Hello brothers,

I am newly divorced (thankfully not divorce raped) , you can check my post history for more info.

I am 30, overweight but dieting (keto) and hitting the gym (biking and stronglifts 5x5),in a new country with zero friends/family.

Due to several facts, I will be let go from my job next month, but I have some cash on the side that can support me for some time. I know this is a hard time (lost wife/most of friends/job/new in a country without support) I am choosing to look at the bright side, and build my life so that by the time I am 40, I am the man I always wanted to be. I have only 10 years.

My current plan is:

1) focus mainly on my body, shed all the weight, become MUCH more serious about dieting and exercising (sadly, I am lazy and undisciplined, which I am changing)

2) focus on sharpening my social skills and street smarts. I believe this is my number 1 problem in life, I alienated friends and lovers alike, and I would like to build a powerful support network, both personally and professionally.

3) focus on finding a job/career/mission I love. I have a career in software, but I hate what I am currently doing and I am not the best at it. Will take some time to figure out what I can enjoy AND would net me a high income.

This is my current plan, as I came out from a terrible time with a great new outlook to life, and I plan to make the most out of it.

You will find that women aren't a part of it, but sadly I need a release to my sexual tension. I thought about paying for it but the idea turns me off greatly.

Please, critique my plan, offer any advise or suggestions.

Thanks.