Any other guys in here who missed out on sex/relationships in their adolescence and early 20s but had success when they got older?

2014-10-03T06:21:58+00:00

Didn't have sex until freshman year of college

Three 2-3 year LTRs until I was 27

Discovered TRP last year

10 girls in the last year.

I'm very happy with where I am and I still have a long way to go

Derzu_Uzala · 2014-10-03T15:59:38+00:00

25 years old, never had sex or been in a relationship. The sexual frustration is dragging me down, that's why I subscribed to the red pill. To try and teach myself I don't need a woman or sex to be happy and successfull. Its not working out so far but im trying.

clam61 · 2014-10-03T09:51:18+00:00

Had only 5 sexual partners until age 29. Two were LTR. One of those LTRs was a marriage.

Now I am 33 and as of last week I am up to 46. Two of them also were LTR.

I feel great about it. In some ways I want an LTR but I can't seem to find anyone who makes me want another LTR

FrameWalker · 2014-10-03T14:53:22+00:00

Lost virginity early 20s, mixed success. Redpill has created a great pipeline. No dry spells longer than 2 weeks, and plates oh man oh man.

Derzu_Uzala · 2014-10-03T17:28:40+00:00

I am almost 50 yo, married for 9 years an with an 8 yo daughter.

Adolescence and early 20 were hell for me. Depression (medicated), incel, beta to the max, etc. Then a LTR of almost 5 years, from 23 to 28. Finally thanks to earlier gurus from the internet I managed to fuck and get relationships with beautiful women, in some cases almost 15 years younger than me.

It can be done.

What still hurts is not the missing out of sex or relationships, because you can get tons of it if you follow the RP path, but the LIFE wasted.

To0n1 · 2014-10-03T06:12:25+00:00

Feeling happy now. I think with all the experience I have now, I'm not missing out on much from not being active earlier.

Lost my V at 23 while on a studying abroad program. I consider that my mid 20s. I wasn't waiting for religious reasons, I just didn't date much, or dated those that were waiting till marriage.

Locastor · 2014-10-03T15:39:44+00:00

Lost V at 19, clueless till 23.

Life has been good since then.

Philhelm · 2014-10-03T18:42:53+00:00

I'm currently 34 and I didn't lose my virginity until I was 20, and I didn't ever date in high school. I don't know how many women I've had sex with since then, maybe 60 - 70.

I was born brainy and scrawny, and had blond hair and thick, thick glasses, but I had a pretty face. On top of that, I went to ten schools from first grade until my senior year in high school, so I never developed long-term friendships which made it more difficult.

Right out of high school, I was 135 lbs., but was wearing contacts, and managed to lose my virginity to an older woman, and then banged a couple of younger women I met through school or parties. I started lifting weights and got up to 165 lbs. and enlisted in the Army. After I got back from Iraq, I ended up with the "unicorn" I had been beta orbiting. 3.5 year later, the relationship became stale and I cheated on her with a girl I had a thing for in high school (she would have never even looked my way back then, so it felt good to give it to her).

Since then, I banged women, had some threesomes, and even an orgy with four girls in one night. Unfortunately, now I'm married and my sex life sucks, which brings me here.

40Watts · 2014-10-03T16:14:06+00:00

Didn't get laid until 22. After that the red pill clicked with me. Had sex with 3 more girls. I'm still 22.

mbillion · 2014-10-03T19:52:35+00:00

It gets better and better. When you are young you are confused, developing, uncertain, broke, a bunch of things that are not very manly.

As you approach late twenties if you are anything like me you get your shit together, it just seems right at the time, and things that women view as manly just come with the territory.

sociologist098 · 2014-10-03T22:19:39+00:00

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atlas87 · 2014-10-04T04:33:08+00:00

I didn't miss out on sex in high school or early 20's, but I will add that once you start getting good at this, the returns are compounding. Lost my virginity beginning of junior year of high school. 10 girls in high school, probably 50 by the time I was 22 but honestly I still felt inadequate and every night I wasn't getting laid was a huge blow to my ego and self-esteem. This is because I still needed constant external validation for all of my successes.

The next 4 years I started taking pickup very seriously and have been with around 150 women at the age of 27, and have spent almost half that time deployed competing with hundreds of dudes to scrape the bottom of the barrel. I'm currently almost a year into a LTR with a 20yo that I'll probably marry or at least be with for a while. I've been with enough women to know that this is about as close to the unicorn as it gets, especially since I started dating her when she was 19 and have helped shape her worldview for the majority of her adult life.

I will say that everything you do in your life can add to your SMV. As I take on more responsibility at work and supervise more young men and women, I have naturally developed a more dominant and no-nonsense attitude. I also have thousands of hours out in social settings dealing with random men and women and can effectively apply everything I've learned to those situations. Both of these skills, and make no mistake ... they are skills, have been necessary to cultivate in order for people to take me seriously either at work or at the club.

I can empathize with people but still set and enforce boundaries. I know how to dominate someone socially, but can also build someone up without coming off as a kiss-ass. I have enough experience to know which is appropriate.

I started getting this experience as a teen, and have let it compound into adulthood. If you're older and missed out on it, the only way you're going to improve at it is to start getting into it.

fnordsnord · 2014-10-06T20:34:51+00:00

I girl I knew was trying to bait me into an LTR at 16 helped me get rid of that troublesome virginity. It did a lot for my confidence. I also did anal with another girl who was determined to save her vag for marriage. There may have been a maximum of two others. I'm not sure, because I went to high school AND college with both of them, so it may have been later.

Bottom line: my max count leaving HS was 4. I may have made it to 12 by the end of college. I haven't exactly been notching it up since then, having reached a mere 28 by the time I was 50.

Being married has really cramped my style. I have an open marriage, but the number of women interested in dating a married dude is amazingly small. Almost as though they wanted long term relationships, or something.

So - my advice? You want a high notch count, stay single.

2014-10-15T00:45:53+00:00

Early 50's here. Didn't get any during my adolescence, and was an AFC/Beta that got married at age 25 only to find myself in a sexless marriage. Being the Beta that I was it took me a long time to dump her sorry ass, so I found myself divorced at age 32 with 3 body count under my belt, and highly inexperienced in everything from dating to sex, even worst I though I knew it all since I listen to women and watched romantic movies.

Fuck me right?

Fast forward to today in my early 50's, in spite of a second marriage and divorce I have a very high body count, I lift so I am in the best shape of my life, I spin 2 plates (39 and 42, with amazing bodies and beauty) who know about each other but are exclusive to me, and I also get to pick up something on the side as young as early 20's.

Life's good, this is the best period of my life!

telechronn · 2014-10-03T23:10:01+00:00

I didn't get laid until college. Hell I didn't kiss a girl until college. At ages 16-19 I was kind of frustrated, but that is not the peak of your life, not even close. I'm in my late 20s know, making more money than ever, smarter/more learned than ever, and enjoying women more than ever.

I'm glad I discovered game/trp/self improvement in my 20s than my 40s, thats for sure, but it's never really too late.

I look back on certain parts of my life and cringe, but then I realize the mistakes were great learning experiences. That's what matters.

Ever fucking day I wake up, Life keeps getting better. But you have to fucking work for it. You have to take it, no one is going to give it to you.

kempff · 2014-10-03T07:09:11+00:00

I'm happy now, but I went vol-cel this year after swallowing the pill. I'm 47 and I'm done.

RedPillSafe · 2014-10-03T14:56:06+00:00

Had great and abundant sex from 18-40 then it's tapered off as I've gotten older (53 now) but it's more about me going MGTOW. Once you realize who women really are and the screwed up Feminist stuff they think it's easy to sit back and not partake. But I'm always open to the idea of getting in again so I'm not "ideologically MGTOW" like some can be. I'd likely just spin plates or a plate until it fell. (next when needed)

Guys definitely "peak".

But I've heard stories of guys that went most of their lives without sex and then becoming Casanovas in the retirement home.

2014-10-03T17:12:23+00:00

How can someone write about the same topic over and over again? Get over it man.

All those women who didn't want you when you were younger, didn't want you for superficial reasons. Maybe you didn't have enough money. Maybe you didn't have the status. Maybe you weren't tall enough.

Don't beat yourself up about it. If you just wanna pump and dump chicks, you're perfectly justified in doing so. If you're like most guys, you would've taken a girl with small tits. You would've taken a girl with no curves whatsoever. You would've taken a girl with acne. You wouldn't take a girl who didn't have the status or the money. If a girl wouldn't take you for anything superficial, it's not YOUR problem. Don't treat it like it is.

And btw, the balance of power shifts the older you get as a man. You have nothing to be down about.

nomdplume · 2014-10-03T18:41:48+00:00

Yeah, I was pretty much a mess when it came to all things sexual through my early twenties. I turned things around some after that, but I still wasn't much of a "player." (Though, to be fair, the ass I did pull was incredibly hot and the sex was mind-blowing - I guess I got quality over quantity, which worked for me).

Then, when I was 25, I got into a LTR that turned into a marriage that is still going.

I have no real regrets about my "wasted youth." I mean, looking back, I see all the mistakes I made, all of the places where I could have/should have gotten laid and didn't, and I kick myself for not making it happen, but I'm not torn up by it.

I've been pretty happy with how my sex life turned out overall (until a couple years ago, at least , but hey, I had a good run for years, and I might still get some of it back).

Funny enough, I've slept with more women since I've been married than I did when I was single, lol…

EDIT: Added more experience, lol...

2014-10-03T18:59:48+00:00

Older Redditor here at age 53.

To make a long story short I found myself in my early 30's divorcing my wife of 7 years, with a body count under my belt of 3 including wife. To make matters worst I was Blue Pill, AFC, Mr Nice Guy. I fucked up, fucked up even more, somehow discovered the early secuction/PUA material, kept improving, became an accomplished PUA, got married again, got divorced again.

Recently I have also discovered The Red Pill, but even before that I am enjoying my life, in true TRP spirit I am focusing on myself and my life, pussy is a secondary thing, I am fit, very fit, more fit than all of my friends who are in their 40's 30's and some in their 20's; financially secure, I have 2 plate, a main one and a secondary one, and here and there I get some extra including some graduate college women in their 20's.

You can look at it this way: follow TRP and life gets better, much better every year.

Title	Any other guys in here who missed out on sex/relationships in their adolescence and early 20s but had success when they got older?
Author	sociologist098
Upvotes	16
Comments	44
Date	October 3, 2014 6:06 AM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/TheRedPill
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