I am a male diagnosed with BPD. I want to become more stoic and unemotional in life especially during shit tests, any non-prescription drug related suggestions?

Peanut-superior-nut · 2019-08-17T01:24:43+00:00

Dialectical behavior therapy is essentially the best thing we have (often called the "gold standard") for handling borderline personality disorder. It's essentially cognitive behavioral therapy that's been tweaked to more fully address the extreme emotional issues (like the ones you describe) that come along with BPD, and it has a very high effectiveness rate.

iamcincobeats · 2019-08-17T02:15:26+00:00

Try eating a healthier diet, if you aren’t already. Cut out processed foods, sugary drinks and candy. Eat more whole foods, fruits and vegetables. You’d be surprised how better you feel when you eat healthier. Exercise is also important. Meds should be your last resort. Good luck!

RisingUpAgain · 2019-08-17T01:37:19+00:00

Feel like BPD is the new ADHD

Lefeudufou · 2019-08-17T06:27:42+00:00

For a more stable emotional self, have you tried fasting ?
Simply drink water and don't eat for 48 - 72 hours, should help your hormones stabilize and be good for your willpower muscle.
Diet plays a huge role in your mental well being.

Project_Zero_Betas · 2019-08-17T02:12:40+00:00

Shittests from girls means they're interested in you, why would this make you angry?

DreamHappy · 2019-08-17T04:37:35+00:00

Avoid like the plague preservatives with all capital letters; BHT, THBQ, BTA. This is in a lot of fast food too.

Meditation, meditation, meditation..... then get in some more meditation. It will eventually install a self controlled kill switch in your head for those intense and unrealistic emotions, so you can identify them and turn them off before they start to blossom.

andrei_tarkovsky_ · 2019-08-17T04:46:21+00:00

Maybe CBD, not sure.

BrodinsOats · 2019-08-17T07:58:54+00:00

Neurofeedback therapy. Expensive and unlikely to be covered by insurance, but very helpful.

umizumiz · 2019-08-17T12:13:09+00:00

It's because a shit test is a sign of interest that, once passed, brings the two of you closer.

I'm sure you can see the problem there.

You must realize that almost everyone is honest with you, trusts you, and aren't the origin of your anger, fear, frustration, abandonment, attachment, etc. They do not think like you do. They do not think "at all", might be an easy way to help you.

When someone cancels a date with you, 99% of the time it's because something came up and not because they are planning on leaving you or fucking you over.

When someone says your shirt collar looks messed up, that's all they mean. They aren't trying to make you feel bad.

Don't conflate YOUR emotions and feelings with OTHERS actions.

Educate yourself on the difference in thinking between BPD and non-BPD individuals, and accept it as truth. And start treating people and interactions with that truth, even if it feels wrong or makes no sense to you.

Good luck, brother.

There are many DBT resources online.

Just don't ever forget that it's YOU who is in the 1%, everyone else doesn't view reality the same as you. Especially on an emotional and interpersonal level.

Much love. You got this. Hope what I said makes sense. It's not hopeless, it's just hard. And there will be no praise for you, because people don't know what it's like.

XXXMersenne · 2019-08-17T17:30:52+00:00

LSD & Alan Watts

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