is it better to ask a girl out in person rather than online? or does that make no difference?

RockinSocksII · 2018-09-16T22:33:07+00:00

In person. You can't read personality and other non-physical traits online.

Transmigratory · 2018-09-17T00:05:47+00:00

In person is always better as you can read personality, body language and non-physical traits. However, with dating apps you don't have a choice.

Either way, be good looking and your job is easier on both fronts.

yasee · 2018-09-16T23:31:48+00:00

better in what way? it's easier and lower risk to do it online and definitely expected if you're using tinder or something, but I think it's generally considered more "manly" to do it face to face for whatever that's worth

full disclosure my last bf asked me out online and now we're married

[deleted] · 2018-09-17T02:49:24+00:00

it doesn't matter how you meet the chick, once you're in person, women really like men who can read IOIs and take initiative.

exit_sandman · 2018-09-17T08:41:12+00:00

Online is easier, but you're competing with bazillions of other guys, plenty of them probably more attractive than you (so ultimately not really easier). But hey, OD gave me my first relationships and thus opened up the way for future endeavors, so I won't complain.

prodigy2throw · 2018-09-17T09:05:24+00:00

Does not matter. If she wants to fuck you can send her a note on a fucking Harry Potter owl

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[deleted] · 2018-09-17T00:52:04+00:00

Online if your at work and playing on your phone. Otherwise probably in person

askmrcia · 2018-09-17T03:02:25+00:00

Depends. I'm Starting to think it doesn't matter. I personally asked quite a few women out in person this year only for them to flake and find that they were on tinder.

What I'm getting at is I don't think it makes that much of a difference.

The only time asking out in person is better is if they are in your social circle and you actually built up some rapport overtime.

NatureSaysNo · 2018-09-17T05:43:31+00:00

Depends on the age gap. I recommend doing it in person, that way both parties are aware that neither of them are being groomed.

simcity4000 · 2018-09-17T16:26:06+00:00

Its far, far better to make first impression irl that online. As to how you ask her out that doesent matter though.

ExistentialLiberty · 2018-09-17T17:55:14+00:00

Depends on what you mean by "asking her out". Do you mean on a date? To officially date someone? To hang out? If you mean asking her out to meet up for a date in real life, it makes no difference. If you mean online dating, there is obviously a huge difference. If you mean to meet up to officially date someone after first meeting up with that person in real life, there is a big difference because online is different than real life (ofc) so you never really know how that person really is or if that person was pretending to be someone they aren't.

Goodgirl1998 · 2018-09-18T06:55:14+00:00

Things have changed a lot these days

atlantic68 · 2018-09-16T22:45:01+00:00

online 700 other dudes are messaging her at the same time, in person theres only you (atleast for the moment)

Aufbruch · 2018-09-17T07:46:29+00:00

It really shouldn't make any difference. If she's into you, and you ask "hey, do you wanna go see a movie on saturday?/ Get coffee on Wednesday?/ Etc" she'll probably say yes. And if she's not into you, she'll probably say "No", and not suggest alternative times.

If you're pursuing a girl who's on the shy-side, asking this online or via a text might actually be preferable, really.

killallthenarcs · 2018-09-16T22:43:45+00:00

I don't think this is one of those things where comparison works that way? I mean obviously the girls that are online are there, checking their social media and dating apps as regular as they've each decided they should. And the girls that take a walk down the street to the local cafe are there as regular as they've decided they should be. And the girls who go out to bars, the girls who like to dance, the girls who go to meetups of various sorts etc. They are doing all this different stuff. And then you've got your life and the amount of time you've got to spend isn't all uniformly the same sort of time any more than the girls' time is the same sort of time. So there's going to be time you can spend online and time you can spend in person and time that could go either way. And a lot of the girls can only be found by you in limited ways because they are off doing stuff you aren't into or haven't found out about yet.

Really it isn't that one is better than the other, it is that they are different? Meet slightly different people, in slightly different environments, with slightly different outlays of time and resources involved.

Title	is it better to ask a girl out in person rather than online? or does that make no difference?
Author	Illousiouns
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Comments	33
Date	September 16, 2018 10:27 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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