The Girl That I Have Been Looking For Come Over But Says She Wants To Be "Friends"

Daddy3asy · 2019-05-21T19:27:43+00:00

Good looking girls VERY RARELY give 2 shits or a fuck about video games. I’m sure I’ll catch a ration of shit for this but drop the damn game console at the nearest pawn shop and trade for a weight bench.

One mistake was failing the “what are you looking for” shit test. Big red capital F with a circle around it at the top of the page.

whiffofass · 2019-05-21T21:59:44+00:00

Stop being such a fucking faggot.

Don_Draper27 · 2019-05-21T22:04:08+00:00

Wow you must be like like 12.

talked about our past, talked about our future, etc...

Too much talking, not enough kino. Talking lowers attraction so do it less.

"What are you looking for?". I told her my serious answer, I told her that I am looking for a relationship.

Never give a girl a serious answer and never tell a girl you're looking for a relationship. You're presenting nothing interest or attractive. Just a regular "nice guy".

I returned the question "What are you looking for?" when she hit me with the "Just friends" response. I immediately felt like shit, felt pretty rejected and didn't really know what to do.

In the sidebar somewhere you'll learn that you should always listen to a girl's actions, not her words. "Just friends" is a classic ASD. You're a complete bitch for believing her and allowing yourself to react negatively about anything a girl says.

So I just ignored it and keep play video games with her.

If you thought she just wanted to be friends why keep hanging out with her? You want something that apparently she isn't offering so why keep wasting time?

I had a feeling she was just trying to fuck and honestly, I didn't want to because I already really liked her and I knew that if I fucked her I'd become 100% attached.

What kind of coward incel are you to not fuck a girl who is giving you signals that she wants to fuck. I don't even know how you would become more attached than you already are. And how is that even an acceptable fear? With that mentality you should become a celibate monk.

she pulls me in for a kiss twice.

I'm shocked she gave you a kiss after you were being a coward all night.

Holy crap did my heart melt, it was the closest feeling to love I have felt in over a year.

Sad. Also, get the word "love" out of your vocabulary.

She responds that she's not looking for a relationship and it really shattered my heart, especially after she kissed me like that. I'm actually really pissed off that she kissed me like that because it only made my heart hurt more.

So gay. If she never sees you again it is 100% because she sees you as a sniveling boy.

Fellas, what should I do the next time I meet the girl that I have been looking for and she hits me with the "just friends" talk? Should I just kick her out, should I have rejected her kiss?

You do nothing because it means nothing. It is a shit test. Read the sidebar.

Important Rule: You do NOT look for a relationship. You spin plates and date multiple woman until you properly vet a quality candidate that has been loyal and exclusive to you for no less than 6 months. You award her with a relationship after she's worked for it.

These are the rules and principles of TRP. If you do not agree with it, you can take your pansy ass over to the rBluePill sub or to rRelationshipAdvice.

red_philosopher · 2019-05-21T21:33:30+00:00

God you are pathetic.

Go read the sidebar so you can dump your Unicorn dreams and unplug. She wanted to fuck, not be your fucking girlfriend.

X--Man · 2019-05-21T19:28:43+00:00

Until you get something take what you can get. And read the damn sidebar. Start with "Theres this one girl..."

[deleted] · 2019-05-21T21:46:40+00:00

1st Mistake- Inviting her over to play video games, never do that when you first meet a girl, take her out for drinks, a hike, etc anything BUT video games.

2nd Mistake- Talking about your past future amd present. Its the first time she came to meet you and you already spilled the beans about yourself. Meaning you lost your mystery, she lost her attraction. Never let a girl fully figure you out, keep the mystery.

3rd Mistake- You wanted a relationship with someone you've never even fucked nor had any sort of physical intimacy. You already put her on a pedestal and she smelled it.

4th Mistake- Texting her again after she just friend-zoned you. Should have told her bye and leave it at that. Now all you're doing is entering deeper and deeper into her orbit.

5th Mistake- Lack of Abundance mentality, there are so many girls out there for you to worry about this one.

FollowerTRP · 2019-05-21T19:41:52+00:00

Depends what caliber this girl is in terms of looks, social circle and other important stuff. I have never met a hot girl who plays video games (apart from Twitch bitches).

First of all, sidebar. Your frame is zero.

Second of all, if you read sidebar, you should know that you must present yourself as man with options who is outcome independent. You always have fun, no matter what. Because you do shit you like. You saying that you want relationship is proof that reading material you did is also zero. You strive for sex, it is up to her to strive for relationship. EVEN if you want it in opposite order

Next, you never pay attention to what she says. You pay attention to what she does. Kiss is intimate thing, friends do not do that. At every step you ignore and proceed as she said nothing. Unless this is for longer time and she denies you sex/intimacy.

However, from your post I conclude that you have sidebar to read, top posts at TRP reddit to read and also A LOT of working at yourself. Focus on fundamentals. Game this girl anyway as an experience.

Good luck

MrAgamemnon · 2019-05-21T19:58:30+00:00

She responds that she's not looking for a relationship and it really shattered my heart, especially after she kissed me like that.

Do you know why she isn't looking for a relationship with you?

Because you're a fucking pussy who does have the balls to fuck her. Because you're a fucking pussy begging her for a relationship.

420KUSHBUSH · 2019-05-21T22:49:43+00:00

Honestly you moved WAY too fast on the "what are you looking for question"

In this case it's better to take it slower and ramp up a bit. Be subtle

Edit: Just read the rest. You say you didn't want to fuck because you didn't want to get attached but you were attached LONG before that ever happened. Should have done it the way nature intended then did your own thing until you started thinking logically

civilizedfrog · 2019-05-22T04:06:45+00:00

Read the sidebar faggot.

redpillnoob42 · 2019-05-22T08:33:26+00:00

Dude! !!
You never say that you're looking for a relationship. Once she said "just friends", pull out, play video games and wrap up asap. About your question on rejecting her kiss, watch Top Gun. There's a small 2 min clip which shows what you could have done. This clip should be there on youtube.

Ignore this girl and pick someone else before you get oneitis.

A few rules I've learnt while lurking TRP:
1. Shit tests will appear time to time. If there's anything that affects your emotional state, do not give any direct response.
2. Never be the first to admit feelings or need for a relationship.
3. You might never know what's a sincere question and what is a shit test. If confused, refer rule 1.

Remember these rules and plate.

frick-a-frack · 2019-05-22T20:02:04+00:00

Once you start having long, open conversations with some new girl, that’s a tell tale sign that she views you as “one of the girls.”

No tingles. No excitement. No wanting to suck your dick. Instead, she’s comfortable enough to tell you about her diarrhea problems. LOL

You telling her you’re “looking for a relationship,” even if true, smacks of desperation. That’s the “I’m not like all those player guys” type answer and you’re viewed as a pussy.

BluBlac59 · 2019-05-23T03:27:02+00:00

She DROVE to your place. You didn't have to take her out. She wanted smashing you blew it with the relationship crap. Smash first relationship maybe.

Title	The Girl That I Have Been Looking For Come Over But Says She Wants To Be "Friends"
Author	SirChoGath
Upvotes	5
Comments	33
Date	May 21, 2019 7:25 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/breoo0/the_girl_that_i_have_been_looking_for_come_over/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/askTRP/the-girl-that-i-have-been-looking-for-come-over.239165 https://theredarchive.com/post/239165

Comments