted to direct it specifically to new MRPs (FNGs) a place where they should come for newb questions. To iron out the basics.

[–]screechhaterRed Beret1 point2 points  (5 children) | Copy

Until you internalize the side bar and get familiar with the area, NO DIRECTION will make sense.

this is the bitter truth

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (4 children) | Copy

Sometimes someone can internalize the philosophy of the sidebar, but still be staring down a particular situation or event and all the intricacies of said event can cloud your mind and you're not sure how to apply those principles (see: me for 5 months).

You just have to stick around and keep trying to apply the principles to yourself and let them change you. And let the people here beat the internet shit out of you.

[–]screechhaterRed Beret0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

"And let the people here beat the internet shit out of you."


I am going to be 49 pretty soon. Things in my life are what they are. I will say that for the first time in my life I am actually happy It's not fleeting moments, it's real. MY IDGAF attitude has helped me, but the side bar work has truly helped. The beatings have been good, too

My wife called me home for a quickie, the other day before she left for a 2 day trip. I was a little shocked, didn't show it, but pretty god dmaned happy she has started to be more receptive to my advances as of late. The whole "menopause" thing had me spinning for a few years

[–]BobbyPeru0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

And let the people here beat the internet shit out of you

I chuckled

[–]SgtSilverBack[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

The sidebar work is the mental LIFTING to match the physical LIFTING. I started with MMSLP, opened my eyes a bit. Then I read NMMNG and with the first read through it didn't click. It took some RAMBO, reflect, a little frame, reflect re-read NMMNG and AWWWW fuck, yup right there. My ego kept me from thinking that I had done any of that at first. Now all the other prereqs have clicked a bit more and should make even more sense on a second read through.

Keep it up screechhater. Hell we all no we cant be worse than we were, only better with each day.

[–]nonnimooseWoman, something something dark side0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

The whole "menopause" thing had me spinning for a few years

Which thing - worrying about what menopause would bring or actually living through your wife's menopause? Is she officially through it? (one year from last period)

I'm finding a big uptick in libido as I go through it. I'm worried it won't last.

[–]bogeyd6Mod / Red Militia0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Does beating over the head or exclusion work better as a motivator?

[–]SgtSilverBack[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Well I've got a thick ass head, so 2x4s tend to be best.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

Something brewing in my mind since starting #MenofMarch is the need for men to recognize that this doesn't have to take months or even weeks.

Just tell yourself you aren't going to take the comfortable path anymore and just fucking change.

When you catch yourself saying "I'll just have one beer." or "I'll do that later."

Stop yourself and take action immediately.

Flip the switch and begin acting like the man you believe you are, today.

[–]SgtSilverBack[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

No it doesn't take that long. But it does require that a man has the ability to be introspective about his actions and modify his behavior based on HIS judgement. So how many have lost (read gave away) the ability to self judge.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

too many...

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

I am currently of the belief that most guys will need to make the same mistakes we all did ( to some extent) in order to learn.

Its the reason we all wound up here. If we are here, it means something is off with how we think and process. That learning often takes place while being rambo and doing things wrong.

[–]SgtSilverBack[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

BP and women are much like children. They are unable to comprehend the advise of people who have been there. It literally makes no sense. That's why Red knighting fails.

[–]BobbyPeru0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

That's why Red knighting fails.

Not only does it fail, but they will villainize you.

LAW 38 Think As You Like But Behave Like Others

If you make a show of going against the times, flaunting your unconventional ideas and unorthodox ways, people will think that you only want attention and that you look down upon them. They will find a way to punish you for making them feel inferior. It is far safer to blend in and nurture the common touch. Share your originality only with tolerant friends and those who are sure to appreciate your uniqueness. Robert Greene, The 48 Laws of Power

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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