How to STFU without feeling compromised?

misscleanex · 2019-10-20T17:52:14+00:00

We can't gauge much because there isn't enough details, but I can say this is probably the wrong situation to use STFU.

Only thing I can certainly say is: don't marry into a dead bedroom.

Has there been any changes to his or your life causing undo stress? How long have you been together? Are you cohabitating? Is he watching porn? Have either of you had your hormones/blood tests done? What things do you think could be contributing to the decline of sex frequency? Do you have busy lives outside of your relationship? Do you both work out regularly? Are there health problems? Have either of you gained weight? We need more details because a decline in sexual contact doesn't have a one size fits all solution.

waa7389 · 2019-10-20T18:03:44+00:00

Yes I was going to ask, is he watching porn behind your back? This can be a relationship/sex destroyer for many couples. If he is choosing this route over being with you, there is a major problem. Especially if you express deep interest in wanting a better sex life with him. I’ve expressed to my boyfriend many times that I need him to choose us over porn or I won’t be able to continue the relationship. Sexual intimacy is way too important to be quiet about this.

ItWasBrokenAlready · 2019-10-20T20:03:12+00:00

I don't recommend marrying that man. Realistically speaking, you won't turn into a libodoless saint. 5 years from now, you're likely be having sex with some man, and it probably won't be this guy, whether you marry him or not.

Slay_Like_Buffy · 2019-10-21T12:53:03+00:00

Is he addicted to porn? sex isn’t something you should STFU about because it’s an issue that can lead to divorce, infidelity, or overall resentment. Be very honest with yourself on if it’s a deal breaker or not before you walk down the aisle. The goal is to be happily married not married and divorced.

paragondream · 2019-10-24T17:29:18+00:00

Ask him if you can watch next time and ask him to teach you how to touch him in the ways that bring him enjoyment.

Yoshino-tan · 2019-10-22T00:23:25+00:00

Has he got himself checked? Maybe his hormones are out of the ordinary.

I don't really get it though. He just declines whenever you start to engage in sex? Doesn't he give you some kind of information like 'I don't feel like it/I'm tired/I'm not in the mood/I feel unsexy/I'm sad' or does he have problems with obtaining an erection or keeping one? Where does the problem start?

I feel like this is a topic that's needs to be discussed to utmost detail within a couple. It's the most intimate conversation one can have.

gimpgirl555 · 2019-10-20T20:01:36+00:00

My guess is that you're not sexy to him. It could be anything: it could be your looks, your weight, the way you dress, the way you act, that you seem generally non-sexual.
Maybe you could ask him to show you what kind of women turn him on, and then you could be more like that.

Title	How to STFU without feeling compromised?
Author	hellokaytee
Upvotes	8
Comments	18
Date	October 20, 2019 5:34 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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