Am I correct in assuming in order to fuck you never bring it up, it’s simply taking her from place to place?

FereallyRed · 2019-06-06T08:05:39+00:00

Don't talk sexual, be sexual.

Acta non verba.

CharlesChadworth · 2019-06-06T07:26:25+00:00

I used to pick up girls after chatting to them on tinder/bumble and take them to a lookout point as I didn't want them to learn where I lived. I never once talked about sex to them. 20 min into chatting I would fuck them in the back seat of my car lol.

Start off kissing and place your hands near her hips and slide up etc. If she is comfortable with you, you will either get head/fuck that night.

redhawkes · 2019-06-06T08:49:10+00:00

It's basically you both know whats up, but you don't bring it up overtly.

Also, you need to escalate and calibrate her feedback, so she knows that you're sexually attracted to her.

I've made out/escalated with chicks without even saying a word. Pay attention to her body language/IOI's.

MattyAnon · 2019-06-06T16:58:55+00:00

“Hey let’s grab a coffee” then from there other places and a long walk etc

Don't do the long walk, but basically yes.

Then go in for the kiss but never even let the convo go anywhere sexual? It’ll all just happen

Convo can be a bit sexual, but not about the actuality of you and her. Eg you can talk about favourite position, but not how you'll put her in it. You can chuckle and wink when she says an innuendo, but never imply you'll be the one fucking her.

Touch and physically escalate.

Don't kiss, especially not in public.

Bounce to yours "for coffee"

Chadster113 · 2019-06-06T08:02:35+00:00

You have to escalate gradually. What you’re referring to is plausible deniability. Maybe some of the more experienced guys can talk of this but what it basically means is that a girl doesn’t want to feel like a slut. It’s the difference between texting a girl asking her to come over saying you want to fuck her brains out and asking a girl to come over and hangout or watch a movie and escalating then. She knows damn well why she’s coming over and you don’t have to say it

It all “just happens” for the girl. You have to make the moves

CrimsonShiv · 2019-06-06T10:01:33+00:00

Plausible deniability**

Whisper · 2019-06-06T18:28:28+00:00

Escalate into a sexual frame.

Mentioning sex out of the blue is generally bad, getting her talking about it is generally good.

Start with humorous innuendo. Synchronize with your other escalations. Get her talking and thinking about sex in general as a gateway to the idea of sex with you specifically.

[deleted] · 2019-06-06T18:41:14+00:00

Don't do coffee dates during the day, that is what friends do. Your job is to create an opportunity for sex to happen. Start the escalation slowly, a touch on her arm, her shoulder. If she has a ring, grab her hand lightly and pull it towards you to look at it. I'm a fan of plausible deniability touching early in the interaction. Don't continuously touch her or it will look desperate, give her a chance to reciprocate. Once she starts reciprocating, you can start doing more intimate things like touching her lower back, her thigh, etc.

I spend an hour at the first venue, then switch. If things are going well, I'll tell her, "lets have a glass of wine on my balcony". If she still needs time to warm up, I do one more venue then tell her lets have a drink on my balcony. Even if she's not reciprocating the touching, but we're having a good time, I'll always try to bring the interaction back to my place and they come 90% of the time.

From there, I like to chill for 20 minutes or so with no escalation, then dance to some music for the ultimate plausible deniability sensual touching. From there, it's pretty easy. If you kiss her and she turns a cheek, back off for a bit and continue. If you grab her tits or pull her shirt up and she resists, back off and continue in 5-10 minutes.

They key is 2 steps forward, then take a step back and chill. This shows you're going for what you want but not desperate for it.

This is my method and it works for me.

throwitdownman · 2019-06-06T08:20:26+00:00

Yes, always maintain plausible deniability. As per the theory.

However I’ve recently been having success on Tinder by being overtly sexual through text. I’m questioning as to whether the ‘slow play’ of not talking about sex is needed.

xoxuv · 2019-06-06T20:35:54+00:00

Women don't want to take responsibility for sex.

You have to take her to a private place with any shit excuse. She knows it is an excuse, but she is comfortable being able to pretend that has an excuse.

It doesn't means that you escalate suddenly from being non sexual to intercourse. Women sex drive is a volume knob, and you have to turn it up slowly, even if you have her in the bed.

yungplayz · 2019-06-06T13:12:57+00:00

That's not the only way to my experience, but it's a good and valid approach.

Nighthawkdragon8 · 2019-06-06T18:24:21+00:00

Its all sub communication and pumping her emotions. She will never LOGICALLY fuck you, like you will logically decide to fuck her.

DrBlasphemy · 2019-06-07T02:39:06+00:00

Thanks guys, took a while but I’m beginning to understand that it’s all foreplay from the moment you meet all the way to bed with women.

TheStumblingWolf · 2019-06-06T11:28:01+00:00

What you're talking about is escalation. There should be plenty of searchable material on it.

[deleted] · 2019-06-06T18:49:10+00:00

Yes. Asd will kick in but just eacalate

Title	Am I correct in assuming in order to fuck you never bring it up, it’s simply taking her from place to place?
Author	DrBlasphemy
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Date	June 6, 2019 7:18 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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