I’ve previously posted on here about having a narcissistic male as my partner.

My current situation is that I am single, I have not returned back to him. I have had this mindset that if I am positive, strong and focus on myself that I will attract the right things in life.. as so that has started to happen.

I feel that I am currently in a good place with my life right now and this is the year to purely focus on ME! Who I let into my life will vary as they have to bring value to it.

I currently started seeing this male. He is 11 years older than me.. he is a very high quality man, has his life together and still is striving for more, has goals and a lot of high quality things to his life, he is fit/well built and attractive, he’s a gentlemen and knows how to treat a girl but does also have nice male dominant sides that I like but also keeps in touch with his feeling of expression. He puts so much effort into me wether that would be buying my a flower, planning dates, initiating paying for dates, texts and calls me, compliments me and makes me feel special and noticed. This was everything that I could’ve asked for..

On the other hand.. I do still get really upset about losing my ex. I have withdrawals. Me and him had shared so many nice memories, laughs, inside jokes, moments together, I was completely comfortable with him and I felt as though we were on the same level. I liked the same music as him, we liked doing the same things, going on hikes etc.. it was about the simply things in life. Although I have been told I was a plate. That he had set times and days for me. That he gamed other girls, he disrespected me, he made me feel less than I was from time to time. He didn’t go out of his way to do something nice for me unless it were to be to plan a day together. In times of doubt I was left crying, needing him the most and he would not communicate. I didn’t spend time with his family as he was distant from them.. He has a lot of good but A LOT of bad. And I wanted to stay by him no matter what. I saw a potential future with him, kids and all. But it got to a point were I had enough of being disrespected and de-valued.

2 weeks into the breakup he had tried contacting me and not in the right way. Asking for me back and that made me push him away just by how he was handling it. Things had occurred and that made me resent him. On the 3rd week he had a different approach to me.. apologising for all he had done and how he treated me and how much I deserve to be treated better. He said he would direct us in a different path.. that he wanted something different for us. He said he would change to help me and him.. He said I would be able to spend time with him and his family and so much more. He was just giving me hope of ALL that I had wanted from him within the 2 years of dating. Why is he offering that now? He said he realised what he has lost.. is he just playing with my head, giving my false beliefs so I make a return and for him to continue how he was down the track? Do things change or do men change? I heard they don’t.

I’m so open to my new opportunity with this new deserving guy .. I admire him so much

But I’m so hurt from my past, as that guy had meant the world to me.. it sucks to move forward.

What are your opinions? Suggestion of any tips?