How can I take advantage of being the only male in a group?

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February 17, 2019
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Due to circumstances that were partially in my control I ended up in a college class where I'm the only man out of 30 students. The college module is Psychology and this specific class is sort of like a group therapy session, except it's not really about any problems we have, more about just putting people in a room to communicate and get to know each other. The class lasts around 2 hours and happens once a week.

I'm pretty intimidated by it, to be honest. I imagine being the only male in a group would polarize girls around me extremely quickly. I do have the intention to at the very least become friends with some of them, although attracting some sexually wouldn't be bad either.

I'm familiar enough with the red pill to kinda passively know what I'm doing more often than not but I'd appreciate any sort of advice or suggestions to help me deal with this situation specifically (to avoid the friendzone or even worse, get isolated by the group, and to instead, do my best to become what'd be considered an alpha male of the collective).


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Title How can I take advantage of being the only male in a group?
Author theRedpillcel
Upvotes 81
Comments 63
Date 17 February 2019 12:25 PM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit askTRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/218801
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/ark49b/how_can_i_take_advantage_of_being_the_only_male/
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[–]1atticusfinch197342 points43 points  (1 child) | Copy

Took a woman's studies course in university for an easy grade and was the only male - and it was hostile towards males. However, once I established frame and just made logical discussion about things from a male perspective, most of the women (except the full militant lesbians) liked having a different perspective.

Take is as a learning experience on how to talk to women in a low pressure environment and remove the fear you obviously have. Just make sure you have good frame and don't engage in stupid arguments.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

On a social studies module, i thought of taking this stance in a female dominated class room because i couldn't just stay quiet on gender issues and not have my view heard as a man.

But then i took the easier route and thought fk this ill just save my great points for the coursework n essays n started bunkin lessons lol when i'm ready i will go back to the former plan.

[–][deleted] 109 points110 points  (18 children) | Copy

Whatever, dramatic shit where you eat.

Just dont rush it or focus on these chicks. They are only good once you split.

Prime them but dont fuck them while the class is on. Near the close move in for the kill.

Game other women, become 'friends' with the attractive ones but dont try to take them all the way till class is all the way finished.

Not worth your future or your grades to fuck around with classmates you cant escape.

[–][deleted] 9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy

This, I would only game and move in once the class or module is about to finish.

You don’t want to be fucking/dating girls in the same class as you. I guess you can build up a rep till then nd try moving in towards the end.

[–]brockies3 1 points [recovered]  (4 children) | Copy

This is bad advice. Becoming “friends” first is a nice guy move, and women don’t want that. They find it weasel-y. Find a girl in the class you’re interested in, sit next to her, get to know her a bit. When the time is right, ask her out and work from there. Make your intentions known from the offset

[–]i_like_herr22 points23 points  (0 children) | Copy

The word friend is thrown around way too often nowadays.

sit next to her, get to know her a bit

This is what some people consider a friend now.

[–][deleted] 7 points8 points  (2 children) | Copy

He shouldn't fuck with them at all. He's at school.

Best they can do is introduce him to people outside of class, that requires friendship

It's not all about pussy bro, it's about networking, job opportunities, social opportunities and having a good life.

Don't ask any of them out, get to know them and be a friend.

It's not just a nice guy move, it's something you do when you don't intent to fuck the women you shouldn't fuck but you still want to use them for everything else they are good for.

[–]iwanttoracecars2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

Dude thanks for saying that I'm 100% on board with this advice. It's fucking college man it's your last chance to easily build lifelong connections it would be in OPs favor to get friend zoned and be cool with it and potnetially make moves after they hit the CC a lil and feel comfortable with OP, u feel me lol as long as OP has game and stays busy with other plates and talks about it with the "friend zoned" chicks from class he can almost always undo it without breaking frame.

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Pussy hungry kids don't understand if you network and engage with women you aren't going to fuck tomorrow, chances are high you will fuck them later.

We aren't trying to prevent friendships here at the red pill, we are trying to stop kids from having fake ass friendships.

Orbiting is not a friendship, it's getting tooled by a bitch. A friendship is a mutual interaction, plenty of those male and female will yield you more pussy in the long term SPECIFICALLY because you aren't such a fucking idiot that you only talk with women you MIGHT fuck like some kind of super chode.

[–]lampshade28181 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

I like this. A, "Dramatic shit where you eat" will establish dominance.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Put a little bit into each female's meal daily, totally going to bang them all.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (8 children) | Copy

That is the most bullshit response I could imagine. I truly miss the red pill community.

I would game as many as possible. None of those girls are teaching your classes, or handing out grades. Live and enjoy your life. The worst thing that can happen is you gain a reputation for having smashed a lot of pussy that only raises your stock.

[–][deleted] -1 points0 points  (6 children) | Copy

No, the worst that can happen is they all talk about you together and realize you are trying to fuck them all and decide as a group not to fuck you, talk shit about what a sleeze ball you are, and file sexual harassment charges because, just like in an actual job, the educational establishment is not a place to get sexual with women.

You can, at a very heavy risk, there are a million better places to go do this.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

That is what a group of men would do. With a group of women, the most attractive thing you can do is to garner the attention (even more the twats) of several women.

[–][deleted] -1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

My male friends talked about how great it was to all be fucking the same chick.

I mean shes one of a few plates, no big deal. A hole is a hole.

[–]FuckMichaelMcCoy0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

Idk about all that but realistically they would just “creep-zone” him at worst. Meaning they would isolate him and fucking hate if he’s in their group.

The friend zone they at least will pretend to enjoy your company and be polite.

The fuck zone is set explanatory

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

I know you dont that's why I told you.

It's a sharper contrast with a big pack of women.

It can work out but its dramatic. Women are better isolated with you not with you then with a pack to chat about your every move every day in the class you are trying to pass.

[–]FuckMichaelMcCoy0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

I agree with everything in your original comment except for the sexual harassment lmfao. They won’t go there if he’s just trying to flirt..

Op should just work on “passive gaming” which is slow long term game. Flirt a little, plant seeds then let them grow and blossom. Once it’s a full blown plant then fuck the plant (end of semester)

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I really try to do this with every woman all the time.

I mean I just don't really think about it at this point. I'm gaming every woman I come in contact with no matter what. I enjoy it, they enjoy it. That's one of the most beautiful experiences of my life.

[–]someonesopinion6969-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

this retard doesn't understand psychology

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Fuck off the bitches. Take their money and run

[–][deleted] 31 points32 points  (1 child) | Copy

Act like the Prince of Bel Air.

[–]theRedpillcel[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy

That's surprisingly applicable.

[–]SalporinRP22 points23 points  (0 children) | Copy

You're gonna get some attention because you're the only guy obviously.

Just don't act like it phases you.

Talk to the people in your class and become friendly with them.

One thing I learned from college is that you can never know too many people. If you go out to the bars or to a party and you know 20 people there and they like you that's instant social proof.

[–]someonesopinion696916 points17 points  (3 children) | Copy

yeah don't shit where you eat unless you want to make it awkward in class. if stuff happens, it happens, use this as an opportunity to get to be comfortable around women. don't be all sperged out because it's intimidating

[–]theRedpillcel[S] 2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

Yeah I can see the benefit of viewing it as a learning experience.

As long as I don't do some stupidly polarizing stuff, I should be fine.

[–]someonesopinion69694 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

the most important thing to remember is that you're there to study, not to get laid

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

I’d say play and create sexual tension with as many as you like. But NEVER make any actual move until the course ends, it’s ok to invite them to social events, it’s ok to flirt a little bit. As soon as the course ends, threesomes!

[–]anylegtypes 1 points [recovered]  (1 child) | Copy

  • Above all, come across as relaxed. Being around lots of women is normal to you, you're not the type of guy to put on an act or try to show anything off. Just chill out first, and adopt useful behaviours second.

  • Women love polarisation. If you have a dissenting opinion, share it! If you have a cocky joke to make to someone about a lecture slide, share it! As long as you do so good naturedly and because YOU enjoy it, not because you're trying to show off, it will come across fine. Girls will likely push back at it (e.g. speak up to disagree with your opinion) but unless there is actual anger in their voice... this is just playing a role, like how a slapstick character in a skit will often have a very serious 'foil' to balance them. Girls genuinely like having a different male perspective, personality, etc. around them.

  • Balance any cockiness with seriousness and respectability - if you are making jokes to a girl sitting next to you, you should also be organising study sessions and taking them 100% seriously, asking the best questions you can, etc. You have the ability to occupy the best of the lover / provider dynamics all at once, without losing attention inherently given to you as 'the guy' in the class, so take it! (This is as opposed to say a club environment where you might need to have a 100% polarised personality to stand out - I don't do nearly as well in those situations)

  • If it's like a group therapy session as you say, come with something you're prepared to talk about. THINK about the interesting things that happened that week, and what INTERESTING feelings you may have had or commentary on them, and come prepared to chat! This doesn't have to be done in any kind of "venting" way - it should have more of a "kicked back on a couch having life chats at a house party at 2am" vibe to it, though a touch more formal than that as it's during the day. You're not using the class as therapy - it's just chilled out sharing what's on your mind almost as though they're not even there, you're half musing to yourself.

  • Probably the best advice I have to give is to mostly forget all the shit you read in this thread (including my post) and just focus on interacting with the girls! You'll learn more and improve more and get more comfortable around women by going for coffee with a bunch of them, or organising a study session, than you will by sitting nervously in class analysing yourself and how alpha you are. Even if you only become friends with some, or even if you DON'T become friends at all, get as much interaction as you can and learn from it.

[–]theRedpillcel[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Great advice. I really appreciate it. In essence, it's just about using the general guidelines of TRP in a situation that really makes it easy for them to be effective.

Cheers.

[–]Rkingpin6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

Get to know them and enter their social circles to meet new chicks.

Also use as social proof if you people ever go out as a group

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

Lmfao wtf

[–]xddm26530 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

OP majoring in gender studies

[–]ChadTheWaiter1002 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

A few weeks ago I was in a group like this for school. It was composed of one sexy-looking feminist girl, and 3 other beta males. Up to this point I hadn’t spoken to either of them. This was an elective class that wasn’t really relevant to my major. I was a senior at the time so to sum it up I didn’t really give a fuck about the class besides getting an A in it.

So anyway, it was some group activity. Almost immediately the hot girl, that I described above, looked to me and said “what do you think we should do.” After that, or maybe before, all the beta males looked at me for leadership as well. Of course I took full advantage of this. Just to see how far I could play with them I said the most absurd things. And also because it was just an exercise not for a grade.

It was a list of 20 items. I don’t really remember everything. But it was 20 items and you needed to prioritize this. 20 items of some shit for survival if you were stranded on an island. Some of them were: a bottle of liquor, water, flare gun, shit like that.

So I said, with a straight face- I would choose bottle of liquor first. They looked confused. I explained to them that during this time I would be anxious or nervous so I would take a few shots so I could think clearly. I didn’t REALLY believe this I was just fucking around. But they all agreed! Can you believe that? And they weren’t dumasses either. This was a sophomore-junior level class that I had neglected to take until my last semester.

Anyway, my point to this story is - YOU ARE THE MAN; take advantage of it.

[–]8380atgmaildotcom1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Just sit there don't do anything and see what happens

[–]swimminginblue3 points4 points  (9 children) | Copy

You’re familiar with the Red Pill but have repeatedly participated/posted on an Incel sub ? You need to get away from that toxic waste right away. You are not RedPill aware and this post shows it.

[–]theRedpillcel[S] 5 points6 points  (4 children) | Copy

I stand behind everything I posted there and I don't think any of it can be used against me. It's either my opinions which you can specify if you disagree with them or just memes, which should obviously not be taken seriously.

I don't think the two communities are as different as you think and I certainly don't think we should avert our eyes from other opinions, even if they're commonly viewed as toxic.

[–]bloody_condoms7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

I respect your opinion a lot. I may not agree with it, but standing behind your belief is rare these days.

[–]aDrunkenWhaler1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

If you hang around millionaires, chances are you will become a millionaire. If you hang around thugz, chances are you will become a thug.

[–]xddm26531 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

So a drug counselor will inevitably become a junkie?

[–]aDrunkenWhaler2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

So a drug counselor will inevitably become a junkie?

We are social creatures and are influenced by our surrounding. First our parents, then our friends and entourage. If you hang with junkies, yes, chances are you will become one.

For drug counselors is different because they are in a position of authority, like a teacher, priest, leader etc. Their role is to help and make others be more like him, not be part of the group. To lead, not to try to be accepted.

PS1 - I said 'chances are', not 'inevitably will' dumbass PS2 - Make no mistakes, most pshycologist are fucked in the head, especially those that deal with addictions. I should know, one of my plates is one.

[–]iwanttoracecars0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

Lmao, which sub?

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

braincels.

[–]iwanttoracecars0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Wow I don't even know what the hell that is. I feel like I should be saying this as Ron Swanson

[–]xddm26530 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

How about sharing what he posted instead of leaving us without context?

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

Let me give you a foolish advice that may or may not work.Pretend you don't give an f about them. Help them when they need help, otherwise just ignore them.Keep to yourself, and be very good at the course you are studying.

[–]theRedpillcel[S] 1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

Just to clear things up, the course itself is hardly an important one. The only "grade" we get for it is from a paper we write at the end of it, which is basically a journal of our activities in the group. Everyone passes this course without having to study.

As far as pretending not to care goes, that's pretty much my default mode (probably to the extend that I seem hostile) and it has in fact not worked very well for me so far. I think I come off as arrogant or douchey. Gotta work on finding a balance between neediness and arrogance.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

Yeah seeming hostile is not good. The balance you mentioned is good idea, but hard to actually do. What I tried to say is to spark curiosity in them, when a guy is too friendly/pushy/nice is usually gets the opposite effect or you end up in a friendzone. Anyways good luck

[–]theRedpillcel[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Thanks man.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (8 children) | Copy

Why would you take a class like this?

[–]theRedpillcel[S] 0 points1 point  (6 children) | Copy

I take Psychology in my college and it's mostly girls that take it with me. You could say that the split is around 20/80 on average, but this specific group (one of many for the same subject - "communication in group" or whatever) ended up being all girls except for me.

It's not a subject for girls tho, per se, it just incidentally happened this way.

[–][deleted] -1 points0 points  (5 children) | Copy

Ok. Studying psychology is fine. What I don't get is why as a TRP aware man you would take a class that is essentially a group therapy session where you're the only guy. You will get a lot of attention, which is good, but you'll have to work super hard to maintain high value, which is bad. You've set yourself up in a situation where you've mandated yourself to reveal your emotions not just to a single woman, but a classroom full of them. You wil not just be the best friend, you'll have to work hard to prove you're not the gay best friend. You can just about forget gaming any of these women, because if things go even a bit south from the woman's perspective, good luck getting any sympathy or help in class for getting work done and good luck keeping your reputation good, you'll have 29 women on you and no men to bond with and help you out. You'll be the emotional tampon and the guy she'll tell her boyfriend about as her guy friend. Notice how you're not the boyfriend.

Unless there is a very very good reason that you want to take this class wrt to your career or earning potential, I would recommend dropping this class asap, because this is very much a lose-lose.

[–]theRedpillcel[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

You're misunderstanding, or maybe I wasn't clear enough.

I already took this class for a year before and was in a different group (groups change every year) and it's not as serious as you put it. I don't know exactly how I'd describe it to someone who hasn't experienced it, but it's mostly about just discussing popular issues and being split into smaller groups to work together on essentially stupid tasks. It's supposed to be a low effort communication class sort of thing where everyone passes and it also gives you some extra credit for psychotherapy studies later.

I understand your concern but trust me, I ain't gonna talk about my emotions and that's not really what the class is about anyway. I know better than to kill the mystery.

[–]failingtheturingtest3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Gday think he understood your description just fine. His point is, taking a class in sitting around discussing opinions with college chicks is taking a gossip class.

Your choice in class is one thing. Your thread shows you haven't really learned much from the red pill. Your comments show that you aren't willing to listen to people who disagree with your opinion.

So you're in the right class. You'll be able to talk all day about your opiniins like they matter with people who either agree or won't really listen. And at the end you can walk around like you made a difference. You'll make plenty of girl friends and a some of them might even fuck you when they're bored because you're a safe option.

[–]someonesopinion6969-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

we need more male psychologists, it's already bad enough that this guy is 1/30. neither are you attending to college to get laid, it's a class to understand the human mind(hopefully ha!)

[–]santlaurentdon-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

What I don't get is why as a TRP aware man you would take a class that is essentially a group therapy session where you're the only guy.

lmfao you're a pussy

[–]someonesopinion69690 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Personally if you're interested in psychology, you would have no choice in choosing what genders fill your class. don't forget redpill is psychology 101

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Act like you don’t want any of them.

[–]theRedpillcel[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

That's my usual strategy but I've had little luck with it. I think I come off as an asshole when I'm cold towards people. I imagine in this specific circumstance it could work better, tho.

[–]PlantainNationalism-3 points-2 points  (3 children) | Copy

Imagine not AMOGging a group of g*rls. OP is a faggot

[–]theRedpillcel[S] 2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

You interestingly calm me down with that point.

[–]PlantainNationalism4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

No need to thank me, citizen.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

bahaha.



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