By saying "not ALL men are like that" they are acknowledging that there are at least SOME men who are like that.

Moreover, the choice of language ("not all") implies that the type of men who are "like that" are the majority (as in more than 50%).

If only a small minority of men were "like that" then they would say something like "most men aren't like that" or "only a small number of men are like that"

In fact, by saying "not all" they are implying that the percentage of men who are "like that" is pretty damn close to 100%, as in somewhere between 80-99%.

If it was something like 50-80% they would say "plenty of men aren't like that" or "a lot of guys aren't like that" which implies that while something may be the majority, it is not a very large majority.

Ultimately, when a man says "not ALL men are like that" what he is really saying is "I'M not like that, even though the overwhelming majority of men are"

Most men acknowledge that the majority of men are depraved but they want to be treated like they are the exception. They will never admit it directly but if you look at their actions it is very obvious, here are a few examples:

  1. When a father refuses to allow his daughter to be alone with boys because "I know what's going on in their minds"

  2. When a boyfriend is uncomfortable with his girlfriend having male friends because he knows that most of them probably want to fuck her.

  3. When a man is uncomfortable with his wife going on a long business trip with a male coworker.

  4. When a guy aged 25+ wants a virgin teenage girlfriend because of their "innocence" and because she "hasn't been corrupted by other men" (even though he will most likely be the one to break her down and transform her into one of those "bitter man-hating women" they love to complain about)

  5. When men complain that women their own age are "too demanding" and "emotionally damaged" because they know they have been treated badly by men in the past.

  6. When incels and niceguys complain that "women only like bad boys" and "guys who treat them like shit" and that he's the only man on the planet who knows how to treat her right.

  7. Guys who act offended when you take a picture of their license plate or ask for a picture of their drivers license before going on a date. "Why do you need that, do you seriously think I'm going to rape or murder you? Unbelievable!"

  8. Guys who genuinely believe "if you refuse to date men who watch porn then you're going to be single forever because ALL MEN watch porn!"

And then they do a bunch of mental gymnastics to justify why it's always the woman's fault.

I get messages from angry men all the time and it's always something like "your posts are GENERALIZING all men. When men read about how most men are predators it makes them feel bad. Not all men!"

Boys, if you are reading this and are feeling personally attacked, you are part of the problem. A genuinely good man would read FDS and feel empathy for us like "damn, it must be really hard for women to go through life being treated so badly" and then maybe donate some money to a women's shelter or something.

Yes, we acknowledge that genuinely good men do exist but they are extremely rare and you are certainly not one of them.

If you read FDS and it makes you feel dirty or guilty, then YES, you are almost certainly "THAT guy"

We are not going to start policing our tone so that bad men can feel good about themselves. If lurking here makes you feel bad about yourself then you probably are bad and you should do something to change yourself and improve. I truly hope that you choose the path of self improvement.

Unfortunately, experience has taught me that very few men are willing to admit that they are flawed, and even fewer men are willing to put in the work it takes to change their entire worldview and attitude towards women. These are the ones who send angry, indignant DMs to moderators of FDS. You're not going to change our minds, you're just proving to us that we are right about you.

So go ahead and be predictable. It's not going to stop us. There is currently an entire movement of women who are waking up and who aren't willing to put up with male bullshit anymore, the FDS subreddit is only a tiny part of that. Already, women are surpassing men in academia and in the workplace, and rising to the highest echelons of power in politics and business. And guess what, we are really good at it. We are quite literally better at leadership than you: women-led countries handled coronavirus better, and female CEOs and CFOs outperform outperform their male peers.

Your options are to adapt to a new world in which women have more power, or get left behind. The choice is yours. Trying to suppress women and keep us down isn't going to achieve anything, it only makes us stronger.