Crumbling after break up

AscensionExperiments · 2019-11-20T04:40:42+00:00

Easy there champ. It's your first relationship- the break up is always gonna be tough. To be honest I'm surprised it's your first break up at 27, but that doesn't matter.

You need something to snap you out of the pity party. Don't forget that life existed before her, and it'll be just fine without her- you just want her madly now because you can't have her. I mean, you fucked two other chicks while you were with her, so how great could she really have been? Fuck it, man. Dry your lil baby eyes, call a buddy, have some beers, have some fun. Fuck someone else- and you'll have forgotten the pain within a couple days.

Also, obligatory: sidebar, gym, lawyer, kill mark zuckerberg with your bare hands, all that shit

volvostupidshit · 2019-11-20T08:01:57+00:00

Next time you dump a girl, make sure you wont come crawling back.

Kobinks · 2019-11-20T04:39:14+00:00

Just think about how many dicks she's had in those 2 months...

Could be double figures...

Now stop being a massive fucking wetwipe and act like an adult.

Acting like a little bitch isn't attractive and it isn't helpful, you won't get any sympathy here.

Just keep improving yourself and start gaming new girls, eventually you'll forget about her.

Lateralanouncer · 2019-11-20T05:20:16+00:00

Get a tub of ice cream and binge on Bridget Jones’s diary’s. Seriously some woman can get stuck in your head and you may never fully get over her. Accept that and move on. Once you upgrade you will be happy.

drevil_ · 2019-11-20T13:10:42+00:00

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MattyAnon · 2019-11-20T13:59:36+00:00

I miss her so much now

You have oneitis.

I prescribe 3 girls a week for four weeks, come back here if you don't feel better.

I’m starting to crumble after I spoke to her yesterday and she told me it’s over for good.

You got yourself into a weak ass position where you are emotionally dependent on her. This is pathetic, don't do it again.

This was my first serious relAtionship. I’m so broken now. H

And this is the problem with relationships: men put everything into them and when they end you are used up and broken.

Don't make this mistake again. All relationships end, treat them accordingly.

~~how the fuck do I stop being a pussy~~ How the fuck do I feel better and stop being so emotional.

Get on with things, build your own life and your own independence, and if that's painful and difficult without her, DO IT ANYWAY.

. Is it normal to second guess the fuck out of yourself after something like this?

Yes, because you let your pussy-ass get dependent on her.

I’m 27 and we dated a year and a half. Honestly guys I feel like this is the darkest time I’ve ever had in my life. I am struggling mightily

Struggling is ok. Keep struggling. Keep trying. The pain will fade and you'll find other girls and you'll care less because you SHOULD care less.

Don't put everything into your next girl. Women don't respect it, being dependent is below even beta-providers in terms of attractiveness.

punchturret · 2019-11-20T04:39:04+00:00

What about her do you miss that no other girl can provide?

trele_morele · 2019-11-20T05:30:25+00:00

The struggle is essential to your future development. Grit your teeth and press on.

Gr33d3ater · 2019-11-20T07:28:27+00:00

I’ve been single for a year and I’ve never had a better combination of happy and more relaxed when I’m in a relationship than when I’m single. Now you can relax, play some video games and take it easy. No more worrying about getting caught cheating, no more ignoring the yapping and nagging and shit tests, no more dumb arguments over “feelings” that are completely illogical. No more “that time of the month” fights. Don’t take them at for granted, having 6 months in a row without 6 periods of high stress and emotion is invaluable to male development.

AnneStaz · 2019-11-20T10:46:12+00:00

Ouch dude, I remember my first relationship ending. I broke up with her but wanted back and yeah same shit. I didn't sleep for 48 hours until I drank a case of beer and blacked out... woke up and slept, but didn't get any actual rest. It was rough getting back to square one so I feel you dude.

What helped me was just time honestly. Try to keep your sanity, go out there and meet new people, and enjoy being single. Doesn't mean you have to go on a "get laid bender" just go meet others. Go to the bar, talk, socialize, get involved in meetup/facebook groups, whatever it is just force yourself out there.

Seems like you've got a decent head on your shoulders asking for advice and you want it to get better, it will trust me.

failed_singingcareer · 2019-11-21T08:04:53+00:00

It's all relative. If you REALLY wanted to she'd come crawling back to you if you upped your game and became a 10x better version of yourself.

But you're not gonna get there making posts like this and worrying the way you are right now.

So get to it.

Title	Crumbling after break up
Author	drevil_
Upvotes	12
Comments	30
Date	November 20, 2019 4:20 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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