Forum snips from miserable married men. DON'T get married.

2013-09-28T22:08:58+00:00

Most important thing i've learned from stuff like this is that "we're equal" has more to do with sounding nice than actual equal shares of responsibility.

acedeucetrey · 2013-09-29T07:38:44+00:00

Thanks for the link OP. Bookmarking this so I can read it again whenever I consider playing marriage roulette.

This one cracked me up:

I never quite figured out why the sexual urge of men & women differ so much. And I never have figured out the whole Venus and Mars thing. I have never figured out why men think with their head and women with their heart. I have never figured out why the sexual desire gene gets thrown into a state of turmoil, when it hears the words ‘I do.’ Here’s an example of what I mean. One evening last week, my wife and I were getting into bed. Well, the passion starts to heat up, and she eventually says ‘I don’t feel like it, I just want you to hold me.’ I said ‘WHAT????!!! What was that?! So she says the words that every husband on the planet dreads hearing…’You’re just not in touch with my emotional needs as a woman enough for me to satisfy your physical needs as a man.’ She then responded to my puzzled look by saying, “Can’t you just love me for who I am and not what I do for you in the bedroom?” Realizing that nothing was going to happen that night I went to sleep. The very next day I opted to take the day off from work to spend time with her. We went out to a nice lunch and then went shopping at a big, unnamed department store. I walked around with her while she tried on several different very expensive outfits. She couldn’t decide which one to take so I told her we’ll just buy them all. She wanted new shoes to compliment her new clothes, so I said lets get a pair for each outfit. We went on to the jewelry department where she picked out a pair of diamond earrings. Let me tell you…she was so excited. She must have thought I was one wave short of a shipwreck. I started to think she was testing me because she asked for a tennis bracelet when she doesn’t even know how to play tennis. I think I threw her for a loop when I said, “ That’s fine, honey.” Smiling with excited anticipation she finally said, ‘I think this is all dear, let’s go to the cashier’. I could hardly contain myself when I blurted out, ‘No honey, I don’t feel like it.’ Her face just went completely blank as her jaw dropped with a baffled ‘WHAT???!!!’ I then said, ‘Really honey! I just want you to HOLD this stuff for awhile. You’re just not in touch with my financial needs as a man enough for me to satisfy your shopping needs as a woman.’ And just when she had this look like she was going to kill me, I added, ‘Why can’t you just love me for who I am and not for the things I buy you?’ Apparently I’m not having sex tonight either, but at least that bitch knows I’m smarter than her.

VodkaTankerSpill · 2013-09-28T21:43:28+00:00

Good post, a lot of relevant information on poor marriages and RP in general. As someone always says in these types of threads:

Young men, ARE YOU LISTENING?

mctoasterson · 2013-09-29T13:05:28+00:00

There's that old saying that goes something like, "Men marry women with the hope they will never change. Women marry men with the hope they will change. Inevitably, both are disappointed."

This is the biggest problem with marriage. Your woman's opinion of you will gradually and unfailingly decrease, since she essentially sees you as a project that she has failed at. All the things she doesn't like about you, she has somehow failed to mold or fix. While men can improve ourselves over time, our ingrained personality, moral and other intrinsic characteristics stay the same.

Meanwhile, you were simply hoping to hang on to the same hot, carefree, fun girl you knew when she was 18. But over the course of your marriage, her looks fade, she may not even try to maintain her appearance at all, she gives you less (and less) sex, and her life goals have shifted to be something completely different than what you signed up for.

2013-09-29T08:13:56+00:00

Reading these men's cathartic posts has steeled my resolve to never EVER marry. Great post!

VZPurp · 2013-09-29T13:41:39+00:00

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Archwinger · 2013-09-30T17:01:32+00:00

These quotes are alarmingly true. They seem so far-fetched to an outsider, that an unmarried person might think that these are just a bunch of exaggerating men, trying to be funny. They are not.

Marrying a woman and having a child gives your wife a knife, bares your throat to her, presses it against the blade, and begs her to hold still. Any time she wants -- ANY TIME, FOR NO REASON AT ALL -- she can cut you. You'll lose any hope of a relationship with your child(ren), one half of all of the wealth and belongings you've worked your entire life to acquire, and have all future earnings garnished and given to your former wife forever more (while she lives in the house she took from you, with her boyfriend, and your kids, while you support all of them and live in a tiny apartment you can barely afford with what's left of your paycheck).

Being a dominant alpha male helps, but never fully eradicates the sinister undercurrent that any time she wants, the woman can cash out of the marriage. This leads to women that don't work (or barely work), don't (or rarely) have sex with their husbands, don't stay in shape, don't do much in the way of housework or childcare (and complain about the little they do like they're unfairly burdened by the fact that they have to do anything at all), and constantly disrespect their husbands both openly and in private. The husband doesn't want to be a pussywhipped, beta loser, but if he really pisses his wife off, she'll take his kids and financially cripple him with the stroke of a pen. It's not an easy fix. A married man can't just go be alpha and be dominant, and suddenly his wife behaves. Because in the screaming bitch-fest moment of irrationality when a woman doesn't get her way immediately, she'll file for divorce.

anra · 2013-09-30T03:42:17+00:00

Question: Why do men die before their wives?

Answer: Because they want to.

that must get said all the time but holy shit i've never heard it. i'm laughing so hard.

They eat while the man is at work. They’re like the Terminator going after food instead of Sarah Conner. They never stop. They can’t be reasoned with!

LOL

unhly · 2013-09-30T08:54:19+00:00

Not sure if advice is to spin plates forever, or to follow the way of /r/mgtow or www.mgtowforums.com ...

REDDITCanSuckMyCOCK · 2013-09-29T16:17:38+00:00

Just remember that what you are very clearly doing is called cherry picking. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cherry_picking_%28fallacy%29

colucci · 2013-09-28T22:33:08+00:00

So hold up, let's all embrace dominance, control and strength but when something goes wrong, let's blame women.

This exert from the blog post sums it up -

Women will try to change you, it’s inevitable. What you can do at the minimum is look like you are alpha. Speak loudly, stomp, make noise, don’t take any shit. If she yells, yell back so she knows you won’t take that. At the same time, take care of responsibilities before she thinks about them. Only then will you have a ‘happy’ marriage.

Fuck OP's anti-marriage message. Don't be a fuckwit pussy and you'll be fine.

Title	Forum snips from miserable married men. DON'T get married.
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Date	September 28, 2013 8:31 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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