Pain of Loss:
Pain and loss are inevitable and we should let go of trying to resist them. Loss and the pain of loss are unavoidable. Stop trying to resist loss. You can only minimize the pain.
Your wife told you she wants a divorce. Show her the door.
Don't comfort her telling that everything will be all right because in your little faggot brain there is a voice telling you losing her would be so uncomfortable and painful.
Ofcourse comfort her if you want to, but don't do it to keep her.
When you lose a person most dear to you or one you had oneitis for you are going to suffer. Know that suffering is just Charles Darwin telling you to man up. The pain reminds you what you need to pay attention to and what you have been neglecting all your life as a career beta. Yourself.
Minimise the pain of loss?
Lift consistently. Not only to get ripped. But the squats and deadlifts you do is going to give you a confidence you have never had as a career beta.
Eat nutritious food. Not only to lose the fat from your body and build muscle. But controlling the urges of your tongue will make you a disciplined man.
Increase your social influence. Make new friends(the more masculine the better). Meet people working in your domain and discuss ideas. Read, read, read about all kinds of things. Fill yourself with knowledge you always wanted to have.
Have hobbies that fulfill your life. She rejected sex? Go and hobby your balls.
And ofcourse, read the sidebar and internalize all that it has to say.
How do I unslap myself?
So you got slapped by your wife. Poor you, now she can't unslap you. Only you can unslap(read:unfuck) yourself.
She just told you, you are a low value man who can be slapped around by a woman. She broke your frame and you think she is going to help you collect the shreds of your frame off the floor?
Go fucking radio silent. Work on you, your hobbies, lifting, social life. Dress up well. Own your shit at home. Dont make a covert contract:"I will dread you until you cry for comfort."
Bbbbbbut MRP, what if she nags me about being too busy with myself?
Call her out on her neediness. You are busy and she should be understanding enough, otherwise its her problem. It will take you atleast a couple of weeks to prove to yourself that you are a high value man with a strong frame. When she comes back to being a submissive kitten, you will act as if nothing happened and welcome her to your warm frame.
Choose your struggles:
There will be emotional pain on your path to becoming a man. Know that it is necessary pain. The pain will teach you where you failed and how to avoid the same mistakes going into the future.
Hearing AWALT hurts you as a career beta?
Forget AWALT. This planet itself is full of problems and suffering.
As a career beta you always made covert contracts. If I just do this one lil thing, my problems will go away. She will fall in love with me and I will be happy ever after.
On this path, you will learn that problems never fucking go away. They will only become better problems to solve as you man up.
Career beta, you are going to learn here that solving YOUR problems is the path to happiness. You will continue to be miserable if you don't solve your problems.
Bbbbbbut MRP, I think I am high SMV and I got 3 IOIs last weekend, why does my lady not get wet?
Here, you have a problem. Answer is not in the why, it is in the how.
Career beta, stop denying your problems. Your lady doesn't get wet for you. Stop blaming her. Stop being a victim. You have enough ability to solve your problems and get to where you want to.
You read the success stories here and think, yayyy I have a 1 year MAP laid out too. I will have a main event too and everything will be happy ever after....
Stop being in love with the result. Fall in love with the struggle. Accept that the struggle never ends, and that the struggle will not feel like a struggle in the future.
Deadlifting 3XBW is your new struggle. Following your diet religiously is your new struggle. Learning to pick up the right clothes for yourself is your new struggle. Learning to be assertive is your new struggle. Learning to give quality time to yourself, your hobbies and social life is your new struggle. Learning to kill at work is your new struggle.
Validation from wife and rubbing privates with her is not.
None of us are special:
Bbbbbut MRP, I am a career beta, I deserve special treatment.
Listen you are not entitled to anything except struggle.
You are not a special snowflake. You are a tiny little nothing in this vastness of the universe. Get this into your head. It is definitely okay to be an average Joe. But, be an average Joe who is obsessed with self-improvement. And you can only be obsessed with self improvement when you realise deep down that you are nothing great at all.