I'm still early in my progress, currently somewhere in phase 1: building frame, learning to STFU and I started lifting (5x5) 6 weeks ago after you all told me doing crossfit was not taking this seriously. I already feel and see why. Everything I read about lifting clicked into place and I really enjoy it. Pushed through my first OHP failure yesterday and managed to complete 5x5 at 105lbs. Felt awesome. Thanks again for the support last time.

Please bear with me for these issues I faced again today. Not sure if I handled it correctly.

My LTR has some minor issues, headaches, stomach cramps and some small irregularities on her skin that she often completely freaks out about. She's usually friendly and generally happy. Nice to be around, but once she has like a zit on her chin it's the end of the world and the only thing she can talk about.

Now I understand that woman have to be able to emote and I need to connect with her emotions and "boo the villains", or in this case "boo the zit" and not offer any solutions. But once I've done that 5 days in a row, countless times each day, I can't bring myself to put any effort in it anymore.

So today, after a week of complaints, I kind of shut down and she immediately got angry, shouting I don't listen and don't take her seriously etc. I'm still awful at AM, so I STFU as best as I can and she calmed down somewhat. I thought to myself: what do - I - want to do, and decide I've had enough and better get out of the house. So I tell her, I'm going downtown tonight with some friends. (I never do that without a clear purpose or without planning days ahead). No asking, just stating. Her reaction is shocked and she starts asking probing questions and gets more and more upset with each answer. I try fogging as best as I could. "I understand that you thought we would spend the night together, but I am going downtown tonight", etc. In the end the snot bubbles and tears come and "our relationship is not going well, and you're a selfish jerk, etc". But she also mentions she hasn't felt a connection for a while. I manage to stay calm and overcome my usual fear or her emotions and calmly react to all her antics. It turned into major comfort tests quite quickly which I recognized and after holding her firmly she became sweet and relaxed again.

Now suddenly my friends message me they're all going downtown tomorrow, not today, and the LTR at the same time is in a much better mood. Now I've totally lost the motivation to go out and tell her I'll stay. She flips the script and starts motivating me to go and assuring me she'll be fine.

I stand by my decision and end up staying at home while she's running around offering to do chores, applogizing for her bitchyness and asking how In what holes I want to take her later tonight. Obviously I did something right, but I still feel a bit confused.

How do you guys deal with these kind of complaints by wife/LTR's about insecurities like a zit when they keep on complaining way too long? Or am I simply an impatient asshole and do I need to relax and simply broken record my empathy?

And do you think I've handled this situation correctly? It felt like a loss of frame to change my mind, but I genuinely wanted to stay home after a while.

Thanks in advance for your valuable insights guys.