A disposable male

whinemoreplease · 2015-09-02T03:54:16+00:00

/u/girlwriteswhat is incredibly smart and to the point. There's great truth in what she says. I'm a big fan of /r/mensrights in general, though I have my reservation too.

As for

It makes me mad, but it should.

So fucking what? Lets assume it's all true. What are you going to do? Just sit there and whine about it? We can assume that you don't matter and on one else in the world gives a shit about it, so your proposed solution to that is to ... whine a bit and hope someone cares? Come on. You've finally seen that the only person responsible for your happiness and your well being is yourself - that right there should be a great motivator. You finally have permission to give a shit and prioritize your own needs because now you finally see that no one else will. Take advantage of this opportunity and go make yourself happy.

If your wife isn't fucking you the way you want, take charge and figure out how you can improve your situation. Then try it, fail, repeat, until you get an outcome you want.

Marriedwithkidz · 2015-09-01T11:05:27+00:00

Thank you for sharing this link! Lovely to see a woman with the same point of view! I susbcribed to her channel and will watch more today :)

SexistFlyingPig · 2015-09-01T05:44:23+00:00

Girl Writes What has a lot of red pill insights. She's probably more anti-feminist than anything else. She's fed up with entitlement without responsibility.

So, for instance, the topic of "who pays on a date" came up recently in several different places. Feminists are the first ones who actually require that the man pay, otherwise, "he's not a man". So, women get the entitlement of preferred job placement through a higher education system that rewards them directly (grants, loans and other programs exclusively for women, none exclusively for men.), without the responsibility of actually paying even their own part of a shared expense.

Let that one sink in.

The_Litz · 2015-09-01T11:20:23+00:00

This Red pill stuff make a lot of sense, it codifies a lot of things that I guess I knew, but felt guilty about and didn't fully get

We knew it but felt we couldn't use it. NOW we use it, and now we know it is right to be selfish about putting your happiness first.

Welcome to unplugging. There are a lot of lightbulb moments ahead of you!

jcrpta · 2015-09-01T19:14:34+00:00

I'm pretty sure I'm her beta and she's just here for the security.

Welcome to my world!

You can cajole, you can beg, you can threat - you probably did all that and more in your more beta days - and she'll do damn all. Why would she? You've been hanging around for 29 years despite the status quo!

You want to see sparks? Threaten to cut off the cashflow.

UEMcGill · 2015-09-02T15:35:34+00:00

First, let's back away from looking for an excuse to why this is happening to you. Yep, males have been disposable throughout time. Go ask the cannon fodder of WWI about that. But that has fucking nothing to do with you. You only make yourself disposable.

the hardest part for me has always been her disinterest. She really doesn't give a fuck about what I do. She also needs a ton of alone time, seriously, shes f-ing weird. BARELY looks at facebook, rarely texts or calls me, never has, never will. She's very unsocial, talks to her friends only when they call her. I have gotten good at walking away from her for days at a time, otherwise she gets overwhelmed, pissy and stressed. Her first response to ANY question is NO, I'm expected to convince her to do anything, and I'm not just talking sex here.

This is the gist of your problem. You're looking for validation through your wife. She's not going to give it to you bro. Detach the emotional hose and go make a better man of yourself. I don't know where you are in your betterment process. The usual lift, read, lurk applies as always.

An integrated man seeks to better himself constantly. He receives validation through purpose and achievement, and that is his fundamental drive in life. If a real good woman wishes to be part of that purpose she will strive to be better herself and support her man. When she does this, you can give to her freely and without expectation of anything in return.

What does this mean to you? Take your wife off the pedestal. She gave you two kids, fine, but so what really? Go better yourself and be the best you can be. Get a purpose, a hobby and really fit. Grandkids my come so you want to be the Grandpa that takes them climbing mountains or the one that yells at them for being loud?. If you are doing everything in life and being just awesome; leading, not putting up with shit tests, passing comfort tests etc, and your wife is still a wet noodle, then cut her loose. As Redpill men we only let the best people in our lives, because we are the prize.

The first "best" person in your life you need to let in is you.

Countpudyoola · 2015-09-01T14:44:29+00:00

Welcome.

Her first response to ANY question is NO, I'm expected to convince her to do anything, and I'm not just talking sex here.

So, now you know right? You don't ask anymore. If you have something you want or need to do, you inform.

My wife has this air of expecting to have to convince her of the sky being blue if she's feeling skeptical at the moment. She still takes this attitude with news stories and other people, but when she pulls it with me I don't give a shit. She can believe me or not. I no longer try to convince. It's entirely too much of a manager/employee relationship. Or company/shareholder. Having to SELL with a presentation to the decision makers. Nope. You're the decision maker now.

I'll slip occasionally and if I'm fascinated by something new I might start to talk to her about a subject for a while before I realize I've gone from having a discussion to me explaining something and her skeptical. At which point you just catch it and punt "Okay, Nancy Drew. Next subject...".

The best part for me is I'm now capable of getting validation, which I really do need

You should find you need it less. Hey, no one's going to say it's not nice when you get it, but eventually you should know your own salt and it's just confirmation of what you already knew.

As for the video, you could replace feminism / female with any in-group. Which is an outgrowth of the me group-> village group. You want the best for yourself , and by proxy your village. The rest are competitors that need to be sidelined, marginalized or combated to ensure protection of your in-group.

It's pretty fucked up that it's taken to 1/2 of the entire human race, but you take most of the leaders of the new-wave of anti-male sentiment and you get a small minority of high testosterone females and lesbians driving the conversation and claim to speak for all women.

Women like my wife resent this, but the vast majority of normal ie. sane feminine women (in tune instead of fighting their biology) don't speak up. So all you hear are the SJW man haters who are looking for their female (in body parts only) in-group to come out ahead of all the other groups... in this case all men.

Title	A disposable male
Author	assured_destruction
Upvotes	4
Comments	13
Date	September 1, 2015 3:32 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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