In light of last night’s discussion about the emasculated Asian man’s response to his Asian gf's true (and humiliating) reasons for being in relationship with him (and ensuing TwoXChromosomes jabber-jawing), followed by another post about maintaining frame while expressing emotions, I'd like to take this opportunity to make my first in post here.

I've been loitering around here for a while, and suspect that I'm a relatively older RPer. You've seen me around in comments, but I waited to post because of a few reasons. Obviously, it's important to absorb the material in its entirety first and foremost. No one likes the guy that presumptuously jumps in to add what he thinks is new and fresh shit.

Also, this is a great community. There’s a shitload of problems in this society we live in, and we're all out there hookin and jabbin and every day. It's good to be in the company of men. And the content here is solid stuff, real useful shit over there in the sidebar. My God - have any of you read Greene's "Mastery"? Holy mind-blowing shit Batman. And I read. A lot. My point here is, I didn't want to post until I felt like I had something of real value to you. And I do.

Many of us here, seen in plenty of the mentioned posts’ comments already, understand that the display of vulnerability, weakness, emotion, wimpy, sensitivity, whatever, is a huge turn off to girls. Especially those not in LTR. This is a fact.

However, this brings about a legitimate question. In what circumstances are we men to show emotion, let down a layer or two of steel, and be human. We must keep that in mind. The real man isn't the one without emotion, nor the one that's mastered the art of disguising it. The real man has spent time in reflection about why he's crying, and seeks to cry appropriately.

Is it weakness? Many times, hell yes it's weakness. Other times, it's not. I can very easily think of situations where it's manly to have a strong emotional reaction. How about bravery? Anyone cry the first time watching Braveheart when William Wallace yells out "Freedom!" in the end? Holy shit man - I about lost my shit at that. Why? Because this man was showing himself and the world the purest definition of what a man should be in that moment of "no- actually-fuck-you-because-no-one-will-ever-own-me".

But if you are crying because your girlfriend said something that hurt your ego, you had a false sense of self to begin with. Sounds like the guy in the Asian GF story is displaying mostly beta traits, for one reason or another. Fair enough. Though telling her to GTFO was exactly what he needed to do. He also needs to next her yesterday. But I digress.

The point I want to make here is this - we as a society of men have bitten into the lie that it's not "manly" to show any emotion, especially not to another man.

This is bullshit. This lie is a construct that was devised by the shared seedling of feminism. It is simply a tactic used to burglarize power in sexual strategy. Simply put, if we aren't allowed to show emotion to each other, and are encouraged to show emotion to the woman (vis a vis Hollywood etc), she now has a recyclable-litmus-insta-shit-test. We are allowing that which makes us human to be exploited.

And it's all for her feels. That's one of the toughest pills of all to swallow. There's no moral authority, no greater good, no principal, no code - it's a shit test shotgun with remarkable accuracy for an alpha vs beta moment. Don't give it to her. Don't you ever God Damn give it to her.

Come cry to me. Go cry to your father, or your buddy. Hell, go cry to a work acquaintance if you have to, just don't go cry to the woman. You see we, among our many original traits, we have a strong capacity to discern. I don't look at another man crying (or not crying) from the perspective of what's in it for me. Certainly none of you do, either. And we don't look down on this man, either.

We have the ability to discern whether he is crying for a noble reason or an undignified one. And we will look him in the eye and fucking tell him.

"Bro, stop being a whiny bitch. You're off your game here man."

"Listen to yourself dude. You realize you are crying about a chick. A CHICK."

"Your mother passed away?! My God man - I'm am so sorry to hear that. Do you want to talk about it? Is there anything I can do for you and your family?"

So screw the no crying rule. You can cry. Just cry right. And don’t cry to the woman.

We should be showing emotion only to other men. For 3 reasons:

1) Because only we can handle it. “As iron sharpens iron, man sharpens man” (not woman) - Proverbs 27:17.

2) We will actually come out of the situation better than we entered.

3) Because men don't have an ulterior motive or conflict of interest in bearing witness to our emotions.