Hi! My skin is brown, I'm 28, and I live in Canada.

A bit of background, I'm single, childless, and I'm running six plates right now. One is asian, one is spanish, four are white. They are all single, between 20-28, and I rotate. I've had great relationships with girls of different backgrounds, but this is my current roster right now. They know what I'm up to, and keep coming back.
I'm not anything special. I am 5'8, 150 lbs (gross, a fucking manlet?!). I'm not crazy muscular, nor am I rich.
But I am doing quite well, I'm confident, I love to laugh, and I'm happy.

Every three months there's a thread here by a brown guy, complaining how life is so hard because of his chocolatefaceitis.

Hey brown guy? Fuck you. Fuck you, but hear me out.

Identifying yourself as some sort of victim, is gross. The justifications I read are ridiculous.
Your insecurity about your race is a turn off to all but those who share in your misery. It's possible it manifests to your behaviour offline, perhaps as desperation, which adds to why you get rejected.

'Uh but science says women love the powerful caucasian race, bluh bluh women don't want to come near me.'

Get over it.

You can buy into it, and believe that you're meant to be a statistic, or not give a fuck and not let it get to your head. You can collect all the karma you want here, you can build a little cult of fellow losers who obsess over rejection and blame it on genetics, or . .. OR, you can just get out there and stop giving a fuck about useless trite.

It doesn't matter what race you are, you are still responsible for your own life.

If you want to sit and mope and type essays about how lucky other races have it, guess what? More time wasted, more thoughts added to your anxiety, you rob yourself of room for happiness.

Guys, it doesn't matter if you're sikh, muslim, christian, zoroastrian, atheist, etc. It's silly, and you look a little foolish. Don't believe me? Once you find yourself successful on your own terms, come back to your old posts and feel your flesh cringe while you read the words over again.

Now I don't want to come off as someone who hates other brown people. I want everyone to be successful and happy. But for you especially, jaded brown male, you have got to focus on the you beyond your skin.

If you let yourself get irked because someone points out that your parents eat curry, you already lost. Game over, insert four quarters. You can choose to let that thought beat you, or just shrug it off, and say nah bitch, not today.

As of late I've been thinking, what is it with brown guys, and our obsession with women and game?

Here's a quick little thought! Indo-culture is so inundated with sex and sexual repression,
it spills over into who we believe we should be. Whether we realize it or not.

Think about it, all the movies, media, music, is just about love, love, love, and super weird sexual tension. Boy likes girl, therefore immediate marriage. What the FUCK? Can't a guy just have some fun without all this drama?
And they rarely ever kiss, let alone hold hands, fucking 1894 shit over here folks! The singing (lip-synching, because that's what it is) and dancing around a tree just to get female attention? Gross, complete emasculation.
There's a clear lack of positive, strong, male role models in this culture. Look at the powerhouse Bollywood is, look at the fools clapping along. Not enough focus on health, fitness, positive psychology, framework, etc.
At the same time, let's also look at the other gender. Decades of women being in media in this culture, yet girls are still 'sluts' if they kiss someone on screen, WHAT THE FUCK? What sort of weird repression is this? (Well it's religiosity, but that's another story).

Even if we avoid brown-skin media, it has trickled into society, and gotten to our family and friends.
Your uncle always pushing you to find a wife before you even life life, isn't he also the most miserable fuck you've ever met? You know that one friend who sits around on Facebook? Posting love songs and whining about how lonely he is, and how he believes he'll be complete if he just found 'true love'?

Yo, fuck that kid in the neck with a broken bottle.

That's what you look like when you start these posts my brown friend - weak, pathetic, jaded. It's sad how much sex and shame (hand in hand of course) is force-fed down our throats,
even when we think we're escaping it, we may in fact be still in the cycle.

And again, let's look at the other gender. How many brown guys are quick to shit-talk brown girls,
just because they're brown and look at other race? I've been guilty before. What's the point of this? The moment a brown girl is with another race, what happens?

Slut. Whore. Not fit for marriage.

Yet those same guys would chop their aunty in pieces to fuck a white broad. Kinda fucked up, no? This culture pushes women to act like they're the most chaste creatures on God's green earth. It's unsettling, gross, and impossible. My brown sisters are just as hungry to get some good taboo foreign lovin'. And so what if they do?

Newsflash: You're not responsible for an entire gender because their skintone is the same as yours.
Worrying about the actions of the other sex, is a waste of time.
When you get older, you'll learn how time is money, start evaluating how you spend it.

This culture is a sexualized shame-based culture. It makes us think way too much about sex/love,
and makes us and others feel like shit about it. Does anyone deserve this? No, and it only adds to our ego, our anxiety, and robs us of mental clarity and happiness.

Get over it! You're not responsible for anyone, only yourself.
Nor is your race responsible for you. Again, you are responsible for yourself.

I grow tired of reading these thread of guys who want to create logical, scientific, reasonings to explain their failures, and how easy everyone else has it. What nonsense. All you're doing is trying to find comfort within rejection, and comfort is the enemy of progression.

Sidenote: Every time I walk down Yonge street with one of my non-brown girls, I get these looks from brown guys. Like if I stabbed their grandfather in the urethra. DUDE YOU ARE JEALOUS AND YOU HAVE ISSUES, IT'S CLEAR AS DAY. You want what I have? Find it. Work for it. But in all honesty - a pussy is a pussy is a pussy.
The girls I fuck right now, happen to be light-skinned. But let's be real, the whole chase for the white girl thing?
Eh... you're kinda coming off as a weird creep who's just fetishizing race. Sex is not the be all, end all to life. Once you get it out of your system you realize, there's a whole lot of world out there beyond pussy.

Okay, you've gotten this far, let me start working towards an ending.
Let's take a breath, (Do you meditate? You should, just saying).

Here's advice for you, brown male, and any male of any race - live for YOURSELF.

Don't live for your skintone, your country, your family, your heritage, don't live for women, don't live to get your dick wet. Live for yourself. Figure out your values, your goals, your priorities, the rest of it will fall into place.

Your parents are on your ass to find a wife from a high class 'good' family? Fuck that noise, make money and just rock out with your cock out. Live a little, have FUN. You may have to sacrifice the 'comforts' of a smothering mother, and being able to live in your parent's house until you're 40. But guess what? This is your life.
One day your parents will die, and you'll be stuck with a greedy uppity prude who only fucks you, NEVER.
Plus all your in-laws will live in your house, eating your hard-earned resources.
IS THAT THE HILL YOU WANT TO DIE ON SON?

Trust me, if you follow happiness while staying organized and planning ahead, you'll be in a much more confident and healthier state of mind. It doesn't stop in the relationship department either.
Be a graphic designer if that's what you want (don't kill yourself to be a lawyer/doctor if it's not you).
Shave your head if that's what you want, pierce your di-, okay one step at a time.

Now, don't get me wrong, racism exists. People have said things to me my whole life, drunks have thrown rocks at me, people gave me weird looks after 9/11, but so what? I could have cried about it, and start defining my life over all the terrible atrocities my skin has cursed me with. Or, I can keep going to the gym, keep learning muay thai, research ideas for businesses, work on my skillset, work on my budget, and keep getting better!

I cannot stress it enough, you're living in your head with this race thing, you are becoming your own enemy. The trap of the brown male is defining yourself as a brown male. Above all things, you are a man. Start there.

Just because you are brown doesn't mean you have to always choose Dhalsim when you play Street Fighter.
Fuck yoga fire, what a piece of shit move.

tl;dr:

Are you a brown male? Shut the fuck up, and get over yourself.