Q4Both: Ever given a friend or family member advice from the opposite pill's playbook? How'd it go?

Katniss_Granger · 2015-10-29T09:30:32+00:00

I end up quite frequently giving BP advice to friends because they don't want advice, they want comfort and validation and to know that they should be "loved for who they are." If I thought they wanted actual help and not just a chance to vent then I'd sprinkle a little RPW over them.

DrunkGirl69 · 2015-10-29T03:27:12+00:00

My sister used to be extremely nervous talking to guys (as did I) and I told her what worked for me: basically you just gotta pretend / talk yourself into believing that you don't care about him. That was the only way that I personally could work myself up to saying more than 2 words to a guy I liked. I'm not sure how it worked for her specifically at the time but she's very comfortable with guys now.

It kind of reminds me of red pill, with "don't put the pussy on a pedestal" and I get the sense that a lot of their advice is kind of similar, like saying, it's easier to talk to girls if you don't care about them?

But I know mine doesn't count as red pill because it was advice for a girl.

exit_sandman · 2015-10-29T09:57:22+00:00

Sure. Constantly when I was BP myself, though I doubt that really counts. But still!

Most memorable case: a friend of mine who was in a rough spot with his GF (he had a habit of putting her too much on a pedestal) and when another girl hit on him, and he was seriously contemplating to do both. Apart from petty jealousy on my part, I also considered it inconceivable how he could do such a shitty thing, and therefore convinced him that the very least he owed to his girlfriend was telling her.

How did it turn out? Well, he told her that he wasn't so sure anymore and who hit on him, she broke down and he realized that he still loved her :aaaw: (or he was just sufficiently guilt-tripped) and ultimately stayed with her. The sex they had immediately after that must have been awesome, but afterwards he fell back into his "you're too good to me"-routine. Which, combined with her resentment that hasn't just magically gone away, compelled her a few months later to break up with him after having secured a branch she could swing to.

Other than that, particularly after not being a bloop anymore? No, not really.

DaThrowaway808 · 2015-10-29T02:15:38+00:00

"Just be yourself" - I blend in seamlessly

FirionDarklight · 2015-10-29T11:40:55+00:00

On female friends ,that aren't lesbians, I give the typical ego stroking BP soundbites that make them feel good since they don't really want advice but rather to talk and vent. In their case not much changed even when I actually attempted to help them. Because they didn't want a solution. Like that one where i advised here to be less dependent on her crush lest he runs away. She didn't listen and he is gone.

On male friends it is a mix with a tendency to red, no punches pulled. Tough love. In their case, there has been actual improvement. Like that friend who started working out and went from fat neckbeard loser to decent guy with a girlfriend.

prodigy2throw · 2015-10-29T03:22:18+00:00

A friend of mine kept texting cute shit to a girl he wanted to date and wasn't getting results. I took his phone for the day and texted pretending to be him.

All it took was 24 hours of radio silence and about 5 texts and they had a date setup. He fucked it up on the date presumably because he never heard from her again. I can't do everything for the guy.

Edit: didn't read the question properly. Oops

alreadyredschool · 2015-10-29T02:44:44+00:00

I never give advice to other people INR unless they ask, no matter how miserable they are. The most I said was when I told my brother about a year after his break up to just get a girl, he doesn't need a bestfriend/model/girlfriend/philosophe, well now he has a bestfriend/GF/philosophe.

wub1234 · 2015-10-29T10:20:40+00:00

I try not to advise people unless they ask because there are all kinds of problems with advice, not least that it is very rarely put into practice.

NalkaNalka · 2015-10-29T02:52:51+00:00

I have given both actually. More red advice than blue though since the average guy more commonly needs to be more assertive than less. On the other hand I have given some friends blue pill advice to tone it down a bit since they were too far to the asshole side.

I have probably given out more support than actual advice tbh.

exit_sandman · 2015-10-29T08:20:45+00:00

I have told a male friend of mine to take care of his appearance and stop being clingy and desperate , does that count ?

[deleted] · 2015-10-29T09:32:13+00:00

Nothing exclusively TRP but some mainstream stuff that TRP agrees with, get a hobby, a job, actually talk to women, don't be a doormat and get fit. I used a few connections to get the CV in the door and prepped him for the interview, but the rest was all him. It went well, he's not exactly fit, but he's not fat anymore and he seems pretty happy with his gf. Also figure out what the fuck you want.

HalfysReddit · 2015-10-29T11:11:54+00:00

Nah, if I don't feel comfortable saying what I want to say (for example, because it will be taken badly by the audience) I just don't say shit.

Title	Q4Both: Ever given a friend or family member advice from the opposite pill's playbook? How'd it go?
Author	planejane
Upvotes	4
Comments	37
Date	October 29, 2015 2:10 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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