EDIT: something happened to my original post.... Editing on my iPad was a bad idea because it replaced my original post with a comment response... So this is a retype/summary of the original post.

Over the weekend I went to a seminar given by Dr. Glover. And I was really surprised at how RP he is. One comment that stuck out the most was, (to paraphrase)

In today's highly feminist society feelings are glorified, even when they're not real

Part of the reason we weren't raised as men is there wasn't enough, "Why are you blowing this way out of proportion? Why is X such a big deal?"

Instead we were coddled, our feelings were validated and others were allowed to overreact too.

And feminism relies on this. The feminist paradigm depends on everyone validating people's overreaction to what they feel. Without an emphasis on feelings, the feminist imperative has much less force.

This doesn't mean you don't pay attention to feelings or completely disregard them. It's ok for people to feel.

But if a woman's overreacting, you don't need to act as if those feelings are real. I wouldn't tell a woman to stop feeling something. But I would let her know I think she's overreacting. And that will probably piss her off, and she will try to convince you otherwise. But holding frame will tell her she has two choices, to stay in her overreacting frame or join you.

And if your buddy is overreacting, tell him. Tell him he's acting like a baby. Address his behavior. Let him know his oneitis won't bring back "the love of his life". It's only hurting him and it's fucking pointless.

And if I'm reacting at all, I'm probably overreacting. Because men don't react, they act. And if I'm overreacting by feeling X, I act by feeling ~X. That means if I'm feeling a bunch of anxiety that's really just an overreaction, I let the anxiety do its thing but act in a way that calms me down. I do something that creates an opposite feeling that will neutralize my overreaction.

So stop overreacting. Stop whining about AWALT. You can keep that up if you want, but it's only fucking with you. Women aren't changing.

Stop getting caught up in so much feeling. Stop validating everything you and everyone else feels. You'll be much happier if you do.