It has been a couple of months since I began reading the red pill communities. I felt drawn because it felt like it parallels a lot of preexisting views and also gives insight into dealing with shortcomings I know I possess as a woman. Hypergamy is something that can easily sabotage a good relationship and something I want to keep in tight check moving forward in life. Realism says I have reached the peak of my potential in the single market and from here on out it will only be going downhill. If I ever get the idea in my head that I could do better it would be bordering on the delusional. Some might even argue I have already overshot and gotten really lucky. I don't want to lose sight of that.

We all have the power to dampen our hypergamy and I believe part of it is making sure other women can understand your captain's value. When I had other social media accounts I would always see women complaining about their men in online groups. It was almost a hobby for a lot of them. This constant amplifying of their man's faults decreases the value of that man in the eyes of all of those other women. If we see that our guy isn't seen as a good catch to other women then we will no longer see him that way ourselves. It will feed the desire to find someone better, who is seen as valuable. I think part of the key to staying happy with the partner you've chosen is making sure to add to their value with the information we share and protect their privacy when it comes to their shortcomings. Speak of them with respect and admiration to others. (This is of utmost importance when dealing with people in face to face interactions.) It can be like a daily inoculation against our more destructive instincts.

I sometimes wonder if the drive women have to complain about their partners to each other is an attempt at protecting their territory. If other women don't see their man's value then they won't try to steal him but it is a death sentence for attraction. It is better to make sure that you have enough value for him to want you even if another woman might want him too.

(I'm struggling to figure out how to add flair from my phone app but I am 30, engaged, together for 2.5 years.)