Just starting here; advice for situation

TheRedPike · 2019-10-30T15:42:31+00:00

Step one: read the fucking rules.

DerDroogie · 2019-10-30T14:21:53+00:00

You have two options here. A) Seek to understand her as she presents herself. Guess what: it’s all your fault, you forced her to cheat. You spend the next few years being insecure. The hate builds. You pine for her and what might have been. We call this BLUE pill option.

B) show up. Don’t get mad. Don’t ask for closure from her nor give her closure. Do NOT ask details. She’s part of your history now. Look at her and count your blessings that you didn’t get saddled with that shit for the rest of your life. If she’s like this now, imagine the hell your life would be in 10 years. Then leave, block her. Self improve. Enjoy life. This is the RED pill option

Your choice Neo.

truest22 · 2019-10-30T14:42:29+00:00

Unless you HAVE to meet with her (rent/legal arrangements etc) don’t. No need to water a dead plant

huggyblossom · 2019-10-30T14:40:01+00:00

Why you would meed up with her? She cheated you, she disrespected you and your trust, feelings only to go and have sex with much older man with cash to a nice weekend.

If you want to go through the misery of meeting her it's your choice. Nothing good will be done, since she cheated you and you joined here to seek advise. The advise is to move on, block her and forget she was a friend - a friend doesn't betray your trust! And she was more - she was a lover and she betrayed you twice with that. It's not worth it, you won't rebuild or achieve anything. What is done is done - continue with your live and don't give her free value from a meeting.

Your brain is wired to seek comfort and to be lazy. Your synapses suffer from the fact she cheated and there will be change. Your whole being is trying to betray you - I can bet you any amount you had the thought and the urge to fix the things with her, you thought that one more meeting can change something, Do not be weak, start to read the basics here and learn why you made the bad choices. You have a new world in front of you to explore.

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MindlessCalendar · 2019-10-30T14:44:08+00:00

Your first step is deleting this post. Questions go on the askTRP sub. Not here .Don't be lazy and read the rules before posting.

Your second step is googling and reading these two things:

Red Pill Handbook 2nd edition PDF
Ask TRP sidebar PDF

Those are the basics of TRP. You start there.

Unlikely_Composer · 2019-10-30T15:33:25+00:00

She cheated on you. Why are you even still talking to her? I get that it’s hard when you get force-fed a red pill that big, but if you just embrace it your life will become so much better.

You cannot gain anything from meeting her, so don’t. It’s really that simple.

I mean what are you expecting?

An apology? Guess what - I’ve been there, it doesn’t change anything.

Sex? Been there. Don’t.

An explanation? Been there. There isn’t one that you’ll ever accept.

Validation? Been there. You won’t get it.

Wanna know all the details? Been there. It’ll fill you with a rage you won’t be able to control and put you on the path of the blackpill. Don’t.

Wanna know what this guy has that you don’t? He had a dick when she wanted one and you weren’t around.

She didn’t love you, she never will, she won’t change, she’s still fucking that other guy, she wants to keep you around as backup.

There you go. You don’t need to meet her now, I’ve already told you everything you’ll find out.

Lift more weights, get more plates.

Best of luck, UC

krowitz · 2019-10-30T15:33:25+00:00

questions / advice go to askTRP. im here anyway, so ill help you out before this gets moved/removed.

if the reason you are meeting her is for rent/lease arrangements or talk about things you want to get back from the apartment, then, sure go ahead. but DO NOT TALK ABOUT THE RELATIONSHIP with her. do not fight, do not ask questions, nothing. your business and politely leave, and wish her well. (before she gets ideas of you harassing her etc)

now, if that's not the reason, then let me tell you this. this is not one final conversation. the only thing to gain with this meet is more questions. and you will never get the full truth. trickle truth, they call it. you will never get any reason that makes sense. nothing she will say will ever be good enough for you. and you will react. and you will say things or do things you will regret later.

you are at a crossroads here.

you can talk to her, open up about your feelings, promise to be better, promise the world to her whatever. you will put in 'work' to fix this relationship. who knows, maybe she will agree. but even if you did, this event will always surface. this will eat you up inside. this will always put you on guard and be worried everytime she goes to work. now, if you want that, go ahead.

or you can use this experience to understand the nature of women and things in general. you can learn to accept, and find your way through. then you'll be able to love women for what they are and not what you expect them to be.

so where do you go from here? on top of my head, lift, eat clean, stay healthy, dress better, learn skills, master your line of work/expertise, save money, read books, find hobbies, find passions. learn how to manufacture the feeling of aliveness on your own.

when you get there, you would realize that whatever friday holds for you, doesn't really matter.

it is okay to be sad, we are still human after all. what's not okay is to stop moving. life goes on, you just gotta keep moving.

good luck. hope you get through it. this is a blessing and a curse at the same time.

Title	Just starting here; advice for situation
Author	INAPICTTAA
Upvotes	1
Comments	14
Date	October 30, 2019 2:11 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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