I just feel fucking angry and resentful 24/7 and I am wondering when/if it gets better.

WindowsDoctor · 2014-09-08T07:53:01+00:00

Anger is good. Use it as your drive.

Use it to work out like a wild animal. You feel at peace with the way things are for the rest of the day after getting smashed in the gym. Or, at least that's how it makes me feel.

SkorchZang · 2014-09-08T09:13:35+00:00

If you were a jet, right now you'd be flying with afterburner on. It's an advantage in disguise, so you can hit the gym harder, change yourself with executive action, go further than you ever may have before into terra incognita to discover that yes, you can survive there, too.

After a while it's going to wear out, so just aim current efforts such that you'll be further ahead when the fuel is all burned up, so you can start your happy, silent glide phase. Nothing more to burn. Nothing more to hold you back, finally free and almost weightless.

I'm saying when the anger is gone you might actually miss the rage & roar. The glide phase takes over it'll all be about... careful tiny adjustments and steady courses, and getting shat on by seagulls, without the luxury of being able to really care about it now, especially since you see them gliding along just like you and squaking desperately, tiny as they are.

CausticSubstance · 2014-09-08T10:27:45+00:00

TL;DR You're angry because your pre-TRP idealistic view of the world is idealistic bullshit and now you've realized that. Yes you will feel better, learn that there's nothing you can do to change the world, just figure out how to apply the knowledge you get here in the most beneficial way.

Because that little beta part of you is still there, crying about how it isn't fair. In a way it isn't, up until this moment you've probably been living your life how the world has told you to. A life dictated by countless cliches and idealistic advice. You've recently realized that the world isn't ideal so everything you've ever been taught is worth nothing. You were dealt a shit hand and told it was good, you kept betting on it thinking it would eventually pay off but it hasn't. So now that you're angry about everything you've lost to this shit advice, the girls, the time, the friends, the wasted opportunities etc etc. You're angry at everyone for giving you horrible advice, you're angry at people you know for following it and you're also probably angry at yourself for embodying it for as long as you have.

I always explain this when newer members question why they're starting to hate women, it's because you've pushed life off it's pedestal. You thought life was super exciting and everyone was nice and cared about you and if you were good you would have a good life. But then it came crashing down from it's pedestal (your dreamy idealistic view of the world) to the mud (your more realistic negative-biased view of the world). As you realized that a lot of what you thought about the world was feel good bullshit you started to focus on the harsher more negative aspects of life. Life can be really boring and pointless, people are selfish assholes(who normally get ahead) and no one could give half a shit about you.

But don't worry, like women you will eventually find a happy balance (more positive then negative) as you accept that it's just the way it is and there's nothing you can do to change it. Like in evolution, if you can't change your environment you can either adapt or die. Choose adapt.

Sorry if this is badly worded I'm tired from a long day of work

lloopy · 2014-09-08T11:44:05+00:00

It gets better.

The "be nice to women, and they will give you what you want" is kind of like religion. It's something that you are told to believe when you are young, and in spite of a complete lack of evidence to support it, you still believe it.

When you lose that religion, you are very very angry. It's a phase you go through.

It gets better.

Misteralcala · 2014-09-08T12:35:32+00:00

Dude, just wait. You have the best ahead of you, just waiting for when you cool off and accept it. That's when you realize that TRP is a fucking cheat code for society.

With it, you can game any chick, be a hero to your friends and dodge bullshit like a dung-fu master. You will have X-ray vision into your daily social interactions and conversations and be able to see the fine underlying sub-strata that most people don't even realize is there. Likewise, you will be able to see early signs of relationship trouble and be able to smell it when the wind changes.

Fear not. You will be the master of your own destiny. The tools you have unlocked have cost you your naive obliviousness, but with them you can forge yourself a kingdom by your own hand. Be the man you want to be. Be feared by your enemies, coveted by women, admired by your peers and cursed by those who wish to hang their heads in shame and shuffle blindly through life as you once did not too long ago.

The truth is a harsh mistress. It shows us what is, not what we wish it to be. It's illumination is a double-edged sword that can chase away our irrational fears or show us that which we wish was locked away in the dark.

YaBoiTibzz · 2014-09-08T19:23:20+00:00

I suspect that quitting nicotine and alcohol cold-turkey has a bit to do with it. If that's the case, it will pass.

Nomenimion · 2014-09-08T10:16:52+00:00

Some very exciting things are happening in tech. The coming years should be very interesting. This is something to look forward to.

2014-09-08T14:12:32+00:00

Welcome to the red pill. You will experience the following stages:denial, anger, guilt, and acceptance.

Denial: The last ties the blue pill has on you is telling you that everyone here is a misogynist neckbeard. You're telling yourself that this isn't how things really are. You're saying that this subreddit is for basement dwellers and doesn't apply to you...

...but you're still here.

Anger: This happens when we realize that we have been lied to by everyone about everything. We feel anger towards the outside world for a long time and some of us never leave this phase (and you can see who they are if you stick around long enough).

Guilt: Eventually, the anger turns inward and we blame ourselves for being mislead for so long. We look back with regret at all the missed opportunities and wasted time. We begin to loathe ourselves as much as we loathe the outside world.

Acceptance: We see how the world is and it sucks sometimes. Figure it out and move on. When you get here, you stop being mad at the world for the way it is and you stop being mad at yourself and you focus on getting better. Most of us never really get here.

53Pirate · 2014-09-08T14:36:49+00:00

You're in monk-mode. Hang in there.

And don't take your emotions too seriously while you're trying to get the nicotine monkey off your back.

NoFatChicks88 · 2014-09-08T20:43:23+00:00

I think TRP is a little too hard on women. Just because they make for shitty romantic partners it doesn't mean they serve no other purpose. Plenty of women are smart, decent, hard working people trying to get through life just like anyone else. There's also a lot of women out there who are Men's Rights activists. You have to understand that, for the most part, men are just as ignorant about the sexist (towards males) culture as women are.

Str8tuptrollin · 2014-09-08T13:27:26+00:00

I took me nearly a year to get over the bitter phase of the red pill

40_SixandTwo · 2014-09-08T14:25:48+00:00

Use all that pissed off energy to build yourself, and it'll get better. When I started on here, for about 2 months I used it and eventually it burned away and passed.

Set some goals, and find a mission to work towards and you will be fine. Devote yourself to something is what I found helped me out alot.

2comment · 2014-09-08T14:39:37+00:00

I just want some advise on how you folks got past this stage.

Time, focusing like a laser, and reprioritizing my love/lust for women down the list and placing self-improvement and higher goals on top.

RedPill4LYF · 2014-09-08T15:15:33+00:00

You have taken the red pill. Now let go. Let go of your conditioning. Be free from the shackles of shame. Acknowledge your anger, but give yourself permission to let it go for your own sanity.

No matter who you are, it's easy to find reasons not to be happy. (Women have all the privilege in the world, but account for over half of all anti-depressant prescriptions.) Entertaining the idea of being happy when you are aware of ugly truths seems ridiculous, but I promise if you give yourself permission, it happens. You need only to latch on to a good emotion, and allow it to grow within you. Breath deep. Relax. It's okay to be positive. It's okay to look at the glass half full.

Fight the impulse to be negative. Monitor your negative thoughts and replace them with positive affirmations. Recognize that you control your thoughts. As a red pill man who acknowledges reality, realize it is you who are responsible for your own happiness. You have the power to view anything in a negative or positive light. Choose positive. Choose to see the win.

BluepillProfessor · 2014-09-08T16:08:47+00:00

Jeez we need a Anger management stage section or something.

Yes this is common and normal. Yes it fades in time as you accept reality for what it is rather than for what we have been told that it is. Keep busy, keep moving forward, keep improving, and understand that it is OK to be angry so long as it motivates you to improve. More importantly, understand that women are women. They are flawed creatures, just like men. Yes they have a deceptive, underhanded sexual strategy which feminism has managed to hide- but for the most part it is hidden from both us AND them.

2014-09-08T16:51:20+00:00

Your biggest, fallacious assumption is that you shouldn't feel angry.

There isn't a need to suppress your feelings. Just direct them in a rational, productive way.

2014-09-08T17:50:15+00:00

I think we've all gone through the same stages. Once you get over the anger stage you'll start smiling now that you've been initiated into the secret society stage. Your whole outlook changes. You'll examine your past relationships and say, "Yep. Mmm Hmm. I see it now. How could I have been so stupid/blind/etc.?" Then you'll be smiling again knowing that you got this and will think and act differently from now on.

For me it was disdain for those guys acting like morons, but yet the girls were eating it up. I was thinking, "How could any girl buy into his act? He's an idiot...why does that work? I'm not going to act like him. I'm better than that." Meanwhile, where does acting better than the idiot making the ladies laugh get me? Nowhere. Should-to-cry-on territory/friendzone. Still frustrated and angry at women not being attracted to what I believed should be the right kind of guys.

Then I discovered some things about attraction, applied them and had results, but I was still a beta inside and mad that I had to become what I hated: those guys who only treat women as good for one thing. I was better than "those" guys. I was raised better than that. Meanwhile I was still envious of them the whole time. Still thinking "Why can't girls wise up? Why can't they be attracted to the 'right' kind of guys?"

I then went into exile for a while. Gave up. Full-on MGTOW. Introspection and working on myself. "Not worth the hassle" was the way I rationalized my exile from the dating world. Cop out really for not taking the initiative to apply some of the things I learned about attraction and fully improve myself. Still kinda wishing and hoping the world would change to suit me. My beta thinking and idealized thoughts about women still clinging to life. I was not yet ready to unplug from the matrix.

Final stage. I discover TRP. The veil is lifted. AWALT truth revealed too many times to be a fluke. More going back over my past relationships with women. TRP confirmed. Stop fighting the obvious. Stop swimming against the current. Full-on acceptance. Smiling and happy about the future. I see the game before it starts. Ready to play and win knowing what I know now. Fully prepared for everything. Forewarned is forearmed. Knowledge really is power.

It gets better. Trust everyone who has been where you are now and were before. You'll soon be smiling.

2014-09-08T17:55:32+00:00

feel very emasculated to watch two people jack-hammering while I sit here and crank another lonely load out.

Think of it this way: you're removing the power that women have over you.

I was reading this old article by illimitable man and it gave me some perspective that I'm trying out. Suppress your emotions by first accepting them -- don't deny them -- accept them in your body and be MINDFUL that what you're feeling are just feelings.

strivingforfreedom · 2014-09-08T18:58:12+00:00

Do some actual work. Creative work.

Then try meditating.

WindowsDoctor · 2014-09-08T20:05:36+00:00

This right here!

Moreover, if it wasn't for this sub, I'd be going at it alone. My one male friend and gym partner likes to think of himself as alpha...he's starting to get it but not quite there yet. Everytime we work out I'm ready to just pound out some sets but he's always making excuses as to why he can't lift today or how he'd love to deadlift the way I've been doing but he'll tear some muscle in his knee or something.

I get it. He's genuinely worried that he'll take himself out of the game for good. But when we lift he talks incessantly about all his fucking problems and how frustrated he is and all this crap I don't care about. I put my energy into lifting, he puts his energy into running his mouth.

Those of you who have read my post history know that excessive mouth diarrhea is one of my peeves. But what it boils down to is we both have all this pent up frustration. He vents by talking. I vent by lifting. Either way, I'm not seeing a whole lot of light at the end of the tunnel vis-à-vis the anger "phase."

Seems to be a significant point that RP theory has failed to address. How much of AWALT is hard-wired into women, and how much is a result of cause and effect shit where women just aren't making good choices. So what if a woman responds with her heart instead of her head. She's still human and capable of choosing how she responds.

TL;DR I'm out of sympathy for the position of AWALT. Women are still human and still have free will and as long as they continue to choose not to exercise it, then I will choose not to quit being angry at these bitches. I don't see an end to this "phase" anytime soon and I'm fed up with being the only one in my social circle, male or female, that chooses not to hamster every god damn thing!

gregd28 · 2014-09-08T23:21:19+00:00

I was the exact same way... for a year! It gets better, little by little. Trust me. It just won't be the same as before. It'll be better.

2014-09-08T11:11:10+00:00

Very basic anger phase.

Anger is good. Hate yourself for being so weak and emotional. Hate yourself because you haven't made shit happen. That's the right kind of hate. Hating strangers on the street or women or society or what have you is the wrong hate, it doesn't achieve anything. Turn that self-hate into fuel for your own improvement.

The good, lovable sides of women are escaping you because you are blinded by a fog of anger and confirmation bias and the bad shit you see is accentuated even further by it. But once you get over it and accept reality, you can start being happy again.

HedRotPiliCeppers · 2014-09-08T09:45:47+00:00

Dude 6 days a week UP that shit. Eat well. Sleep well. Plan a gain or cutttttt. Destroy. (GIVE ME THE SHIT!!!).. That fuckin hate tho! Work with it. You got this.

2014-09-08T10:50:41+00:00

I love being angry. It keeps me focused. Also means I don't take shit from people. This weekend I kicked a russian 9 out of my apartment and made her take a taxi home because she wouldn't put out after giving me all sorts of signals that night. I don't let girls play that game anymore.

Just have to remember to keep things on a cool burn, or else you're going to go around breaking things and have high blood pressure.

TheReason13 · 2014-09-08T10:57:45+00:00

Anger gave me the drive I needed when I had nothing left to fight for. I was practically dead inside, the only relief were those bursts of anger, like waking up after cryostasis.

Also, you need to come to terms with reality, accept it for what it is, and adapt.

whitey_male · 2014-09-08T12:34:27+00:00

I've done my best work whilst angry and spiteful towards the world.

But I can also be sort of happily bitter. If that makes sense.

People are just glorified monkeys. We come from apes. I've certainly been guilty of being an idiot myself.

2014-09-08T13:18:02+00:00

The sooner you get rid of the anger, the better off you'll be.

You might need some introspection to figure out the source of your anger, so that you can deal with it appropriately.

I was angry too for a while after discovering PUA and more recently TRP, and I realized that the anger came from feeling betrayed, betrayed because I was led to believe that a certain set of behaviors (read: Be Mr Nice Guy) would lead me to a satisfactory life and satisfactory relationships, you know, the Disney perspective of life.

We both know that reality is pretty much the opposite, and I felt that I wasted so much time and energy only to pursue the opposite results from what I was promised.

FML.

Time to move on, TRP opens our eyes to what reality is. Live your life, get into relationships and enjoy them one day at a time; and get the most out of life and out of each relationship. Be happy with reality, stop searching for Disney ideals where there are none, it's this discrepancy between my beliefs and reality that made me angry; it might be the same for you.

gollumcoin · 2014-09-08T19:09:21+00:00

It won't get better until women are kicked off the government/corporate dole. Women are always dependent on a man, whether that man is their father, husband, government, or big corporation it does not matter. Until women are put into a situation where they NEED the common man, you are basically fucked. This board, TheRedPill, is basically a place to share rape strategies. Pumping and dumping women is pointless and only exacerbates the problem of too many whores. THE RED PILL IS A FEMINIST "IDEOLOGY" at its core for reasons that are long and take too much time to type out at work.

Title	I just feel fucking angry and resentful 24/7 and I am wondering when/if it gets better.
Author	WindowsDoctor
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Date	September 8, 2014 7:46 AM UTC (11 years ago)
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