Last weekend at a party I connected with a new prospect, we had a good time talking about a variety of things, then I had to go. Therefore we decided to continue the conversation over coffee. That is my standard MO instead of conventional dates.

So last night we met for coffee. Of course we were flirting and kinoing when we first met, so we continue to escalate over coffee. We talked a bit about our ex's and experiences and it was clear that we are both advanced, mind you that I am in my early 50's divorced twice and she's in her early 40's divorced once.

And then she drops the bomb-shit test "Are you a player?".

I pause, I look at her, think this over. Then I replied *"Good question. tell me, what exactly do you mean by 'player'?". So she gives a very vague explanation, without getting to the point.

So, I pick up her phone from the table and I tell her: "I be you have at least 20 guys in your contacts that you can call right now and you could have sex with them within an hour, am I correct?"

I exaggerated to 20 on purpose, to which she replies "20? no way!".

"So how many is it? 15? 10?"

"3 or 4" she says

"OK, let's take your word for it. How do you know they will have sex with you if you called them?"

"Well...." the hamster starts thinking

"OK, let me change the question, how many of this 4 guys have you had sex with let's say in the past 6 to 12 months?"

"Well...." the hamster is really thinking now...

"All of them. I understand"

"Well...." the hamster is stunned

"And we all know that you've had sex with other guys as well, besides these 4 guys, and yet you don't have a boyfriend"

"I don't, I told you I am not a cheater"

"Of course no, if none of them is your boyfriend, you're not cheating on any of them."

"that's my point" the hamster says

*"So, are you considered a 'player'?" I ask her

She's thinking, she's waiting for me to say something. I don't. I sip my coffee, hold frame, wait.

"I AM NOT A SLUT!" she says

"I didn't say you were, you asked me if I was a 'player' and together we started defining what a 'player' is.. that's all we're doing. Many times women call guys 'players' and quite frankly that's very confusing to us".

We continued to talk about gender roles in modern society, and sexuality, of course I never mentioned The Red Pill. We ended up going to my place and fucked like rabbits.

I will see her again on and off, but she's not one of my regular plates, I've got 2 and I like them both.