Q4all: sexually fantasizing your SO is healthy for your relationship

Pope_Lucious · 2018-08-20T06:53:39+00:00

This article could be retitled

“People who like boning each other stay together longer than people who do not.”

Yea there are significant emotional/sexual benefits to having sex with the same person over time. This will lead to fantasizing.

[deleted] · 2018-08-20T09:01:45+00:00

I agree totally, and there's a cringe element to it because this made me immediately think of when me and my husband broke up when we were dating. I went full scorched earth and probably would've banged anyone and everyone because I was just that salty...but I couldn't do it. Not even close to it, a guy would say something I could never picture him saying and it was like a shamwow right to the vagina. Didn't make me happy either, I was pissed to still think of him. Really pissed. The fantasy not having an outlet makes one a very unpleasant person to be around.

But hey it's a good thing now! These fantasies are probably best when expressed so turning into a giant prude if living together or married is likely a great way to get yourself sidelined in the fantasy realm, if not outright at some point. Personally I did not get married to act like a virgin who experienced the miracle of immaculate conception twice, so he can bring it. As long as it's not scat play, that's a very hard no. With some mouth puke.

"Study 3 aimed at exploring whether these effects would apply in settings that are more natural. To do so, both members of romantic couples completed a daily diary for three weeks in which they independently described their sexual fantasies immediately after every occasion in which they experienced them. In addition, they reported on the positive and negative behaviors that characterized their relationship on that day (e.g., “I told my partner I loved him/her”; “I criticized my partner”) every evening for 21 days. The findings revealed that participants were more likely to engage in relationship-promoting behaviors, such as complimenting their partners and acting considerately towards them, following sexually fantasizing about them. Sexually fantasizing about someone else, by comparison, was not associated with engaging in either relationship-promoting or relationship-damaging behaviors."

The part in bold makes me glad I don't care about porn. I can see why people would, but I just don't have the energy to spare for it or worrying about every woman who isn't me for that matter.

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poppy_blu · 2018-08-20T12:15:08+00:00

Do you mean sexually fantasizing about other people?

Skratt · 2018-08-20T03:50:14+00:00

Guys fantasize about other women, and watch porn, containing hotter women.

Who wants to fantasize about the same bitch they've boned 100 times.

SirNemesis · 2018-08-20T03:55:16+00:00

Participants in the dyadic fantasy condition expressed greater desire to engage in sex with their partners and to do something that would make them happy compared to participants in the extradyadic fantasy condition.

So fantasizing about your wife makes you into a beta who wants to make your wife happy and is frustrated by the (in)frequency of sex?

hammerhaunts · 2018-08-20T04:34:46+00:00

I will love to see the nuts at r/science try and rationalize how consent makes this all non objectifying

Title	Q4all: sexually fantasizing your SO is healthy for your relationship
Author	i_have_a_semicolon
Upvotes	6
Comments	24
Date	August 20, 2018 3:39 AM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/PurplePillDebate
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