Girlfriend of 4 months, "made out for the heck of it" with a gay guy friend in front of other friends?

tothetopbaby1 · 2019-03-13T12:08:15+00:00

Definitely demote to FWB/Plate...Definitely line up threesome with the female friend

RP0986 · 2019-03-13T12:22:35+00:00

What you likely have here is someone who’s heavily invested in the modern “Let’s just be free and open and not have any constraints” type.

A lot of people are like that now. Kissing someone else is no big deal because it just happened and it was “for the hell of it”.

This isn’t the type of girl you’d want to LTR but could be fun if you can remove investment. If you’re <35 these kinds of girls are great to bring other girls into play with and fulfil fantasies.

Just don’t be suprised when it’s “oh we were all fucking, dumb shit like that lol”

ramfex21 · 2019-03-13T13:00:58+00:00

So she pretty much told you outright that given the right circumstance she will cheat on you. I’d take this as a shit test where the only way you pass is if you break up with her or completely demote her. Otherwise you give her permission to do something like this again.

SirKolbath · 2019-03-13T12:55:35+00:00

exgirlfriend

FITY, Fam.

The-Wizard-of-Oz- · 2019-03-13T13:13:09+00:00

Dump her. She'll sleep with gay guy & pass it off as a no big deal. Does she have no respect for you???

Wait & see. Eventually you'll regret it.

Better idea: first dump her. THEN, promote to FWB. Go for threesomes.

civilizedfrog · 2019-03-13T13:41:33+00:00

She seems like the girl who will use the "It was just sex. What's the big deal?" right after cucking you.

RedLegendx · 2019-03-13T12:10:21+00:00

I’d either break up with her and hard next, or demote all the way down to bottom of the barrel plate.

WindIsMyMusic · 2019-03-13T13:42:33+00:00

Don't make it worse for both of you. This case shows she's uncomfortable in the commitment, so she won't stay committed for too long. She just won't tell you next time.

So LTR should be off the table, but if she agrees, keep her as a FWB/Plate.

menial_optimist · 2019-03-13T14:26:40+00:00

I never understand the advice of "Yeah just demote to plate/fwb". How could that even be accomplished. All of the sudden you start withdrawing emotional/LTR support and you go back to just texting for logistics and fucking. Well I give it no more than 2 weeks before your former LTR is freaking the fuck out applying massive dread/drama to your life because you're not responding anymore as a boyfriend. Also plate status implies you fuck other women as well so you're going to go out and start fucking other women as well?

Well if your former LTR finds out guess what, now the world knows via social media you're a cheating scumbag. Second off how does one "demote to plate/fwb" after you've been in a LTR longer than 6 months. All that built up emotional attachment can just be overridden in a matter of 2 seconds? I don't think so.

bruiser18 · 2019-03-13T15:59:01+00:00

Trickle truth my friend.

She no longer has a claim to your non-sexual time and attention.

HurricaneHugues · 2019-03-13T18:39:21+00:00

"Says "it wasn't sexual or anything, we all were kissing, just doing random dumb shit like that lol". "

What part of the game is that? This chick is trash and I would advise you to dump her. That type of volatile and risky behavior only brings headaches and diseases. She's not even fit for plate status.

sexykavu · 2019-03-13T22:35:56+00:00

You already know the answer.

I had a roommate who has a girl friend who pulled the same stunt. Guess what ended up happening? she fucked at least 3 people that we know of and i could have been one of them if I had no honor.

Get rid of the bitch

hype1985 · 2019-03-13T12:10:27+00:00

Thank god I’m single. Jesus.

Bedtimeshine · 2019-03-13T14:09:56+00:00

You follow through with consequences and you let her earning her way back to being a plate be up to her... and then you let her earn going from plate back to gf if she’s got what it takes.

frick-a-frack · 2019-03-13T15:06:43+00:00

You’re a fool if you’re even still in contact with her.

Deathcon1337 · 2019-03-13T17:36:08+00:00

Would you have made out with a lesbian? How do you think she would have responded?

Don't answer those. Don't even think about her anymore. Break up. A woman who does things like this is far from LTR material.

smartstarfish · 2019-03-13T13:54:05+00:00

You say: next time invite me.

bruiser18 · 2019-03-13T17:08:55+00:00

Disgracefully disrespectful. Dump that bitch. I’d demote to plate.

law_of_life · 2019-03-13T18:12:18+00:00

Remember every time you go into kiss her you’re getting sloppy seconds from a guy who probably had dick in his mouth not too long ago. I’d demote. OR imagine if the rolls are reversed. Say you kiss a lesbian girl just for the lols. How would she react? Hm

VandalRP · 2019-03-13T18:18:09+00:00

You should have ended the relationship as soon as she told you this. She just admitted she cheated on you. You should either hard next her or make a plate.

RedHoodhandles · 2019-03-13T19:08:51+00:00

Lol. Hard next. Why are you even asking?

MOSFETBJT · 2019-03-13T20:56:53+00:00

Shit tests cross the line when she does something that makes you feel unattracted to her.

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Bruchibre · 2019-03-13T14:57:32+00:00

Marry her. Keeper here.

Title	Girlfriend of 4 months, "made out for the heck of it" with a gay guy friend in front of other friends?
Author	Striking_Glove
Upvotes	10
Comments	42
Date	March 13, 2019 12:03 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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"Says "it wasn't sexual or anything, we all were kissing, just doing random dumb shit like that lol". "