Girl “wants to get to know me better” online before first date

FixYourselfFirst · 2019-08-19T19:22:51+00:00

Soft next. Spend your time on other girls.

ggggggggee · 2019-08-19T20:01:16+00:00

Soft next. Sounds like she has low interest. Not worth the chase imo.

NathanHollister · 2019-08-19T20:10:07+00:00

She wants a beta orbiter to listen to her stories about work. Next her. Ask a girl out. If she says no, you're done with her.

acp_rdit · 2019-08-19T19:24:20+00:00

Thats the same as no. Soft next and if she contacts you then ask her out again. Repeat as often as necessary.

FereallyRed · 2019-08-19T21:05:11+00:00

She's asking you to qualify yourself to her, to show her you're worthy of her going on a date with you.

Basically the opposite of "you're the prize" mentality, aka beta bait.

Fuck that.

"A date is the best way to get to know someone. Tomorrow at Crazy Sheila's Pub at 4. Wear those earrings you have on in your second pic."

zero0x · 2019-08-19T21:06:17+00:00

She just doesn't finds you attractive and have better guys lined up. You are a backup thats why she wanna be sure.

You can either give into her frame, text back to back, expect her to on go date with you.

Or

Ignore her, she will message you if interested. Abundance is the key.

Remember girls out there are looking for the best match not the right match. This is how the game is.

Jabbermouth · 2019-08-19T22:52:02+00:00

Nexting is ALWAYS the answer here. Trust me as a guy that uses Tinder as my main source of plates (approaching is better, yes I know), these girls are time wasters. There will be plenty of girls willing to get to know you in person. That’s what the date is for anyways.

Move on.

leftajar · 2019-08-19T21:57:42+00:00

"That's the point of the meeting each other."

If she insists, tell her you're busy and stop responding.

le_king_falcon · 2019-08-19T22:26:08+00:00

"thats the entire point of a date" then complete radio silence unless she chooses to agree to a date.

novasoline · 2019-08-20T01:15:54+00:00

Goodbye. Don't waste your time with this goofball. You mean she can't meet at a local Starbucks for a quick face to face.

She's possible a troll or uptight.

PIGamer86 · 2019-08-19T21:56:18+00:00

If you have time for games then your time isn’t valuable.

[deleted] · 2019-08-19T20:49:33+00:00

Same thing happen she said. Was suppose to meet for a date then bitch said she got sick... tried to keep going to get a date but like fuck it

Benny757 · 2019-08-19T23:33:20+00:00

Online app? She’s weighing options. Not the end of the fight, but dudes are so so plentiful. Why not just be honest and say yea, let’s get to know each other. How about just coffee or a drink? Be cool. You are the prize.

sproutgod1776 · 2019-08-20T00:50:04+00:00

she wants to know if you have your own place, what car you drive, and how much you money you make.

WIA20XX · 2019-08-19T20:54:23+00:00

She wants to vet you.

If your profile was muscles and good looks, she doesn't want to get pumped and dumped.

If your profile was just cool, stuff in common, she has you on potential boyfriend track.

Cut her off, or back burner the chick (low priority)

gbnz87 · 2019-08-20T02:29:51+00:00

It is and it isnt. Theres a big risk with a girl meeting a guy that theyve met online. Some girls can be pretty cautious about you until they meet you in person especially if they are new to it. Theres also the chance she could be unsure of you or could very well just be a time waster.

I wouldnt invest a heap of time into it but if shes still responding just id go through some of the basics. You can always ask them again when you are on the date or clarify them.

RedSkeller · 2019-08-20T13:29:07+00:00

Beta bait. No amount of time texting gets you anywhere with anyone. Period.

strpnzo · 2019-08-19T21:52:08+00:00

Translation: I don’t have full confidence in your masculinity.

321gumby · 2019-08-19T22:02:28+00:00

Hey, treat it as if its an ugly girl asking the same thing... You would just fade off fast.

ManLikeMandingo · 2019-08-19T22:19:24+00:00

Contrary to what others are saying ablut skipping, i say u need to converse a bit more online before dropping the date bomb. Women dont rly wanna meet strangers, understandably, bc of a safety risk and a 'creep risk'

HurricaneHugues · 2019-08-20T03:41:16+00:00

Hard next. That's literally what a date is for. All she wants to do is waste your time and have an online date. The more you text before meeting, the more you increase your chances at not meeting. Unmatch and keep it pushing.

As a past ditch effort, if you had just asked her for number to set up the date and she replied with that, write "I think my phone is bugging right now because for some reason im seeing a bunch of words but no digits. Send again".

yungplayz · 2019-08-20T07:15:08+00:00

What the fuck is wrong with y'all Reddit. She just doesn't wanna get raped/robbed/killed/kidnapped and kept hostage/you name it. That's some goddamn common sense here.

Would you lend a $1000 to a dude you met in a facebook group and have a 20 messages long chat history? Why do you expect her to trust you more than you'd trust the said dude, OP and most first level commenters?

KettleLogic · 2019-08-19T22:56:50+00:00

Jesus this is shitty advice. Yes it could be some of what's said. More likely she someone who has hamster wheeled herself to think that she on an app for real connections and she doing that by getting to know them first.

How did you reply to that? Did you make a joke about that being easier in person? Did you agree but counter with a remark about being better funnier when not texting.

Some of the best girls I've gone on dates with said this because they were more selective.

Andgelyo · 2019-08-20T03:12:16+00:00

Agreed. It’s either yes or no. Next. No contact whatsoever.

Lefeudufou · 2019-08-20T06:25:37+00:00

Is this a red flag or something?

This is a trap.

MrScats · 2019-08-20T06:46:48+00:00

My current gf said this to me. Weve been together 4 yrs now. Took 2 months before we met and I was just banging other chicks in the meantime. Just make sure you get her phone number asap.

SICFJC · 2019-08-20T11:21:09+00:00

She doesn’t find you attractive enough. Soft next

Gaidsbola · 2019-08-20T17:39:24+00:00

She’s trying to make you another one of her many orbiters. Next.

TalionTheWorstRanger · 2019-08-19T23:24:23+00:00

She's clearly interested in you, why else would she want to get to know you?

HumbleTrees · 2019-08-20T06:41:20+00:00

She's not qualifying your looks. She's qualifying your bank account or your personality for provider status.

If it was down to how fuckable you are, her mind would be made up by your pics. It's the beta traits she's exploring because you can't stick those on a picture as easily.

I'd reply "that's alright then love. Best of luck on here"

flatox · 2019-08-20T11:06:40+00:00

Waste of time. If you really wanna ho for it, ask then what would be the purpose of going out?

iamdexter12 · 2019-08-19T19:26:12+00:00

This means that she's yet to determine your SMV. Let her know your status (&money) subtly then she will compare that to her threshold.

You can tell her that i.e. You love shopping at " Enter Expensive shop name here" or you will start your LLB course soon, etc

Title	Girl “wants to get to know me better” online before first date
Author	Gavyn8
Upvotes	52
Comments	71
Date	August 19, 2019 7:10 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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