Because You Demanded It: Encouraging Your Captain To Lead

StingrayVC · 2014-09-04T16:34:11+00:00

2 and #3 were what was missing from those how can I make my captain lead post. Those posts here were too leading from the neck type things and not deferring control and backing off. That is what is so incredibly off putting about them.

This was a very good post. The only thing I would add in the #3 is that, you've backed off completely. That means if he does something completely different or even just slightly different than what you want, YOU HAVE BACKED OFF. Stay there. Different does not mean wrong.

TempestTcup · 2014-09-04T16:05:59+00:00

LOL, we had a rash of "how do I change my SO" posts, when our mantra is always "the only person you can change is yourself!"

johngalt1234 · 2014-09-04T18:05:30+00:00

Great post, and a much needed resource here. The main issue with the users that posted about this is that they were (A) very pushy (declared how intelligent, capable, driven etc) they are and (B) it was clear that on top of being new to RPW in general, they also had not made a sincere attempt to fully comprehend even the most basic concepts.

When a woman asks "how do I make my man lead?" and she hasn't taken the time to focus on what she needs to change in herself first (or worse, doesn't think she needs to change at all) then it's easy for her (or other new users) to form a corrupted view of the RPW ideas and apply them in a very manipulative "I know what's best" kind of way.

In my mind, the worst monster is the woman that understands all the nuances of being a RPW, knows how to expertly create/maintain the part, and uses her knowledge to get exactly what she wants. I'll admit that one of my more general worries is that pushy women will realize the potency of what we talk about on this sub, and twist it into something ugly and subversive. We've seen users here that know the lingo and claim to be trying, but it quickly becomes clear that they're still doing a lot wrong. Most of these mistakes are natural, the user is trying to change and that process is slow...but some women genuinely see this as simply another set of tactics they can switch to when their normal methods of trying to cow their man doesn't work. A well-informed gentleman will see her efforts for what they really are of course, but if they were well-informed, they probably wouldn't be dating a challenging/disrespectful woman to begin with.

I guess I just don't want people to pollute RPW and distort it into another 'girl power' space...which is why the Mod team consistently errs on the side of caution when something seems a bit off or inconsistent. Half-truths, and evasive narratives often leave us playing whack-a-mole with maybe-but-maybe-not-trolls.

Anyway, thank you for writing this up. It's good to know that we'll be able to link this post to other users when it crops up again. :0)

ColdEiric · 2014-09-04T17:00:35+00:00

The bit about Caritas is pure gold. Where do you find this stuff? What do you read, IanIronwood?

margerym · 2014-09-04T16:53:42+00:00

Great stuff! Thanks for it.

misslovelace · 2014-09-05T05:14:39+00:00

Perfect, this is a wonderful resource. I'm currently trying to amass a pile of links and articles I can always refer back to as I try to live this lifestyle and this is a favourite, for sure.

tinysunshine · 2014-09-05T09:34:31+00:00

This is what I needed. Thank you.

Sometimes I forget there are Red Pill resources other than strictly Reddit.

Hrel · 2014-09-04T19:24:38+00:00

Every single girl, anywhere near my age needs to read this.

Title	Because You Demanded It: Encouraging Your Captain To Lead
Author	IanIronwood
Upvotes	29
Comments	18
Date	September 4, 2014 3:59 PM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/RedPillWomen
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/2fgpfc/because_you_demanded_it_encouraging_your_captain/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/RedPillWomen/because-you-demanded-it-encouraging-your-captain.2136 https://theredarchive.com/post/2136

Comments

2 and #3 were what was missing from those how can I make my captain lead post. Those posts here were too leading from the neck type things and not deferring control and backing off. That is what is so incredibly off putting about them.