Best piece of advice for being in a LTR?

FinancialThanks1 · 2019-07-16T19:38:55+00:00

being beta with your ltr will make her lose attraction. continue to live your life and talk to people outside your ltr. dont employ the frame of "i dont want to cheat on my girl" when youre talking to people, not every girl wants to fuck you (you can still talk to the ones that do). read more rp literature and learn more about the nature of women. youll be comfortable that her behaviour is predictable. its not even that deep if she is cheating on you its been 3 weeks next

thrwy75479 · 2019-07-16T19:40:51+00:00

I’m constantly worrying about what she’s doing, who’s she with and if she’s cheating.

Have your own life, and things to do. Keep some space.

boy_named_su · 2019-07-16T22:21:58+00:00

wait until you're older, like 30
plate her for a couple months. if she's good, upgrade to FWB for a couple of months
If SHE begs YOU for a relationship, evaluate her red flags and green flags then decide, else keep FWB-ing
no single moms, no feminists, no negative net worth, no unemployed.
strong alpha father figure, low body count

MrGreySD · 2019-07-16T22:13:23+00:00

Life hack for you: women subconsciously like it when you have other options, even if they may never say this consciously. This creates a win/win situation for you.

But be very careful. Do not be too overt with it. You must find the correct balance. Have good interactions with other women whilst she's with you, for instance.

CainPrice · 2019-07-16T20:02:17+00:00

If this is how you become 2 seconds after you're in a relationship, you're not ready for a relationship and need to spend more time spinning plates.

Once you're down to just one source of sex, if you get clingy and needy and super-dependent and invested, that means you're not confident in your ability to replace her. You need more time going out and meeting women and going home with them until you're confident and comfortable with the fact that all women, including your girlfriend, are completely replaceable, and that you're capable of doing it.

[deleted] · 2019-07-16T21:11:12+00:00

Don't cheat. Do non-monogamy.

Red_Pill_Brotherhood · 2019-07-16T19:58:23+00:00

Shouldn't have deleted the other women from your phone(doesnt mean you have to cheat. You could just tell them "I'm in a relationship now."). That aside, keep talking to other women and gaming them(catch and release) to keep your options open and keep best abundance you can. Keep a social life and a life outside of your LTR. And don't get TOO attached.

Also, stop worrying if she is cheating or who she is with. It should be her thinking this of you. It is probably not happening unless there are signs/red flags. Until you have reason not to trust her, don't trip. Worrying in your case is bringing you nothing productive and is only fucking up your frame and stealing your emotional energy and mental bandwidth.

Stay on purpose as well and keep hitting the gym.

Good luck and enjoy things while they last. Learn to enjoy the moment because things with women can change at the blink of an eye.

Olram_Sacul · 2019-07-16T20:42:08+00:00

Be less attached to her than she is to you. I think this works for every kind of relationships

that_italia_guy · 2019-07-17T00:19:01+00:00

Just three weeks ago you were alpha....now u got oneitis. Doubt u were alpha to begin with

Notagain6352 · 2019-07-16T19:50:01+00:00

Just enjoy the sex while it lasts. It won't last forever. LTR is literally TRP on ultra hard mode

Sounds like it's already exhausting for you. Im gonna give you a trick, if you want to have her obsessed with you you need to break up with her and give her drama. Give something for her hamster to feed on or she is gonna get bored

RedSkeller · 2019-07-16T20:42:57+00:00

dread game

XT3M3 · 2019-07-16T21:48:55+00:00

define drop? i pretty much told the girls who wondered why i havent hit them up that i decided to try the commitment thing, and the girls stuck around . these girls can be used to apply dread and competition.
dont be the one with the most feelings, remember you're the prize if anything happens she loses not you.
live your own life.
remember how you got her, reverting and changing your ways is exactly how most of you here lose yall LTR or plates to bs. you guys forget what got yall here to that point. this would be an example of falling on your face.

just basic stuff

OvoAlex97 · 2019-07-17T01:01:31+00:00

Red pill rule of thumb that I thought was silly until I actually did it - sleep with at least 20 women before going LTR

LTR is red pill on hard mode, marriage is even worse. You have to be the man that many here pretend to be. Have to be a master of passing shit tests on the fly, holding frame, and creating excitement months and years into a relationship. It can be rewarding, but it can also be very costly

If you sleep with a ton of women you’ll have the self respect not to become a beta so quickly

priapula · 2019-07-17T03:43:31+00:00

first LTR is always rough. you learn a lot about yourself. Good luck, dont give too many fucks

teveza11 · 2019-07-17T13:56:20+00:00

Many people, even here, have the misconception that when you are in an LTR, you need to act like a blue-pill simp in order for the LTR to work.

Nothing could be further from the truth. You know this though, so you're already on the right track.

You need to be the same person you were when you first met her, but without spinning the plates.

Title	Best piece of advice for being in a LTR?
Author	OvoAlex97
Upvotes	19
Comments	20
Date	July 16, 2019 7:26 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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