How do you resolve your cognitive dissonance with TRP?

cocaine_face · 2014-12-09T17:30:15+00:00

Would she be doing the same thing for you if you needed it?

TRP doesn't say, "don't have friends". Honestly, I don't feel it even says don't have female friends (though I largely agree with and can definitely understand men who hold that position).

The question is - is this friendship equal? It sounds like you're her friend because you would feel bad if someone abandoned you, and because you want to fuck her. But the question really is - would she abandon you if she got no value out of you? Do you get value out of her too (besides a vague desire to fuck her)?

You've got a limited lifespan and if the friendship isn't equal, you're treating her lifespan as more important than yours.

If it's an equal friendship, feel free to continue on, but my guess is that you're her orbiter, and all you want to do is fuck her. In that case, you're both using each other, she's just more effective at it than you.

tombreck2 · 2014-12-09T17:05:29+00:00

I couldn't help but feel it was immoral not to comfort her or be a good friend

[Fixed] I couldn't help but feel it was immoral not to comfort her or be a good orbiter.

getomc · 2014-12-09T17:07:11+00:00

Morals re lessons learned. What's the fucking moral of this story, now?

You've already answered the question in your original post. Success at following new paths and habits from new morals will reaffirm them and thus reduce the stress as psuedomorals and conditioning weaken.

shebrokemintopieces · 2014-12-09T22:43:01+00:00

New to TRP, but one of the things I have noted in my past, is that I have had a lot of female friends. I def fell into the catagory of orbiter on a few of those friendships. Most of them just wanted to vent about their shitty life problems, & I just listened, cuz thats what friends are for. NOPE WRONG. thats a gateway to get used in all aspects. Favors, emotional baggage getting dumped on you. If you know the homie they are talking about it's WAY to much TMI, Also complete boner kill when a broad is sobbing to you about her life.

I've just ignored and distanced myself from all of my female non sexual friendships which at this point is all of them since i got oneitis. I literally have no interest in maintaining any kind of communication with a woman I am not fucking, wanting to fuck, have a chance to fuck etc.. They gossip, & cock blockl all the fucking time. Not all dudes are that much better, some are just as fucked as these broads are.

Philhelm · 2014-12-09T17:14:40+00:00

I would imagine that there are many people here who are bitter about women, or have had a bitter stage at some point. Tap into that bitterness and realize that if she's not going to care about your feelings by slobbing your knob, then you shouldn't give a damn about her feelings. Furthermore, you should realize that women are literally trying to use most men in their lives. Be prideful and don't allow that to happen to you. There is no real conflict, since in a truly moral world she would slob your knob in exchange for your valuable time and support.

Oakland_dude · 2014-12-10T07:38:08+00:00

You need to decide if you want to be friends with someone or if you want to fuck them. This is what determines your relationship. If you decide you want to put your dick in her, the immoral thing to do would be to make her think otherwise. Conversely if you want to be friends, and that is your priority, you can forget about fucking. I'm not sure why you would want a platonic relationship with a woman, but that's a personal preference issue.

[deleted] · 2014-12-10T04:48:21+00:00

TRP is amoral. It just is, it even says it in the sidebar. It's up to you to figure out how to use the info, and I think that breaking frame here was the right thing to do. Go ahead, call me beta, but OP was lookin out. He knows what's up. Just don't take it too far and make sure to withdraw from the "comforting friend" position after this all blows over.

Title	How do you resolve your cognitive dissonance with TRP?
Author	zudomo
Upvotes	1
Comments	10
Date	December 9, 2014 4:57 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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