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The "men love more than women" paradigm is studied by psychologists and confirmed

I3luee
September 1, 2014
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Title The "men love more than women" paradigm is studied by psychologists and confirmed
Author

I3luee
Upvotes 63
Comments 28
Date September 1, 2014 1:31 PM UTC
(11 years ago)
Subreddit Posted in /r/TheRedPill
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/2f61z7/the_men_love_more_than_women_paradigm_is_studied/
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Comments

[–][deleted] 19 points20 points21 points 11 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link

This should be taken to bank, nay, even taught in high school. Men will have the ability to love more unconditionally than women (aka women love opportunistically.)

[–][deleted] 21 points22 points23 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Men are the romantics that try to be realists and women the realists that try to be romantics. This is something every newbie needs to burn into their brain.

Men love unconditionally. Women love opportunistically.

[–]1whatsazipper 1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

You can observe that with fostering and adoption too. Men who are fatherly fare better. Women seem inept at actually caring for others' offspring.

I suppose that's how women can get away with cuckolding too. Men can form strong bonds with non-kin. Women, hardly. They only seem to have a strong bond with their children, and transient hypergamous loyalty to desirable men.

[–]ModMachiavellianRed 2 points3 points4 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Heh, until such a time the side bar link will have to suffice.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

even taught in high school

It should be the first lesson in sex education

[–][deleted] 11 years ago (15 children) | Copy Link

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[–]4io813 points 11 years ago* [recovered] (10 children) | Copy Link

It all makes sense when you realise that your love was never meant for just for one woman. Thats a lie you are sold by society.

You can love anything. From a dog to your country. Your boat or a sport. Your bro's. Even just an idea, a dream.

When you realise this it sets you free to love the things that are worth giving your whole life to. Things way more meaningful than the fickle feelings of a single woman.

To me, thats the red pill.

[–]DirtyNamesGetBlocked 2 points3 points4 points 11 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link

So to a man, love is anything we can put our hearts into and make it grow. You can love a tree, you can love your land, you can love anything that you want to see become better. We love what we can build up. What do we get out of our love? We get the satisfaction of knowing that our hard work resulted in something wonderful. Thats what love is. Making something wonderful.

Women will never have that. Go back to that Island Survivor reality show. Women didn't build anything, they didn't want to see anything grow, they wanted to consume. And thats the bottom line. Women consume, men provide.

Women love what they consume, men love what they provide to.

[–]4io81 points 11 years ago [recovered] (1 child) | Copy Link

They love themselves and their kids.

[–]needless_pickup_line 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Many people, men and women, see children as an extension of one's self.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

I would lean more toward "covet" before "love", even.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link

This makes me feel really good. After internalizing that at age 20 I am pretty much useless to women I was pretty depressed. Not because I'm young, but for the reason that I am young, which is very shallow. And the fact that women my age are living it up and I'm busting my ass.

how do I stop feeling jealous?

[–]4io86 points 11 years ago* [recovered] (3 children) | Copy Link

I say this as an older guy who was twenty quite a while ago. I say this out of respect and because I have learnt that every boy/man needs guys in their life who will kick their ass to keep them moving in the right direction.

For fuck's sake go out an live.

You dont need a woman to do that. You can learn to fight. You can travel to the middle of asia. Set yourself some kind of difficult but realistic target and them move heaven and earth until its done. You might hate every second of it but by god you will remember it and have genuinely lived. Every painful thing you do will turn you into more of a man. You wont end up like me and most of reddit wondering why you are mid thirties and still feel like a child. You will be able to shake hands with real men as equals and they wont look at you the way they look at me. My twenties were spent fapping and eating. I remember none if it. I was barely alive. Today I can get woman and sex. But I would trade that in a heart beat to be your age again and have some guy with his foot up my ass forcing me do all the uncomfortable shit i was too weak and afraid to even think of doing myself. You are young and without a woman, children or commitments. Do you realise how free you are right now? And you sit here being jealous of women who's greatest moments are being pumed by guys who dont care about them and gettig free drinks from beta losers. And as pathetic as it is, even that will be over in a few years. Wtf is wrong with you? I am serious. Why are you not out there doing awesome stuff that you will remember when you are my age. Do you hate future you? Do you not care about today you?

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points4 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

This.

Every young man in here needs to comprehend what 4io8 is telling you.

I'm even older... have a successful career, kids... skills & talents I have expressed and improved, experiences both internal & external with amazing people, places and activities... the list is quite long.

It's tempting to see that as power.

The real power is you guys who have not done all these things... those choices lie before you. If you decide you want to become an underwater welder... you can. No way that option is open to me... I already made my choice long ago.

Get out there and try all the things you can... opportunities no longer open to me.

That is power.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

I am out there. I lift, study and am going for BUD/s (SEAL training). I'm just young and seeking answers, that's all. I guess what I mean is I am jealous how they have to do nothing and are handed everything, but then I realize that is the reason women are so dumb, because they don't have to build character and become better people. Thanks for that, though.

[–]The_Psychopath 9 points10 points11 points 11 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

Men are fortunate in that we get to actually live life with passion and not be absolute prey to some darwinian machiavellianism. We get to use it as a tool, not be defined by it.

[–]1lucifa 3 points4 points5 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

only if you realise the game is rigged.

think of the men that have devoted their lives to unrequited love

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

Can you elaborate? I know what you mean but you articulate it better than I'd be able to.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

We as men have the ability to channel the emotions and tendencies we've evolved to have into positive situations because we're logic-oriented. Women tend to become proverbial slaves to the emotions and tendencies they've evolved. That's why we always see AWALT threads here, but we are able to differentiate from other (blue pill) men.

[–]Subcommandante_Khan 20 points21 points22 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

Another thing we're better at.

[–][deleted] 9 points10 points11 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

Men are disposable, they go to war, they die, they hunt, they die, thats how it always was.

A woman can't be grieving forever when there are kids to raise.

[–]whitey_male 5 points6 points7 points 11 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

You see it in cats. Girl cats suck. Boy cats are affectionate, more playful and cuddly.

[–]arrayay 8 points9 points10 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

I don't agree. I have a female cat that is as loyal as a dog and more affectionate than most male cats. I don't think you can attribute TRP as it pertains to humans to all mammals so easily.

[–]redgreenyellowblu 4 points5 points6 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

You see it in chickens, too. The rooster always lets his hens have first pass at any treats given or bug found in the grass. For the hens it's always, "what have you done for me lately".

[–]Soob4ME 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

I think this is more of a mechanism that keeps our ladies around more than anything.

[–]fllipsy 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

The title is misleading. The article isn't saying that men love more (or better) than women. It’s concluding that “...women in our ancestral past who took the careful approach to love were more successful in passing along their genes, and thus their behavioral tendencies, to future generations.” Women still love, but it is cautious and measured.

Men are more likely to be romantic and want to believe in love at first sight, “the one”, and that “the person I love will make a perfect romantic partner; he/she will be completely accepting, loving, and understanding.”

The conclusion is not that men love more than women, but that they love differently than women. A doctrine commonly accepted in this community.

[–]I3luee[S] 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Explicitly, men love better than women since their love is unrestrained and more passionate. I have yet to see/ hear of many women to make surprise gifts, offer a great and fun day/ night (as in: actually offer to take part in your leisure activities/ hobbies even though she doesn't like them -> I saw this only once or twice).

[–]redpilldude 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

I think the root of the problem is that women are much more likely to marry for reasons other than love. For example, many women will marry a Beta just for his money and security. But, men will never do that.

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