I'm divorcing (in a few weeks we have first hearing). I stay with her because flat's mine AND because law (I'm outside US).
on Saturday I had a night out and slept somewhere else, left after kids were in bed, came back early morning before they got out of bed,
next evening I'm doing homework with my 8-yr old son, wife comes and says something along "daddy slept at his girlfriend"
I immediately start recording AND STFU
she sees no reaction from me and leaves (she was looking for a conflict or my reaction like a junkie that day, this was not the only time she tried to get anything from me)
next day I get a text that she's sorry and she should not say that, also she cleaned bathroom and kitchen.
Even if I read lot of shit recently I still have hard time with handling situations like this.
My goal: I'd like to both preserve my own dignity AND my kid's.
I feel an immense need to write her an e-mail about how sexualization of minors is wrong, that I can sleep anywhere I want and that what she tried to do is very wrong from the perspective of divorce AND the child's perspective, BUT what I feel is I need to consult you guys first.
Me - 1.5 yrs of lifting, dieting, currently during bulk, 5 yrs no alcohol, 4 yrs no cigarettes, currently getting rid of vidya (selling shit on eBay with no minimum bid), reading "WISNIFG" and "Stop care taking the borderline or narcissist", and yes, if you wonder where did I spent that night, I spent it at the exact place you think I did.