Big incoming shit test. LTR wants to go out of state for her cousins 30th Bday party.

ultrasuperthrowaway · 2014-09-22T19:53:32+00:00

What? A party? Dump that bitch immediately!! /s

This is common and if you are confident in her, eventually you'll appreciate the alone time to go do your things. You have a life too, remember?

[deleted] · 2014-09-22T18:28:34+00:00

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MagicGainbow · 2014-09-22T18:07:29+00:00

If you have no reason to doubt her loyalty then don't bring it up. But party girls should be plates and nothing more

[deleted] · 2014-09-23T01:01:06+00:00

Let her go, then while away go hang out with the bros. Preferably at a club/bar. Anything social that will find its way back to her. Message: He doesn't need me to have a good time, and he won't sit around waiting for me. He is a pre-selected male and has SMV

Fhqwghads · 2014-09-22T18:40:12+00:00

What's stopping you from going as well? Did she request to go alone? Is this a girls only weekend thing? If it's a family thing as you said below, and you've been with this girl for 4 years, I would assume you've been accepted by the family.

Hudoneit · 2014-09-22T20:18:52+00:00

I'm not a trp expert but I think expressing your concern was a bad move. She wants to go to her sisters party and get wasted. You trust her. You read red pill and use advice from here which means she sees you as alpha. Don't freak out bro just let her go to the party. The more you bring up your concerns the worse off you'll be.

Stories_of_Red · 2014-09-22T20:49:16+00:00

What is her age? 21 is different than 31.

What is the age of the rest of the crew, besides Ms. 30? If there are some middle-aged fraus who will be yawning at 9:30 pm, that is a different crowd than 21-30 year old single party gals.

And if her family is generally not okay with drunken lechery, and her family is part of the crew, I would think that is going to serve as a rather significant brake on any antics. Gals do not get buck wild with Chad Thundercock if Aunt Reba is going to be there, watching the whole sordid thing, because then dad and everyone else will hear about it. That is the whole reason gals go out of town to get their freak on: so no one knows back home.

If she is going with a bunch of bar-prowling slags, who are all eager to ditch their rings and panties the second they cross the state line, well, then you have some more information to consider.

nataliieportman · 2014-09-22T22:53:23+00:00

Just let her go. You go out and have fun as well sitting at home thinking will drive you up the wall.

TVTestPattern · 2014-09-22T23:04:07+00:00

If you could snap your fingers, and the most beautiful woman in the universe would appear out of a spacecraft, and proceed to have the best sex in the universe with you, then fly away never to return and nobody would ever know... what would you do?

What would you do!?!

Squabbles123 · 2014-09-22T18:39:58+00:00

Sounds fairly harmless to me.

gregd28 · 2014-09-22T22:13:15+00:00

Do the same damn thing. What comes around, goes around.

[deleted] · 2014-09-23T00:14:01+00:00

A few things:

You're right to be uncomfortable; a drunken weekend partying out of state is going to give her many more temptations and opportunities to cheat than in everyday life, but
Almost all women will cheat/branch swing at some point due to hypergamy and it is a futile exercise to try to eliminate all opportunities to do so
If you intend to let her go on the trip, voicing your discomfort (as you have already done; stop!) is only going to make her see you as a weaker man and increase the odds of her cheating
Instead of voicing worry, you should be laying down the law on what conduct is and is not acceptable to you, and what the consequences are for breaking your trust (her ass and her belongings on the curb, at a minimum). This is not a negotiation
This entire situation could have been prevented if you were running solid dread game. View this as an opportunity to have a guilt-free bro trip to whatever sleazy destination you choose. Extra points for scheduling it on the same weekend

bleh321 · 2014-09-23T02:00:37+00:00

I had a similar one...

Gf was invited to her friends college ball and none of her friends were bringing their bfs.

So imagine this, a group of 3 girls going to a ball without their bfs... why?

the_red_scimitar · 2014-09-23T02:06:02+00:00

How is this even a shit-test? How exactly does it challenge your frame? Have you made a stance about such things being off-limits?

HiddenPools · 2014-09-23T04:10:22+00:00

Sounds like you're worried for some non-obvious reason. It's her COUSIN'S birthday party right?

Who cares?

As long as she hasn't been talking about how much she wanted to suck someone's cock in that state, you're good. Replace cousin with grandma, dad, brother, etc.

Tell her to take pictures.

[deleted] · 2014-09-23T09:24:37+00:00

Play it cool with some light dread.

[deleted] · 2014-09-23T14:38:09+00:00

how come you are not invited to her cousins borthday party?

[deleted] · 2014-09-22T21:50:51+00:00

Why is it a shit test if she wants to go out of town to party with her family and friends? You've known the girl for four years. This isn't a shit test. She's comfortable with you and you should trust her. Stop being so insecure. Even if you express your insecurity to her, she probably won't even care. Again, you've been in this thing for four fucking years. One moment of weakness is not going to destroy your relationship. Let go of all the RP philosophy for a moment and just take a step back. You're fine.

favours_of_the_moon · 2014-09-22T22:44:28+00:00

Being "controlling" means telling a white girl not to do something 1: stupid or 2: slutty.

She's TELLING YOU you have trust issues. If she KNOWS you have trust issues, then why is she pulling this bullshit? Fuck that bitch.

Zanford · 2014-09-22T20:24:45+00:00

Now that you've expressed concern, you CANNOT GIVE IN. That will be hard-failing a shit test. Many people here will say the way to handle this, if you really do trust her, is to not give a shit in the first place...but that ship has sailed. She will never believe you 'changed your mind' and decided you aren't concerned. If you let her go she will, correctly, know it's weakness.

Did she not invite you? You should have explained that in your story. You should also say more about who will be there (if it's all family, I wouldn't worry for example. If cousin is a slut and it's her + a bunch of other woo girls in Vegas, you should worry.)

Also, your first and second lines contradict each other ('I have no suspicion' vs 'I also trust a scorprion to sting'.) You clearly don't trust her 100% or you wouldn't have posted this. And you are smart not to trust her 100%. You would be an idiot if you did.

Your best move, if you can arrange it, is to plan a party for while she's gone, with lots of female friends and hot chicks invited. Then either your girlfriend doesn't go...or she DOES go, and you pick up a new plate. When your gf gets back you tell her you've 'done some thinking' and force her to agree to three ways with the new chick (and-or one-way openness where you have this chick on the side). If she says it's a double standard, you say yes, yes it is, take it or leave it. Even if you can't set this up, you should bluff to your gf that that's what you are doing. If she says 'but I'm hanging out with all girls' you reply "Oh! So you're be drinking at nightclubs that don't allow men?"

A good trick for establishing the double standard is to say to the girl "wait, would you want to have multiple guys?" she will of course say no, b/c she doesn't want to look like a slut/cheater in your eyes.

MasonJarTeaDrinker · 2014-09-22T22:13:26+00:00

I don't see it as a big deal, it's her sister's b day, if you're the Alpha and are laying the pipe down well then you shouldn't have to worry. Use that a lone time and to something for yourself playboy. If you start giving her shit about going drinking with her sister, you're gonna look like a self conscious little bitch.

Title	Big incoming shit test. LTR wants to go out of state for her cousins 30th Bday party.
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Upvotes	11
Comments	57
Date	September 22, 2014 5:51 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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