I am in desperate need of assistance and a friend suggested I ask here for help. My marriage is currently in terrible trouble through no fault of my own and I will do anything to put it to rights. I hope that some or possibly even a few of you have encountered this problem and will be able to throw me a life (and marriage!) preserver.

Briefly, I am a 28YO SAHM married to my 43YO husband. Married for 5 years. He has supported me financially since our marriage and I have never had a job much less a career. Basically went right from my parents supporting me to him supporting me.

He is a highly paid professional and our arrangement has always been that I keep his house and life running smoothly, focus my time and efforts on his comfort and happiness, and he works to support our family. I did not ask for this arrangement, it is how he wanted it to be and I certainly don't object to it as he is more than worth it. I do have a degree and could get a job (although not as highly paid as his of course) but this is the way that he wants it and that is ok with me as I don't mind making him my top priority.

About two years ago he began to pressure me to start a family. I was, of course, beyond excited to do so and not to long after got pregnant. (No surprise because our sex life has never been an issue and he is very virile and keeping him happy that way is my priority. We were both very excited about the pregnancy. Him particularly. I've never seen him so animated as he endlessly discussed all his plans for our family, the future, what great parents we would be. To myself I vowed that I would never let the baby come before him and I've tried to be true to that.

I had all typical pre-natal tests, then the bottom dropped out when we found out the baby was a girl. His entire attitude changed, he barely participated at all after that. He told me that he wanted a son, not a daughter. Long story short, our beautiful, perfect daughter was born. (He wasn't there. It broke my heart.) His lack of interest is apparent to everyone in both our families and to our friends although I have done my best to conceal this. At this point he will have almost nothing to do with either of us. Delays coming home after work, stays our late, out of town golf trips etc..

I don't think there is another woman, yet. But it can't be long until that happens. I have done everything that I can think of. I am back in shape and have tried to minimize the impact the baby has had on our household (Nearly impossible!). Nothing helps, we barely have sex since he is not around. Here is the kicker- he is a fucking MD!!!!!! He knows that I could not control this outcome. Can anyone help? Anyone been there? Any ideas? How can I save my marriage?