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Cold approaching

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July 8, 2019
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Went out this past weekend and engaged with multiple women. All of em passively let me down. One said she had a bf but wanted me to contact her through her friend and the other wanted me to follow her on IG what does this even mean.


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Title Cold approaching
Author CankGuy
Upvotes 8
Comments 26
Date 08 July 2019 02:19 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit askMRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/244844
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/calm4l/cold_approaching/
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[–]johneyapocalypseThe one that says "Bad Motherfucker"17 points18 points  (11 children) | Copy

It means the numbers are trending in your favor.

The more rejections, the stronger your character becomes - unless you have to come here and ask questions like this every time - and the closer you get to your next close.

Coffee's for closers.

For now, you're drinking tea.

[–]SteelToeShitKickerRed Beret1 point2 points  (10 children) | Copy

Yep. After getting shut down 100 times, OP will be a different person. This is a good start.

I also agree with sidepiecebandit. When you know you can get the number, get it. After that point, all you can do is fuck it up.

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red6 points7 points  (9 children) | Copy

I am just going to hop in here and state what should be obvious.

Cold approaching while a nice skill to have is a total waste of time to work and develop as a primary method to get pussy in 2019.

Nearly all available women are on Tinder/etc.

That is where you secure “warm” hookups and dates. Not spending hours at the club cold approaching women who are likely already there with another man, or their GFs on a GNO.

Even though RP loves to assume every single woman turns into a cock eating whore on every GNO, this mindeset is wrong.

OP needs to work his right finger and learn text pickup game. Then needs to not be a total idiot on his warm dates.

That is the numbers game he needs to play and master.

[–]SteelToeShitKickerRed Beret2 points3 points  (4 children) | Copy

Cold approaching while a nice skill to have is a total waste of time to work and develop as a primary method to get pussy in 2019. Nearly all available women are on Tinder/etc.

Says the guy on tren. Some of us will still need to be able to "talk away our face". Tinder doesn't allow for this.

Not spending hours at the club cold approaching women who are likely already there with another man, or their GFs on a GNO.

Clubs are possibly the worst place to pick up unless you are 6'2" tall or better and huge. And actually, my taller friends never had much luck at clubs either. Girls have bitch shields up, they are there to dance, mooch free drinks and leave. No thanks. Plus, pretty hard to talk away your face if no one can hear you talk.

I had my best luck in bars, restaurants and other places around town.

Even though RP loves to assume every single woman turns into a cock eating whore on every GNO, this mindeset is wrong.

I'll agree with you there. I never bothered trying for a same night close either. Get the number, get out, schedule something on my turf later. Going for the same night close always seemed needy to me, I played a more aloof game. Better to have the roster full and somewhere to go later after I got some numbers.

OP needs to work his right finger and learn text pickup game.

Ugh. Maybe I'm old, but I preferred to call or leave a message.

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy

"talk away our face"

Holy shit that is funny my man.

Beard up. It will help. lol

[–]SteelToeShitKickerRed Beret2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

It's a voltaire quote. "Give me a few minutes to talk away my face and I can seduce the Queen of France."

I look rugged, certainly masculine, and that's ok, but I do generally require some talking to warm them up. I'm anti-beard, I think it would be too much with my shaved head anyway. I doubt I would fare well on tinder, but you never know...

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Is anti-beard the 2019 PC way of saying you can’t grow one?

Its ok. I didn’t grow my first beard till 36.

Srs though.

I generally scare everyone I meet. My resting bitch face is perfected.

People just annoy me. Most men are faggots who cant carry on a conversation and women only either want to fuck me or want my time/attention/resources.

I have my core bros but thats it. I have no desire to interact with IRL anons.

[–]SteelToeShitKickerRed Beret1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Before TRT, I couldn't grow one, but I'd just say that it comes in patchy, which it did. Being blond didn't help since you couldn't see it until it got really long. Good for not shaving every day though. But I'm anti-beard because I don't want to be associated with millennial faggots with their beards, pipes, skinny jeans and scrawny builds. I go for the rugged but clean-cut look.

Yeah, after I shaved my beautiful blond locks, people became scared of me. No one is afraid of the blond guy. When I wear my glasses, people revert their behavior, they are so mean and rude to me. It's stunning, so I don't do it often. Clark Kent mode sucks.

I agree, most people suck. I just do my thing.

[–]SepeanRed Beret1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Actual game, face-to-face, is the stuff you need, not text game.

Text game is a small subset of game. Text game has very little transfer to actual game, while knowing game will make text game much easier.

With strong text game, you're still going to meet the girls, and then you need some actual game (even though the whole Tinder process is highly polarizing so many of your hookups are already halfway DTF so it is easy mode).

And in the context of married red pill, you're not looking for warm dates. You're looking to learn game, which text game is bad at, and any meetup won't challenge your actual game as much as it should, and you're not looking to close either - for most of us that would be a disaster on many levels.

Tinder and text game is just retarded for MRP, the opsec and risk issues are huge and there's greatly reduced learning opportunities. It's for singles.

Face-to-face game is where the money is. If they're not responding, your game is off - back to the drawing board, work on your SMV, frame and game, then out to try again. That's great feedback loop.

And once it works, it pays off in spades. Girls responding to you positively, it's fun, it gives abundance mentality, it's dread, and it's pretty much running 24/7 whenever you meet girls in your day to day life.

Being still married, I'd take that any day over sitting in the bathroom texting Tinder thots.

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

It's for singles.

Very good point.

Pretty sure OP is single though.

And once it works, it pays off in spades.

I cant speak to this. I never had problems with sex in my marriage until my marriage went Scorched Earth. Once that happened, my entire approach to game changed.

It was 7 days from the last time I had sex with my wife to some Tinder THOT I met the same day whose name I do not even remember now.

[–]simbarlionRed Beret0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Even though RP loves to assume every single woman turns into a cock eating whore on every GNO, this mindeset is wrong

Now just BACK THE TRUCK UP...!

Does that also mean she is not fucking Apu in seven eleven because she "paid him for gas" !?!

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

She fucked Apu and every single other man she saw that day to.

All women do, everyday. Non-stop getting trains ran on them.

[–]SepeanRed Beret5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Right on, man. This is how you do it. This is how you rise above the faggots who don’t have the balls to learn game and dread hard.

Keep studying, approaching and evaluating, it becomes second nature. This is the best thing you can do to become a great man.

[–]Don_Draper273 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Gaming and closing is a skill. Like all skills you need to study and practice.

Going out and approaching is the hardest part.

Read some books like "The Game", "Models", "Bang", etc.

[–]sidepiecebandit2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

Who cares. Work on building attraction. Look up spiking buying temperature. And always ask for the number at the highest level of the interaction, preferably when she's laughing with you.

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Who the fuck asks for numbers these days?

Scan the snapcode or STFU.

[–]ReddJiveRed Beret1 point2 points  (6 children) | Copy

You missed at least one spot where she gave you an opening. No guarantee she would fuck you, but she gave you an opening.

Odds are she gave you more but you didn’t see them.

[–]hack3geRed Beret1 point2 points  (5 children) | Copy

Guy fails boyfriend shit test and wonders why he can’t even get numbers. The boyfriend shit test is the best - it shows 100% they are thinking about you that way and she just wants you to prove you are worth it. The only one better I have found is the you are married shit test because it shows they are thinking about fucking you and that they want to but are looking for plausible deniability to be a little slut.

Not sure how he is failing at 101 level shit that is covered in pretty much every book and article on game.

[–]ReddJiveRed Beret1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I've been noticing there is some very basic things all these unplugging guys are failing to do and read. Just out there alone and unafraid.

What they are doing is just searching Reddit for the answers or waiting for a flared man to repsond. Then using that as the basis off their development.

[–]Tbonesupreme1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy

Nah.

Lots of girls use the boyfriend line in hopes to end the conversation completely without being mean. It isn't that she said it - it's HOW she says it.

If it's with a laugh and a smile, then it's a dare. If there's no eye contact, she ain't having it and move along.

When they say it for absolutely no reason, she really has a boyfriend (or husband) and is trying to remind herself that she's not supposed to fuck you. At that point, it's curtains.

Telling people "100% they are thinking about you that way" is going to end up with some of these morons getting really embarrassed in public.

[–]hack3geRed Beret1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

Sure I mean if you are an autistic faggot and can’t read that she’s not interested and want to eat paint have at it. My experience is if you are getting IOIs then it’s usually a shit test - YMMV. I got numbers for plenty of women with boyfriends and husband when I was practicing closing.

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

I got numbers for plenty of women with boyfriends and husband when I was practicing closing.

So were you getting numbers and stopping or actually closing?

Cause one is like actually scoring a touchdown, and the other is like punting the ball away.

But seriously...

I am calling you on your shit cause that is what I do.

Men who know they can close, and have proven they can do not go around "practicing game" anymore. Why the fuck do I need to waste my time?

I either decide I want to get pussy, I am happy with the pussy I have, want new pussy or don't care about pussy.

Just because a woman flirts with you, doesn't mean she wants to fuck you. I flirt with woman all the time. 99.9% of them I never fuck. I give IOI's to women all the time. I get them. I kino women all the time. I get kinoed all the time.

Nearly all of them I do not fuck.

RP is so fucking incel sometimes. OMG, she looked at me an winked. She is a fucking whore and I am an idiot cause I couldnt close her.

Watch out, she went out on a GNO to dance. She fucked everyone in the club, starting with the DJ.

Watch out - she gave me her number. Likely a fake one, cause if you were serious you would fucking text her right there to make sure it was a real number - cause that is what fucking closers do.

Hey bitch - take my phone and send yourself a text real quick so I have your number.

Fuck.

[–]hack3geRed Beret1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I went through a period where I needed to know I could get numbers but I don’t do it anymore. You could be right and they could all have been fake but it got me what I needed mentally. I was blue as fuck when I started, had no game whatsoever, could barely talk to random women and that is what I needed to move forward.

Now I just talk and flirt because I find it fun and enjoy it - I’m not looking to close anyone right now.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

wanted me to follow her on IG

This is an actual thing women do now? I must be too old for this social media bullshit... I was on IG for a week a few months ago to see what it was all about. I thought it was just as stupid as the other social media platforms. Maybe I'm doing it wrong, but seems like a waste of perfectly good time you can spend improving yourself.

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

It means you are ugly.

[–]RedPill-BlackLotusRed Beret1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

what does this even mean.

It means your conversation skills are shit and you couldn't make them feel anything past a dry vagina.

You are as fun as an ashtray with some gum in it.

Keep going, Jonny says it so much better.



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